<p>EEK Well glad I did not get Pluresy. It’s been bad enough being almost completely deaf. Shoot, hubby seemed to be constantly sneaking up on me, and scaring the crap out of me.</p>
<p>M.pie, I have been asking #theoryboy, for weeks, to thank his grandparents for the birthday check. Heck, I even told him an e-mail would suffice. Nada. Yaknow, I raised him better. I am hopeful his <em>training</em> will eventually kick in. sigh (again)</p>
<p>okay the DD had swine 4th week of school, not too happy. got better, now has cold. very miserable with her choice and is in a funk. I feel aweful and helpless. I sense a transfer coming. What to do?? without running there to “save her” anyone with experience, i would love some advice. anyone else’s want to leave??</p>
<p>tm–recently a good friend died and we were visiting our S for PW-- I took a card/address/stamp and had him sit in the student union and write a note–we mailed it right there. He writes very nice notes and I do not take credit for that–but when the wife called to say what a nice thing S has done…well…</p>
<p>If you think a transfer is the right thing for her (my D and I both knew after a few weeks) then just let your D know you will help with the paper trail but that she needs to decide where and maybe visit there. D took a bus from Mass. to Maine to see one school and flew from Boston to Ohio to see another–just weeks after her first semester began. I do think kids can do this but we need to just give support and time as they make the calls/fill out the papers/ etc.
Someone here earlier mentioned that their kiddo was looking at schools that they refused to originally. My D ended up at a school that she had interviewed and toured but had not applied to. Please know that you have support here as it is so so difficult when you know your student is just not happy.</p>
<p>4Giggles…my D2 is also looking at transfer. She also knew it was not the right fit after the first week but is staying for the year. We have made her take charge of the process and so far is doing a pretty good job. She is looking at schools she is familiar with but did not apply to. The big headache is registering for classes that will definitely transfer. She has been in close contact with the transfer counselor at one school and she has been quite helpful. Good Luck!</p>
<p>Speaking of which, NMn… what happened with the calc snag?</p>
<p>OK… I have taught two kids to drive and I have never felt the terror I do when D16 gets behind the wheel. I know she needs practice, but do I have to risk my life AND car to give it to her?!?</p>
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<p>Ah, reminds me of the graduation present thank you notes. At least then they were in our household, under our watchful eyes. Our church youth choir went on tour about a week after graduation. While hanging around the airport the morning of departure, we discovered that the parents of virtually every senior had used the threat, “you are not going on choir tour unless you finish those thank you notes!”</p>
<p>Sixteen year old driving? I really try to avoid riding in a car with my kids.</p>
<p>Modadunn, just wait a few years. That’s what I’m having to do, unfortunately. Some kids just aren’t ready to drive at 16.</p>
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<p>D1 never learned to drive so I haven’t been through this before. D2 and H have decided that it is best for everybody if I DO NOT attempt to teach D2. 
So Modadunn, my answer to you is find someone else, at least for the first few scary weeks/months!</p>
<p>Modadunn – Simulator training program! See if there’s one in your area. Makes all the difference in the world.</p>
<p>Modadunn - all I can say is GOOD LUCK. We made both of ours learn before going off to college figuring it was a life skill sort of like cooking. I went out with both of them first few times in empty parking lots. Great way to start. Once we got on the road I would do the development but not the main roads with them. Once they were ready for the main roads I left that to H and the poor man that we bought lessons from. Not only was the man a saint in my books - he used a company car (so not mine), took both of them on the expressway for their first time and got them ready for their test including taking them on the test with his car again. Expensive I thought at the time but worth it to me.</p>
<p>Loved the google search results for cooking on the engine block. I don’t remember who suggested but way too funny.</p>
<p>A simulator… now that’d be interesting. She’s taken driver’s ed and has had the prerequisite training “behind the wheel” with an instructor. My issue is that she is too busy arguing that she is “fine,” vs just correcting! My husband says to her… would you rather be right or dead right?</p>
<p>In other news, I had a squirrel fall into my house thru the chimney this morning. At one point our cat had it semi-contained/trapped in the living room but when I put the cat in my office and shut the door, the thing bypassed the front door and ran into the opened cabinet under the sink. He has now since left, but it was an exciting morning around here. Animal Control and everything!</p>
<p>You know, with two daughters’ birthdays within a week and misc. other things, our house is so messy that we would probably not even notice the presence of a squirrel.</p>
<p>^^LMAO – mosty because that is so close to the truth here as well that without Zoey (the cat) I’d probably have gone the majority of the day without a clue.</p>
<p>Modadunn – So funny. I can see it. All I can think of was the “You had an unexpected guest drop in”.</p>
<p>Must have been an exciting morning.</p>
<p>HAHAHA! My house is messy too! I still can’t squat/bend with this silly knee and H said he would take over…ah, yeah! ;)</p>
<p>Modadunn…no calc class for D2 in the spring. She does need it to apply to Carlson at U if she decides to go that route. Will see what she does…possible options are try to take it in summer or just apply to regular U and try for Carlson following year. It’s up to her!</p>
<p>squirrels–ah, Christmas Vacation with Chevy Chase</p>
<p>OMG! a squirrel in your house! only thing worse would be a raccoon. or a bat. but still, a squirrel is bad enough. </p>
<p>okay friends, guidance please. D just called and said “I haven’t called for a few days cause I wanted to make sure everything was okay. so don’'t worry - I’m fine.” uh oh.</p>
<p>apparently last Thursday she was at a party (a party on Thursday night? what?), had just a little to drink (she swears) and fell down a flight of stairs when her heel got caught in the carpet. she is sore and bruised but is sure she doesn’t have a concussion. H and I have insisted that she visit the health center anyway to get checked out. what else should I do? other than the obvious - have another really serious conversation about how she is spending her extracurricular time.</p>
<p>We’ve had lots of bats in the house during the summers in western new york. The only hard part about a bat is hoping another one doesn’t fly in when you’re trying to get one to fly out. My son can scoop them out of thin air with a lacrosse stick! When I was a kid we had a deer walk into our basement thru the garage. Now THAT was an odd, “how do you do?” when I came home from school that day.</p>
<p>Son is making his schedule for next semester and it looks like the second of two required Bio classes, Chemistry and Macro Econ. He’ll still need another and so… hopefully he can pick something relatively easy especially when you consider labs etc.</p>
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scary PRJ
I don’t know if I would go into the whole what-you-are-doing-partying-on-Thursday-night thing.
It would be hard for me not to get into that,
but I think you should just express your gratitude that she is all right. And ask her to be careful.
Hopefully if the fall WAS due to drinking she will have learned a lesson, and if it was not, you don’t want to go accusing her.
Good luck</p>
<p>I agree with #tm about the inquiry. For me, that she was so honest would be a huge factor, (she could have easily said she merely fell down the stairs and said nothing about drinking) and the only admonishment I would give is she should have called sooner. I mean, seriously, how did she know it wasnt a concussion? Did someone check her pupils? Someone wake her up throughout the night? Did she set the alarm and wake herself? OR is that totally outdated stuff to do? 
Anyway… I am not that surprised about a Thursday night party - not as a regular thing every week, but I recall lots of Weds parties when I was in college (hump night and all that). Glad to hear all is well and there are probably more bruises to her ego than anything else.</p>