Huge fans of texting here too. Sometimes I’m texting the kids individually, sometimes it’s a group text. It really helps us stay in touch, even if it’s just sharing weather reports or sending a picture of the dog.
My D sends me pictures of what she has been cooking. 
Isn’t it fun @mommdc ! I got one yesterday too. Someone on her floor had a birthday and she and her roommates baked something very complicated looking with scoop of ice-cream on top. What is funny, we are on opposite coasts now, but go to bed an wake up at about the same time.
@Ballerina016, yes she made sure she took her cupcake pan.
Glad work was so unrelenting today, I didn’t have much time to chew over D16’s “safety risk” situation. I think she’ll figure it out. (BTW, we don’t track her phone but would definitely like some reply the few times we really need to reach her. So we’ve asked for that consideration, understanding she’s busy most the time.)
Here’s a tip from days of the pager, since your D may not know when you really NEED to reach her, try started the super-important texts with a code word or even 911. That way she will see in that first glance whether you need a rapid reply. It’s what my ex and I used to do when we traded the older kids off and cell phones weren’t a big thing yet.
S texted good news on some quizzes so I’m a happy mom. I don’t care so much about the grades- I’m just glad he felt like sharing his news with us. Going entire days without hearing anything is torture. I’m trying to let him “do college”, but it’s strange to have long stretches with no contact.
Being busy at work can really be a savior at times, can’t it?
It’s not easy to watch our kids make decisions we don’t agree with. It’s not always easy to decide what to do, or what not to do.
Mistakes are definitely opportunities to learn, but we all hope those mistakes are not deadly or seriously life-altering.
My difficult child has taught me so much more than my easy child. For realz.
My mom and I constantly text. I have no idea why so much drama. The girl with the roommate issues confronted her today. They had a non helpful"mediation meeting" with the RA. After the girl very clearly stated how uncomfortable she was with the guys around, the roommate said she won’t have them in the room when she’s around. It’s a better response than silence plus public safety is still watching the situation. So hopefully it all works out. The girl in the hospital will remain there for atleast another day if not longer but she’s stabilizing as far as I know. I just feel so awful for her, especially without family support
@readingclaygirl You are fortunate to have that type of relationship with you mom, but please know that parent/child relationships do go transitions at some point in time. I wouldn’t define these transitions as “drama”. Many of the parents posting their thoughts and feeling on this thread are working through this transition.
@dyiu13 There was a homicide on my S’ campus last Spring. That allowed us to have a lot of conversations about safety. I can tell you without a doubt he has disregarded some of my warnings but I can also tell that he is heeding most of them. I bet the same is true for your daughter whether she admits it or not.
@HappyFace2018 I had no intention of defining such parent/child relationships as drama. I thought @Undercovermom1 's post directed at me referenced the recent events I have witnessed at my college. If I offended anyone, I apologize
I also understood the “drama” to mean all that has been happening at @readingclaygirl’s school.
I hope the girl with the seizures will be alright.
And I am glad your friend was able to voice her concerns.
@mommdc Me too on both accounts.
Hi, I am a longtime lurker but have appreciated all the advice here. As the EA deadlines approach, I am worried that maybe my daughter and I are overlooking some schools. My DD attends a highly ranked high school
I rarely post but wanted to offer my support! In my house declining a weekly call that my daughter Originally agreed to would not fly. I certainly understand that our kids may stop sharing if we are too “parental” but if the issue involves personal safety that’s a different thing to me. Kids need to learn things for themselves but mistakes in that arena can be fatal and make drunkeness or a tattoo seem trivial. Perhaps I feel this way in part because my daughter has struggled with emotional issues and withdrawal and refusing to listen and/or calmly discuss are signs that these are symptoms of a bigger issue. I guess I would be curious as to why your daughter felt that both your and your husband’s opinions were without merit. I just worry that this is possibly self-destructive behavior, but I was relieved to read that she would be discussing this with her counselor.
@socalmom1, what kind of schools are you looking for and what does the list look like so far?
@HappyFace2018 I’m the poster who asked about “all the drama”, simply referring to all that has been happening at @readingclaygirl’s school. I didn’t mean to offend anyone either.
I think most people on this thread understood that you meant the drama at readingclaygirl 's school @Undercovermom1 since you directed your question to her.
@readingclaygirl Please accept my apology. I mistakenly believed you were referring to @dyiu13 current situation. I just went back and read @Undercovermom1 post regarding the current situation at your school and now understand what you were referring to. Again, please accept my apology 
@carolinamom2boys Evidently I was the only one who missed that…