<p>Woody, I’m hoping S2 is processing some of the struggles he has had this semester and learning from them. He is still calibrating how much work he needs to devote to his classes and tends to be over confident going into his exams. It’s unfortunate that none of his friends are in engineering, nor is his roommate, so he doesn’t see anybody else studying. The non-engineering classes aren’t as challenging at his school, for the most part. If he would make some friends in his major, he might not feel like such an outlier. So far, however, he isn’t giving up.</p>
<p>Our family thinks of opinions as points of view rather than telling someone what to do. Like feelings, the point of view can never be right or wrong. It is that person’s perspective and we value it. We recognize that our different personalities will and should lead to different decisions. H might say he would do x because of abc, while I would do y because of def, and S ultimately decides to do z because of ghk. It’s the rationale that leads to the opinion we all want to hear from each other. </p>
<p>Once a person’s decision is made we fully support it and never look back. Like a game of chess, the board has now changed. Each decision leads to a whole new set of possibilities. The old choices are only relevant in that they lead to the current options.</p>
<p>As an aside, I figured I better get back to work on the speech I am writing. One of my opening comments is that traders always want a clear opinion–buy/sell, good/bad. They are not interested in hearing “it depends” however true that may be.</p>
<p>Analyst - what you describe sounds very healthy. I conclude, therefore, that our little brood is not. :)</p>
<p>Chief of surgery… bahaha. Too funny. When S was born H was Mr. Quip. The nurse was so kind when she asked him to go to the cafeteria, get something to drink … etc. I wrote her a thank you note once I got home telling her I couldn’t have done it without her. When D was born, nearly 16 and a half years ago, H and Dr were discussing health care when I was like… “Umm… baby’s coming now! Hello?”</p>
<p>Hmmm…don’t get me started on children being born and H’s contributions. He is a hospital administrator…at the hospital where they were born. Need I say more about who got the attention? They were all more worried about him and their jobs than me and the babies!</p>
<p>Too funny about the births. When S was born H stayed outside and they brought him to him. I had a friend attend instead. H couldn’t stand Drs and would typically faint. With D they found out she was sick right after her birth and he says “nurse attila the hun” (sp?) came and got him to come in. I was alone this time around and the thought was since it was iffy if D was going to make it (9 lbs but very sick) he should be there. He barely made it in he says. Too much or my insides were on the outside…</p>
<p>This isn’t the first thread where B’trees has become the neighborhood bully. I just tried to take a swing on your behalf, missypie ;)</p>
<p>oh, and back to labor room stories for a sec. after a very long labor, I wasn’t feeling too well right after I delivered D1, so the nurse handed her to H. not having a lot of experience with babies, but knowing that he was supposed to talk, that his voice would be soothing, he proceeded to explain international monetary policy to her.</p>
<p>I just did a quick search and #theorymom hasn’t posted since April 8th, which was a post on this thread. </p>
<p>S1 has a three hour flight delay out of SF so being put up in a hotel in Chicago tonight once he gets there and will get here sometime tomorrow. Had a long conversation with him, since he is too tired to work on his paper. He hopes to find out within two weeks. They will give him a definite initial location in the offer letter, which is something I wasn’t sure he would know, and he requested Brazil, South America, Africa, or International, in that order. He says any location other than the U.S. or Siberia would be fine. There would be a ton of training for the first 15 months, including monthly tests on the material. I see that as an upside and he sees that as a downside. He is very ready to be done with school. The money is “insane,” so that is an upside from his perspective, but an issue I don’t think is as important as enjoying what you are doing day to day. </p>
<p>It will be interesting to hear his perspective again after he is well rested and had time to process everything.</p>
<p>TheAnalyst, S1 spent some time in the dead of winter in a city affected by Siberian weather. Your S is absolutely correct in wanting to avoid that! <---- those are chattering teeth. It was -20 to -30 the whole time he was there.</p>
<p>I was on the 2012 thread, now I am already getting nervous. You would think I learned from my first one. Maybe I should lurk here for a while longer, not ready for the college worrying yet. I probably wont be able to resist though LOL Analyst that all sounds so exciting with your son. do you think this thread will last long enoughto see how the kids all do?</p>
<p>shopping in Target this evening…saw all the graduation merchandise and it took me aback…having had a high school graduate in '08 and '09 made me nostalgic for a moment…
(not that we need any more of those ridiculous looking photo frames) </p>
<p>spending the weekend with my d going to my friend’s <em>daughter’s bridal shower, (</em>who just graduated law school in dec and found out she passed the bar yesterday–woo hoo). Looking forward to a girls’ weekend. my d also suggested we see an international film at the film festival in her college town…it’s quite special to experience the adult to adult relationships that are emerging…very grateful</p>
<p>so which are y’all watching this evening, Good Wife or Parenthood? I’m caught up on both, thought last week’s Parenthood was great…</p>
<---- those are chattering teeth. It was -20 to -30 the whole time he was there.</p>