<p>missypie–sounds like your son has made a good transition to college…focusing on academics will be a strong foundation for success. he’s fortunate to have you to support the things he may need tips on</p>
<p>cpeltz–how nice to have a way to hear about your s. isn’t it heart warming when you hear your s is settling in so well.</p>
<p>I am also surprised about H1N1 variation among colleges…I agree that it seems strange to send them home, unless its parents picking them up by car. my s had numerous cases and they set up part of clinic for students to go to for dx and then set them up in their rooms, (has nurse 24/7). </p>
<p>I dropped my sophomore s off yesterday at airport, (he was flying by himself and looked soo completely grown up) I drove off and well, I must admit I was a mess. it took me by surprise as I dropped freshman d three weeks ago. I think having both of them at college just really hit me. my s sent a sweet email at 4:30 a.m. telling me he was all unpacked and had a great nite with his friends. that made me feel better. </p>
<p>my d called last evening to tell me she was glad she didn’t end up coming home this weekend since a guy asked her to go to this party. she is enjoying college life. I am very grateful they are safe, healthy and doing well…</p>
<p>tk—enjoy the game, and hope you start to find one or two new people you connect with. that does make things so much more fun. hang in there…</p>
<p>tk, I think being a transfer student into a large university is really difficult (I know because I was one many years ago) but I’m sure that once your classes start you will make friends with your new classmates. Just make sure you’re open to new activities.</p>
<p>Good to hear that otherwise this group seems to be doing just fine.</p>
<p>Eggson came home last night for the long weekend and we are such a happy nest. Eggdad is especially glad to have the boy back for a few days as he has been missing all of their shared activities. They are off together this afternoon, but DS says that he is hanging with his buddies for the rest of the weekend. </p>
<p>When I refused to wash the laundry he brought home, DH ran the wash! This is one for the record books, folks.</p>
<p>Hey, H is teaching D2 (who will be leaving for her freshman year at college this Thursday) how to do wash this afternoon. Modern men aren’t like those 1950s guys…</p>
<p>D won’t be home til Thanksgiving; we’ll see her in four weeks at Parents’ weekend. In the meantime, I’m packing a care package. I went to the local Hallmark store to find some fun cards to send, but too many said “miss you” or “it’s not the same without you” or “Just checking in on you” – not exactly what I wanted to convey to her 2 weeks into her college career.</p>
<p>Memo to self: Find better card/stationery store …</p>
<p>Finding and sending cards is on my weekend list as well. I’m thinking I’ll just use blank cards and add my own sentiment. I also have baking cookies on my list. </p>
<p>H and I spent some time bringing D’s room back to a reasonable state. Dust and clutter were everywhere so it felt really good to get most of that out of there. I still need to tackle her desk and some piles in the room. </p>
<p>S is planning on sleeping there as he has outgrown his loft bed. We’ll think about whether a full move-in will happen at some time in the future. He does have a small room and D’s room is much bigger and nicer. I promised D we wouldn’t make any major changes before Christmas.</p>
<p>Zetisis I found some “I believe in you” cards and others with motivational quotes. Also sent a a childrens’ back to school card that was “toadally awesome” with a cute toad on it. Hopefully she appreciates my juvenile humor! ;)</p>
<p>Yeah, well the one I <em>did</em> pick is kind of silly, but I hope appeals to someone who’s a science major …</p>
<p>We’ve got other card stores around … this one seems to have lost its most off-beat cards lately. They all sound like they’re written by people … who write greetings cards…</p>
<p>northernwoods - We have the exact same scenario here with the bedrooms. S1 had the nice double bed and bigger room so S2, a HS freshman, now sleeps there, but we also promised S1 no major changes for awhile. So S2 sleeps and studies in his brother’s old room, but dresses and keeps his “stuff”, knick-knacks, etc in his old small room. A bit odd, but seems to work for them! I wonder when S1 will be ready for true relinquishment of his old room?</p>
<p>Care package hit here: graham crackers and chocolate frosting. Might have to enclose a plastic knife. Make “sandwiches.” I don’t know why I sent it to S1, but I did (this was a fav snack of my younger bro). Think I’ll send to S2 next.</p>
<p>Talked to son really briefly this morning… H didn’t leave him a credit card and both thought he could just bill his books to his account like he had at high school! Did either one ask me? Nope. Son has the money in his account, but does not have his check/cash card yet nor is the bank open. I gave him a credit card number and all the info and so hopefully they’ll just take it. They being the bookstore.</p>
<p>He is still a little overwhelmed with the time crunch thing, and is anxious for the festivities of Orientation to be over so he can just “live a normal life.” He is also definitely nervous about the possibility of being cut from the team. They have far more players coming out than the NCAA allows and it’s a particularly large freshman class. I honestly wish they had had the opportunity to get in the groove and only have to think about the game for a week. I am sure his focus is completely torn and that alone is probably stressing him out totally and he can’t play his best. Add that to the “Who do I like and who likes me?” issues of freshman year (and I don’t care whether you’re a boy or a girl on this one) and it’s not the most ideal. I am sure he’s going to be fine, but he’s also chosen a fairly ambitious schedule. Classes start on Monday. Hard to believe and can’t come soon enough. Never thought I’d say that!</p>
<p>Illness is all gone today and football was fun. I was too hot and went home at halftime to shower and take a nap, but my parents are coming up to take me to dinner tonight and bring me some stuff I ordered that was delivered to the house. I got my first bee sting today, too. I am glad it turns out I’m not allergic but my whole arm is sore. Roommate I am pretty sure ditched me at the game but I am not surprised nor am I upset. My parents will be here installing my bed risers when it is entirely possible she planned to come home to get dressed for clubbing. I have planned myself around her schedule to accommodate her all week so I guess it’s her turn. My boyfriend is coming to visit me tomorrow and I am going to drag him out to a restaurant I want to try and then I have a floor meeting. </p>
<p>Zetesis - My sister sent me a box of individually wrapped rice krispie treats, some gum, and some microwave popcorn and I was over the moon! Rice krispies, store bought or home made, travel great. Also make for good breakfast on the go. I am hoping someone will send me some of those hot chocolate packets when it gets cold out.</p>
<p>She also had my little niece and nephews, age 8, 7, 4, and 2 make me cards for me to hang up on my bulletin board. Made me feel good. :)</p>
<p>Bedrooms: D1 has the biggest room in the house. When she went to college, however, D2 didn’t want it; she’d fixed up her own (tiny) room just the way she wanted it, so wasn’t tempted.</p>
<p>Mom and Dad (us!) are on a CLEANING binge! Woo hoo! Massive piles to donate; we have clean rooms; clean and organized closets. We’re on a roll, might even hire out … well, let’s not get carried away.</p>
<p>Modadunn – I hear you on the scheduling issues. I’m hoping D hasn’t taken on too much. But we did get a text on Friday, after a week of classes: “I love my calc class!” (and this is the one with tons of homework) …</p>
<p>I can’t figure out if the cleaning is a statement of taking back the territory we had temporarily ceded to the dwarfs who inhabited the house; if we’re bored or trying to keep busy to deny that the nest is empty; or if we just really like living in clean quarters – couldn’t be that, could it?</p>
<p>Okay, this is going to be my last post here besides perhaps an update now and then because I’ve been monopolizing the thread. But my mom is at a loss for this one and I don’t know what to say to this girl.</p>
<p>My roommate brought three girls from home over to go clubbing apparently, I realized they were here when I came back from dinner with my parents. I was okay with that until I noticed, after they left, that they all brought sleeping bags. So when they stumble in at 2am stinking like smoke, which she knows I am severely allergic to and that it WILL make me extremely sick, was when she was planning on informing me that we are having five or more residents tonight instead of two. It is against the rules to have overnight guests without consent of the roommate and she wasn’t even going to tell me and she has known since last night that they were coming. Exposure to smoke gives me sore throat, cough, sneezing, itchy eyes, and FEVER for days. She knows that. This comes two days after she brings a boy into the room at 12:30 at night without giving me a heads up so I came back from the shower, wet and in nothing but my bathrobe, to find an unexpected opposite sex guest in the middle of the night. She let the same boy in the next morning as I sat in my pajamas without so much as offering to have him wait outside for two seconds so I could throw on some clothes and make myself more decent for male company.</p>
<p>Can I get some advice on what to say to her? She needs to understand that being in college doesn’t really mean she can do whatever she wants, there are still laws of courtesy to the people you’re living with-- not to mention the housing policy on overnight guests. My parents were JUST here, if I’d known her friends were crashing here after the club I’d have gone home for the night. She didn’t even TELL ME. So tomorrow after her friends leave I want to bring things up and set some ground rules, but I don’t know how I should say it. I don’t want her to decide I’m just b*tchy and blow me off, because then I’d have to get the RA involved and that would just be a waste of his time.</p>
<p>Two people live in that room and have equal rights – to privacy, respect, and civility. You need to have a heart to heart chat with your roommate ASAP and lay out the ground rules for both of you. And remind her of the housing policy on overnight guests. The room is as much yours as it is hers, but she is treating you with complete disrespect. </p>
<p>If the situation does not improve SOON, I would definitely get the RA involved.</p>
<p>txk–classes have not started yet. Perhaps your roommate will slow down with the late nights and friends, etc. once they begin. If not, she won’t be around for the second semester. </p>
<p>I would also recommend you suggest to her that the two of you come up with some kind of roommate agreement that helps formalize the ground rules. DD’s school, or maybe it’s just her floor, insists they formally come up with a roommate agreement. They work this agreement out and then meet with the RA to go over it. There needs to be some give and take in this, but perhaps you could suggest to her that you both will be more comfortable with something like this in place.</p>
<p>rrah: that actually sounds like a very sound idea. Get some agreement before issues even arise. Son has a suite, and although things seem to be going fine, their room is directly off this main room where the other two would definitely have more privacy available to them. I am just hoping that it doesn’t become an issue over the length of the term with no boundaries. Then again, boys are pretty good about making their opinions known and better yet, not holding grudges.</p>
<p>twisted-
You should talk to the RA pronto quick. Doesnt sound like your roommate is very considerate and probably wont follow any agreed upon plan even if you do get her to discuss it with you. Time to get help from those trained to handle these things. There have been other threads on dealing with problem roommates with lots of good suggestions. You might want to search them out.</p>
<p>Also, if someone (especially a guy) is in your room and you arent dressed, it is ok for YOU to politely but firmly ask him to wait outside. ( e.g. “I have to get dressed. Would you like to wait outside or downstairs?”) It is your room and you have rights. Is your roommate a transfer student too? Did she have a single before or did she have roommates? If the latter, ask her how she handled the room groundrules before, and see if you can set up similar ones. If she said she didnt have any, let her know that isnt going to work here. She souldns selfish and insensitive. Unfortunately you are going to have to be assertive.</p>
I am glad it turns out I’m not allergic but my whole arm is sore. Roommate I am pretty sure ditched me at the game but I am not surprised nor am I upset. My parents will be here installing my bed risers when it is entirely possible she planned to come home to get dressed for clubbing. I have planned myself around her schedule to accommodate her all week so I guess it’s her turn. My boyfriend is coming to visit me tomorrow and I am going to drag him out to a restaurant I want to try and then I have a floor meeting. </p>
I am hoping someone will send me some of those hot chocolate packets when it gets cold out.</p>