Parents of the HS Class of 2016 (Part 1)

@BeeDAre I’m pretty sure your D will end up with a roommate. Someone else’s roommate may not show up or someone may request a switch. I would tell her to make friends with the other girls on the hall and ask them “hey why don’t we all go to dinner together?” Or “do you want to walk to some event together?” She will just have to put herself out there a little more. Plus being there early for marching band will give her a chance to make friends with like minded people and she’s in a LLC she likes so I’m sure she’ll be fine

@BeeDAre I would be extremely surprised if your daughter wasn’t assigned a roommate very soon . Many schools have waitlists , so she should get one very soon.

My D and her roommate had a good sized room, 12x17 and they put their beds at opposite ends of the room and then their desks backed up to the ends of their beds, not against the wall. Dressers were under the bed. What was nice is they had a small counter to set the microwave and Keurig on and the minifridge and a narrow plastic storage cart fit under the counter.

My ds was assigned an interesting dorm space, a two-room double. It’s a wide, rectangular room divided in half by a wall of closets. You enter the room into the study side, which has two desks and bookcases. The other half has two beds and dressers. The closets open to the bedroom side. That should be a really nice setup if one person needs to study late and the other wants to sleep. There is even a door to close between the sections.

So today I went to my regular Starbucks and one of the barristers and I were chatting. She said “what’s the countdown mom?” I said 20 days which prompted another customer to as “oh, where is she going?” I proudly responded, “The George Washington Univery”. He responded “oh, how did she get into that school?” Before I could respond a woman said (without missing a beat) “what do mean by that question dude…why can’t you just say congratulations instead of questioning how she got in…give me a break dude!” Several more customers chimed in and the guy was so embarrassed he offered to buy my coffee. I declined and instead asked why he asked the question. He just walked away. :frowning:

@rienrah that’s an interesting setup. @HappyFace2018 That was definitely rude. Glad your D wasn’t there and that the other people backed you up. There’s a guy from my high school going there- it’s a very good school. Are you from an area where not many people go there? That might partially explain this man’s rude curiosity

@HappyFace2018 My response would’ve been " She applied , how do most people get into college? Why do you ask? What a tool. My inner Baltimore girl would’ve come out. You’re a much better person than me.

@BeeDAre - She can email housing to check on the likelihood of getting a new roommate assigned before halls open. My D did that Monday, was told “very likely” and then finally got the roommate assignment yesterday. I know that schools want all of their beds filled - I bet she’ll have one soon.

@Undercovermom1 The part of the room that includes the beds, desks and dressers is maybe 11 by 11 (at most). Then there is the sink/vanity, shared (!) closet, and door to the bathroom. The school has videos for each dorm but they focus more on the community aspect of it and don’t give you a good look at the rooms. From what little I could see, everything was really cluttered. She stayed in a similar dorm during orientation and said it seemed OK, but there was no stuff in it!

@Undercovermom1 that is extremely similar to my D’s cart. A super great find! Kudos! I wish I found that before I spent two hours (between two days) on the phone and another hour on the computer trying to figure out which IKEA had any stock.

@BeeDAre make sure you D keeps her door open as much as possible with a door stopper. That will encourage people walking by to look in and stop by. But I would imagine that a roommate may show up before long.

@HappyFace2018 that customer definitely was not thinking. More than likely he did not meant to be offensive, he was probably very impressed and uttered his first thought without filtering it. The other customers made sure that he will never do that again! No matter what anyone thinks or says, your daughter should be so very proud of herself and it is definitely a proud parent moment - Enjoy it!

Thank God my sweet girl was not with me. We live in Indiana and have encountered varying degrees of astonishment because she choose not to apply to Indiana University. I/she can handle that depending on the sincerity of the questioner (you can tell if they are sincerely intrigued or believe that we aren’t committed Hoosiers by the way they ask the question). This was different because of the way he spoke to me, looked at me and how he threw the money on the counter when offering to pay for my coffee. It was, indeed, different.

You guys with sinks in the rooms are lucky! I always wished I had that in college, and apparently none of the rooms in DS’s dorm have them, either… In fact, he’s going to be hauling water up three floors as mentioned. :wink: As Tevye said about his second daughter in Fiddler on the Roof, “[he’s] so happy he doesn’t realize how miserable [he] is”

lol @fretfulmother

@Undercovermom1 :slight_smile:

@HappyFace2018 : Context being everything…was there a tone of share-with-me-the-key? Or was it more, “You?!! Not You!!”

@Waiting2exhale As disappointing as this is to say, it was a “you, not you!” look. I could feel it. It made me sad but you know what made it better? The reaction of the other customers who weren’t like me. This is what I love about the true soul of people. This line from the movie “The Help” ran through my mind when the other customers were speaking on my daughters behalf “You is smart, You is kind, You is Important”. I pray God’s will for my sweet girl [-O<

I’m sorry that happened to you, @HappyFace2018. Your D worked hard and had great credentials like every other kid that got into that wonderful school. I’m glad so many jumped in to give that guy a little wake up call to his unusual behavior.

S’s dorm has blueprints for the dorm online so you can see each room’s layout and dimensions. His room is a large double- used to be a triple so it has 3 closets (3 ft wide) and is slightly longer than the usual double. We saw a regular double at registration.

It’s funny- my D went to my school and even stayed in an identical dorm room to the one I was in years ago- but walking into it all those years later, I would have sworn it shrunk!

Thank you all so much! Today has been a hard day. My sweet girl hasn’t gone anywhere yet but I feel like she’s being slowly pulled away. I’ve probably wasted to much energy on thinking about that incident today…giving power to it for way to long. I’m letting it go.

My S got his room assignment today, all as expected. Also confirmed that his AP credits are all accounted for. He’s been pretty patient with my desire for him to check on everything at the earliest opportunity. He wouldn’t go to the dorm floor plan for me, though. I guess there’s a reason they keep it password protected, in case kids want to keep their helicopter parents from obsessing.

@HappyFace2018 , congrats to your D for her admission to, and choosing, GW! Wow, going to college in D.C.,how exciting!

Also - I’m from Indiana, and attended IU, and can attest to the prevalent IU fever in IN. I’ve said before on these boards, but not sure if others outside IN grasp it - Indiana U, for many people in IN, is almost equivalent to going to Harvard, or at least Vanderbilt or Wash U. People there are just RABID bout IU, it’s crazy. Why would anyone want to go anywhere else?! :slight_smile: So, I sympathize with your daughter, and so does my daughter - as an alumnus of IU, many in my family (still in IN) were all - well, of course, you’re going to IU like your Mom, right? And when she decided to go to Ball State, oh my goodness, the looks we got! (We got tired of explaining why…)

Thanks to everyone for all the tips for D about meeting people, making sure she has a roommate. I’m not so worried about her when she is out and about - in class or at band camp - she is actually outgoing enough, and will strike up a conversation first with those she just met, that’s no problem - I juts know that once she gets home, she likes to close the door and keep to herself until she HAS to leave again. and she’s not going to meet other girls on her floor that way.
I’ve already told her to keep her door propped open, that’s important, and to ask other people in the dorm if they want to get lunch or dinner together…, and yes, she will surely meet others in band camp the first week, too.
One good thing about D - she’s the kind of person who doesn’t mind going to movies or dances or other events alone, if she can’t get anyone else to go with her. And she enjoys going to dances, movies, plays, etc. so I know she’ll still do those things… I would just like for her to be able to have a buddy or two, or group to go to these things with. Her friends in high school were often busy with family events, or dating, or had to work - she went to some events with friends, like Prom, and Homecoming Dance, but a lot of plays and away games, she went to by herself.

@krnBoston it sounds like you son is in the honors dorm (Gibson)? That’s where my son is too.

It certainly will be better than moving in on the 16th with the rest of the first year students. We’ll be back in the area on the 15th for the two regular orientation days.

I don’t think there is anything I would have done differently. We had our own folding card to help transport stuff from the car into the building, and we packed most of his stuff in totes which could be lugged up the stairs. The elevator we used was tiny and slow, and the stairwell was narrow too. Worth keeping that in mind.

My son is in a long double too - we looked at one of the square doubles, and honestly I think the square footage is about the same and the long rooms might have a tad more flexibility.

If you want more specifics on how we setup his room drop me a PM.