Our feederish HS is very well organized, with lots of events and reminders and so on to keep the kids on track.
In terms of generating a list, they use Kickstart and SCOIR. Kickstart is supposed to be a sort of working list, and it automatically categorizes colleges as likely, target, reach, or unlikely. It also suggests if they think you need more or less of anything, and explains your early options based on your current list order. Kickstart is really supposed to be used primarily by the kid.
SCOIR initially is more of an investigation tool with basic information about the colleges and also scattergrams using actual data from past applicants from our high school. With SCOIR, parents actually get a separate account, and it can be used to “suggest” colleges to the kid. The counselors can also suggest colleges. The kid can then move suggested colleges to Not Interested, or upgrade them to Following. Eventually, if they make the final cut, the kid is supposed to move them to Applying, which signals to Counseling they have to send the relevant materials. And then the kids move them to Applied when they actually apply, and then when they get outcomes they also report those (and that presumably becomes data for later years).
Phew. OK, so that system really puts the kids at least formally in charge in that only they are supposed to be playing with lists on Kickstart or moving colleges off Suggested on SCOIR. Informally, S24 was definitely interested in getting our input in addition to talking with his counselors, and his peers (we had a lot of conversations about how his friends were NOT his actual college counselors).
In our case, I think his counselor and I were pretty well aligned in terms of what we thought were good ideas for him to consider–I certainly thought all her idea were at least interesting. But over time he made it clear he had certain boundaries which of course we respected and did not keep suggesting schools outside those boundaries.
I think maybe my biggest role was in scheduling visits. I tried to at least get a good sampling and also do any he specifically requested, But he ended up applying to some we didn’t visit, and I suspect we could have kept finding more possibilities with more visits. But we all agreed you have to accept enough is enough at a certain point.
During visits he definitely learned more about different things he liked or didn’t like, and it informed my additional suggestions and visit priorities, along with whether he upgraded or downgraded colleges on his working lists. We always talked after visits and he would ask my impressions, but probably to his annoyance while I might talk about a few things briefly, I would mostly turn it back on him.
OK, then at the very end, I thought he had a certain working list and was going to make some final cuts from it to get it to the originally-discussed length. But after getting deferred from his REA and talking to friends, he not only made fewer cuts than expected but actually added some colleges, which ended up with a longer list than I had expected.
Phew again. I guess long story short, he very much made all the decisions. I made suggestions, helped organize his process in terms of visits, talked about things as invited, and so on. But all that was really just in support of him learning what he liked and which colleges made sense given those preferences.