<p>My brother has a Dec 28th birthday. My brother also never had a birthday party. Growing up my Mom always felt that it was not polite or nice to ask other kids to come to a birthday party with a gift 3 days after Christmas.
My nephew will be turning 10 this Christmas. My sister has tried to at least acknowledge his birthday in some fashion. His brother has a July 4th birthday.</p>
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<p>I believe this was my personal journal you remember.</p>
<p>Birthdays: Mine is December 24th. </p>
<p>Parents’ Weekend: We’re just back. Yep, a mixed bag. D felt the stress of needing to study, and wanting to be with friends, all the while there are these PARENTS hanging around. She relaxed visibly though as the weekend went on. </p>
<p>We actually had a good visit, with a reasonable amount of private face time, although there were a few rather curt <em>warnings</em> when I know she thought I got too nosey. Yeah, kids don’t get mom’s need for details. But who wouldn’t want to know why/how the girl in the single next door now has a roommate named Charles…</p>
<p>My folks always managed to distinguish my 12/26 from Christmas. DH, not so much. Of course, I probably didn’t help the process by planning a wedding for December 22nd!!</p>
<p>Missy, it get’s worse on the 29th, it seems, because it’s not QUITE close enough to NYs eve and yet its too FAR from Christmas/travel/family time, so I know exactly what you’re talking about. I will offer to trade dates with your H. b/c I do get to see my family on the 26th (out of town) – but never on the 29th : ) My sister is on the 28th as well. Our theory is that 40 weeks prior must have been some kind of special date for our folks : )</p>
<p>At any rate, very happy BIRTHday to #tm!</p>
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<p>Um, yeah…</p>
<p>I used to work with a guy with a Dec 25th birthday. Two of his kids had December birthdays and he didn’t want them to miss out on having parties. So they’d just pick a day that was convenient…October, May, whatever…it really doesn’t matter as long as the child only has one party per year. It just seems like our moms were more *conventional *in the 60s…the party had to be that day or not at all.</p>
<p>D’s Parents’ Weekend is Halloween. We’ll get there VERY late on Friday. D wants to show us a handful of places around campus. Then it will be an early dinner for us and any friends who don’t have parents around. H and I will head back to the hotel and D will go to a party. Breakfast the next morning, run to stock up on supplies and au revoir until Thanksgiving.
She has already asked to bring some “orphans” home with her. We’re happy to do so. S goes to school in Canada and someone has always brought him home for their rather early Thanksgiving.</p>
<p>Re: birthdays at less than optimal times… I’d go for the “half-birthday” celebration. So instead of 12/25, make it 6/25; works for kids AND for grown-ups! </p>
<p>Spawn’s PW is also over Halloween. I think I’ll dress up as a witch for it, BWAAAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!! :D</p>
<p>Counting Down!! Did we know that your Anniversary 12/22 is my Birthday?? </p>
<p>DDs have a B-day on 12-30 typically we did a family party on the Day and a friend party in the summer. </p>
<p>D was out to a movie and dinner with the pep band. She laughed about how odd it was that for the first time in her life she went to a restaurant with friends and many of them legally ordered beer.</p>
<p>Happy birthday # theorymom!!</p>
<p>owlice…fabbity fab idea! If he complains just say you could have come as a slutty nurse instead. Halloween costumes always brings to mind the line from Mean Girls. “Around here Halloween is an excuse for girls dress like sluts and put on animal ears.”</p>
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<p>owlice, I usually make it a point NOT to argue with the person who brings us chocolate and other goodies but… D1’s birthday is 6/30 (summer vacation), so her half b-day is 12/30 (winter break). She NEVER had an in-school party :(</p>
<p>These PW stories are helpful - I really don’t know what to expect in 2 weeks. D seems to be looking forward to seeing us. I am missing her so much lately that I’m fearful I may burst into tears on sight :eek:</p>
<p>And happy BIRTHday #tm!</p>
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<p>My MIL says that is exactly what she wanted to do - celebrate the twins half birthdays on 6/26…but she says “everyone” told her she couldn’t do it that way. Who was “everyone” ? Her mother? Her MIL? Did mothers of the 60s listen to others more, or did it come from being a mother in her twenties instead of her thirties?</p>
<p>As someone who was a mother in her 20’s… I fully admit to listening to my “elders” far more often than was good for me OR my children some of the time. Brother’s birthday is Jan 5 and we still did a half birthday thing for him growing up. He’s also the youngest. So part of my conclusion on the issue is I also think we get more confident in our parenting as we have more of the little buggers.</p>
<p>still no word from S - even when I hinted at a B-day celebration for him when he returns - asked him if he wanted to go out for dinner and a movie and come home to a cake of his choice. Normally THAT would get a response…</p>
<p>boo hiss I thought I would have heard SOMEthing from him on his birthday.</p>
<p>Thanks for the BIRTH day well wishes everyone. I needed that</p>
<p>I totally get your disappointment #TM. I would be too. And I guess for me I would keep thinking up the reasons why he’ll call at a later time. If not morning, then noon. If not noon than after classes. After dinner? Before bed? Yep.</p>
<p>However, on my own birthday I get the calls, I don’t make them. That’s how it rolls around here. If it’s your day, people come to you - so to speak. If my mom didn’t call me on my birthday, I’d be definitely wondering why she hadn’t. Not sure how your family might do things like that. Do you call your Mom on your birthday? I just got to thinking that MAYBE he’s expecting a call from you rather than vice versa.</p>
<p>Yeah, I’d call him on his birthday, no matter what the phone call “rules” normally are. (And if he doesn’t pick up, I’d leave a REALLY LOUD message.)</p>
<h1>tm, it might be time to haul out the grueling labor story to drum up some guilt.</h1>
<p>Our PW is also over Halloween, so it’s been good to hear some stories and lower expectations accordingly. D has a Fall Break (actually a long weekend), so she’ll be coming home for that on the 15th. We go from not seeing her for two months to seeing her twice in October and then 2 and a half weeks later for Thanksgiving. Then home Dec 10th for Winter Break.</p>
<p>I’ve been getting lots of texts about how hard hobbling around campus on crutches is. Maybe trying to get to Subway before it closes at 2:00 a.m. isn’t the best idea?</p>
<p>This cold and rain is driving me batty! Weather forecast for D2’s games this weekend include rain/snow showers! I am SOOOOOO not ready for this! :eek:</p>
<p>Tried to walk one time around the Mall of America today. Barely made it. Think I pushed too hard, too soon. Ouch!</p>
<p>he got plenty of <em>attention</em> from me on his birthday. An e-card from me, one from his dad, a snail mail card. A couple of e-mails, one asking if he felt better, one asking him how he was celebrating his birthday or if he was just going to wait until he got home…
Not one response… I am not looking for a call, just SOME acknowledgement that we are thinking of him</p>
<h1>theorymom - In any of your contacts with him on his birthday did you directly say to him - CALL ME! I find that in dealing with my son (and in dealing withing my husband for that matter), the direct approach is sometimes better! I also agree with Modadunn that the person actually having the birthday is usually the “callee” and not the “caller” - in my house anyway. I never call my mom on MY birthday. She calls me. If either of my kids didn’t call me on my birthday (which is in a couple of days, by the way!!!), I’d be very hurt. I think your son not calling you on his birthday is a different situation (although those hours of labor really should warrant a call when you think about it!!!) Every family is different, though.</h1>
<p>tm—although you sent cards, I’d still place a call to wish a true happy birthday…I personally wouldn’t make him feel bad for not calling you ~ after all it is still his birthday. perhaps there’s some reason he hasn’t responded…just saying</p>
<p>an e-mail saying he got his cards - thanks - would have been satisfactory for me
I don’t call him - I e-mail - because of his class schedule and the fact that we are 3 time zones away. And he really would rather I ask him to call me than to interrupt him with a call. So I don’t. Not to mention, yesterday was his first day back in class after a week’s sick leave so I did not want to interupt his studies with a call. ANY response to any one of my e-mails would have been enough.
H is on FB (I’m not) and checked S’s page. Looks like he got lots of BDay well wishes and had time to respond to those. I have really resisted FB, and I don’t really like the idea of chatting with him there, but I am glad H is on it so he can atleast see if S is still kicking.
So far I have not let him know his not responding is ticking me off. So here’s hoping he responds sometime today, at least to some of the questions I asked him about his trip home. Otherwise tomorrow he will get the Call Me note</p>