<p>Just wanna say, Shaw, nice of you to book the beach for us all. The bus will swing by to pick everyone up in a truly magic feat, and we’ll be ready for cocktails by seven :)</p>
<p>I’m going to NYC this weekend but will be ready with my beach bag on Monday. The bus knows where to find me.</p>
<p>I think if we all looked at our very extended families/people we knew we can find some wild stories. Nothing much shocks me anymore. Upsets me, disgusts me, yes.</p>
<p>Congrats to woody D and good luck to moda’s S.</p>
<p>I’m rushing to get a deal closed, but I think we should start one of those stories where everyone adds a sentence, with the rule that all the sordid details had to have actually happened to a member of our extended family, or one of the neighbors on our block. The names can be changed to protect the Sleazy.</p>
<p>mp, I’m in. We will need some code words to keep it clean enough to stay here.
Rumor has it that we may see this big ball of fire in the sky. Many of us will be slightly uneasy as the unusual gloom will not be around to protect us.</p>
<p>I am in too.
and Shaw thanks for the invite! I will be ready for the bus.</p>
<p>I think we’d need to allow more than a sentence, unless we allow for really long run on sentences which I am perfectly capable of doing because I have a tendency to lean that way anyway due to my copious need to never take a breath in an effort for my family to actually hear what I said at the beginning, which in this case is the need of perhaps longer than a sentence. :)</p>
<p>So… I think S is flying to NY next week for a face-to-face. He seems very excited by the opportunity but he’s in a bit of pickle/panic because he told the scribe position he’d tell them tomorrow. While I think he should just explain the situation to say he is clearly interested but this other opportunity is just unique enough that he’d like to see it through. If that means he needs to turn down their offer, he is willing to do that but would prefer if he could defer to their next round (which they already told him would likely be in a few months). H thinks he should say yes to the scribe and then if NY comes to be something he wants to do then he can withdraw. I think that’s bad form. </p>
<p>But over and beyond that, the MCATs are next Saturday (not this weekend, but next). He sounded kind of stressed talking about how he’d be able to study on the plane, etc. I just hope they 1) pay for the flight and 2) it’s direct. He only spoke with the office coordinator who said that the Sr Associate would call him to set it up. But he really is in no position to fly short notice like that. They get that, right? :)</p>
<p>Mod–your S’s practice tests are stellar and he friggin needs to chill. I do agree with your H on this one. Just do. However, he does need to defer traveling until the MCATs are over.</p>
<p>S must have the more aggressive surgery with 3 days in patient. It seems that it is genetic and so hopefully, so they say, will not be the same with the other lung.</p>
<p>They had wanted the original surgeon here to do it and would travel down (4 hours) but he is on vacation for 10 days and this is more urgent. He offered to arrange a colleague but they decided on the surgeon near them.
SO! H is, true to his spirit, unsure if he will take off from his work (yes, has family leave. and YES is actually retiring at the end of May after 35 years of completely (as in never took off for the family unless under duress from me) and is still “unsure” if he needs to be there.
Our uncommunicative 23 yr old called him 3 times today.
GRRRR
I finally decided that I AM GOING and he can do whatever he needs to do…</p>
<p>H expressed shock just now when I mentioned that I have 4! nights ($420 total dollars with breakfast so really?) reserved.
talk me down! as I have very poor feelings toward him in this moment.
Hope he enjoys his lonely retirement.</p>
<p>I’m glad you decided to go, oregon, even if your H doesn’t get it. I’m sure your son and daughter-in-law will appreciate you being there (and an extra pair of hands with the baby). I hope the surgery goes well and he recovers quickly - I have an uncommunicative 23 year old too. </p>
<p>Sending hope for healing!</p>
<p>Thanks so very much TS.
I will need to move a few clients and ENT appointment as well as a sleep study, both!!!that I could not keep the original appointments as H was in the hospital at those appointment times with his complicated gall bladder surgery. So now I am months out.
I can wait but I will do what I feel our S needs.
I will most likely feel calmer tomorrow. Right now I am planning on calling my clients in the morning and rescheduling them and then emailing my docs and ask what they might do for me.
I am also not going to discuss this again with H other to mention that I will be leaving at such and such time.</p>
<p>Oregon - hope everything goes well. I’m with you and would go. I would probably also guilt H into it as well but that is me. :)</p>
<p>Well S is “official”. He was admitted into the NYS Bar Association yesterday.</p>
<p>Good luck to your son with his surgery, oregon101. And glad you can be there. I’m sure they will appreciate your presence.</p>
<p>Congratulations to your son, RM!</p>
<p>And good luck to your son with his interview, Moda.</p>
<p>RM, congrats to your S on his admission to the NY bar. Huge accomplishment.</p>
<p>oregon101, so sorry to hear about the need for surgery but glad you will be there with your S and DIL. I hope your H will end up going as well and the procedure goes smoothly. </p>
<p>Moda, to recap, your S is hesitant about the scribe position because it wouldnt pay enough for him to have his own apartment, he likes the idea of living in NYC (in part to be closer to his gf), and he wants something more outside the box. He is inclined to take the scribe job because its a bird in hand and it will help with med school acceptances, which remains his top priority. The start-up job forces him to move away from home, regardless of what the job pays, and living in NYC and working at a start-up will stretch him in ways he wont be stretched by the scribe job. The start-up opportunity sounds intrinsically more exciting to him. </p>
<p>He is ready for the MCAT, so Im not sure why he cant fly to NY next week. Does he know if any other candidates are under consideration for the start-up and if asking for a delay in his interview date would hurt him? Has he decided on the minimum salary he needs to take a job in NYC? Is asking for the later intake date for the scribe job still officially accepting the position? Good luck as he navigates all this.</p>
<p>oregon…So glad you will be there to support your S and his family. They will need some help as they deal with the stress and logistics of the surgery. Hugs to you!</p>
<p>RM…HOORAY! What a happy time! Congrats to all again!</p>
<p>Moda… He will do fine on the MCAT. I guess I would wonder when he wants to begin med school. Will the startup allow him to be there for a short time or do they want him to commit for a longer period of time? </p>
<p>D2 is home and enjoyed her time at the training session. She especially liked the stretch limo ride that was arranged to get a few of the interns to the airport. ;)</p>
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<p>My deal still hasn’t closed, so I have little time. So, ditto, ditto, ditto, ditto and ditto to the above. And a “cool” to NM D on the limosine ride.</p>
<p>My issue du jour is that younger D’s senior yearbook ad is due today and I am racking my brain to figure out what the text should say. The parents typically say how proud they are of their kids and what a great future lies in store. No problem being sincere in Son’s and older D’s ads. But younger D is being such a self centered little idiot these days. How’s this:</p>
<p>My treasured daughter, as you find your own path in the future, just know that if your path finds you dropping out of college to hook up with some loser, your father and I will not ruin our retirement to give you money.</p>
<p>Think they’d print that?</p>
<p>Seriously, since y’all were so helpful with my Christmas letter, feel free to give it a shot.</p>
<p>Missypie, tee Hee. I restrained myself from saying too much in the yearbook message and now sorta wish I had just said ‘we love you’ and thanks to all (that part I did say).</p>
<p>Congrats on all of the steps forward, and best wishes for everyone else.</p>
<p>My cousin and Dad agreed this week to begin hospice care for my aunt, so sad about that, but glad that she has made her last trip to the hospital. Dad has consistently made every other day trips to her nursing home but had a recurrence of his dizzy spells, and my sibs are both quite sick with lingering colds/infections, so I am driving him around, but I live an hour from him and it continues to snow on and off, soi can’t be there every day.</p>
<p>This is turning into a long winter! 14 degrees now…</p>
<p>RM - congrats to you S and the bar! Woot woot! So, does he wish to help me sue my neighbor for cutting down our privacy? Our realtor says it hurts us considerably… :(</p>
<p>Missy - what you risk is her seeing anything TOO different from her siblings as your liking them more. Note I didn’t use the word love. I don’t think deep down kids think you LOVE another child more, but it is clear that depending on the day, we certainly LIKE one more. This said… You could say something about her independence, tenacity/conviction that combined with her resiliency and good heart leaves you certain she will help her find a successful path that is truly her own. And yes, I think saying something about always loving them is important. I think when kids give us angst, they stop hearing it or believing it. Nice to have it in writing.</p>
<p>There was a book on S’s school history that I bought him at graduation and I secretly had a list of all his favorite teachers sign it as a sort of yearbook. He read it the other night and I think he found it all very inspiring in a very different way. But mostly they all had a common theme of confidence in his abilities and that his curiosity in general would take him far in life.</p>
<p>Yeah, not sure why going to NY next week is important to this firm when he’s going there AFTER the MCAT for nearly 10 days (with a side trip to his alma mater for some alumni something). Honestly, I gave my opinion and will likely offer something again, but at this point, he’s taking another practice test and going over the last three he’s taken to see if he’s missing the same “type” of questions and studying those. He has his mind SET and earning anything less than a 36 will likely totally tick him off. He tends to be wound tightly, a tad of a perfectionist and well, very much an overachiever in things he wishes to overachieve in… this does not include a clean room and he tends to be VERY inpatient. </p>
<p>Oregon… glad you can go and stay. I trust the four nights plus breakfast is referring to a nearby hotel. Also, I get the whole H not taking vacation. My H NEVER takes true vacation where even now, as he’s golfing in AZ, he’s likely to be taking calls and answering emails to the point where it’s borderline a breech of etiquette. Of course, if he doesn’t do it it will not get done. It’s not like he has an equal to take over his responsibilities if he is out of town.</p>
<p>Wonder of wonders, H stepped up to the plate and wrote something sweet for D’s yearbook ad that I only edited a bit. I guess I’ll have to take an extra turn at driving D to or from work this weekend.</p>
<p>(My deal is almost closed, so I’ll be able to spend more time on my posts in a bit.)</p>
<p>Moda - S has gone the coorporate route. He is hoping to never have to step foot in a courtroom and need to litigate. :)</p>
<p>Looking forward to this week being over. Starting to feel better but after a week of this I’m just looking forward to a nice weekend.</p>
<p>RM, how wonderful! Best to him. Are you planning a celebration dinner?</p>
<p>I am actually more ticked today at H. I think it will be a long day. In the meantime I just moved his hair appointment because I am going to “act as if” H is going to do the right thing. I doubt that I will stop myself from blowing up, though. I just spent 6 day’s at/in the hospital for him. I KNOW what the drill is and to leave this on 21yr old DIL is not necessary. Her parents are teachers and will take care of G’son not our son.
I have no less than 8 appointments I need to change between work and hair and so on so I had better get going.</p>