@NYDad513, maybe tonight is the night to go out for ice cream?
Ice cream works for both good news and not so good in this house!
@EastGrad She went to bed and fell asleep. So tomorrow seems a better day. How she releases her stress is very similar to mine. I used to sleep long hours when I was under stress.
I take DD to a hair salon when she is at her boiling point.
@NYDad513 I hope your D is ok with this stress? She is an extremely remarkable young lady and if she reaches for the stars and only lands on the moonā¦she is still extremely remarkable by anyoneās standards! I hope she knows how wonderful she is and its great that she has family supporting her through this stressful time. Itās so hard to watch your child deal with the stresses of becoming an adult but its a necessary evil and luckily she has her family to support her!
Kudos to all of us as we always have and continue to be our childrenās support system. I didnāt really have that growing up and as a result floundered for a long time before I āfoundā myself. If I failed there was no support or safety net to speak of. We provide our children with a loving safety net to catch them if they fall but give them the love and confidence to reach as high as possible. As proud of them as we are we must also take a moment to pat ourselves on the back. I only realize this because I didnāt have it when I was their age. We are lucky to have these remarkable kids and they are lucky to have our love and support! Lets all get some ice cream!
Ice cream is definitely a stress reliever in our house!
Congrats on all the new acceptances!
Okay, folks, so here is a request: will the next person who updates the Acceptance List please put the final three names on the first list back into alphabetical order? I have so far avoided doing this, but I am afraid my otherwise mild OCD tendencies will kick in and I will feel compelled to do it. (Also, please tell me that the rest of you have noticed this too and that it bothers you so I donāt feel so, well, crazy.)
DD is working on her senior quotes. Some of them are really funny.
@EastGrad Itās been killing me, plus there are some from the student list that didnāt get into the school list, and the initial ~By Student~ header disappeared. Please, feel free to tidy up next time. Itās fine for people to just get their info in wherever and for others to help keep things orderly.
Lovely job, @crowlady. Birds of a featherā¦
D received her official (automatic with grades, test scores) scholarship offer from SIU-Carbondale. It was sent through the online portal, and she has fifteen days to accept, decline, or ask for a deferment for her decision (by May 1).
Is this how itās normally done?
She has been at school, around the clock, this past week, for Madrigals Dinner and show. (She is one of the trumpet players.) Really, she got to come home for two hours, then went back to school for four-five hours, every night this week - then stayed up until 2 in the morning, doing homework. Then got back up at 6:30 am.
So she is running on empty, and a little stressedā¦
On top of this, she gets the SIU scholarship offer, and is told she is now eligible for another scholarship on top of that, up to full ride - competitive, where only a few are selected to compete and interview on campus - She has to write an essay, and it has to be in by Sunday evening.
I KNOW she does not have time to do the essay, she needs to use Sunday to catch up on homework (another show this evening, but Iām letting her sleep twelve hours, because - at some point she needs to refuel!) Iām also not making her do anything school-related today, because she needs some free time. She really does.
So, the auto scholarship is pretty nice, 6k per year, which is roughly half the tuition and fees - And honestly, with her grades - decent GPA, but less than 3.5 uw, and she has some Cs on her transcript - I really donāt see her being selected as a finalist. We also donāt need the money - we were willing to send her there before we knew she qualified for any meritā¦
We (she, Dad, and I) agree it would be okay if she doesnāt bother applying for the second competitive scholarship. Besides, there may be some kids whoa re really counting on that to go to college - sheās not.
She also would have to write the essay - in one day - and probably would put her behind on hw due tomorrow and this week - she likes to get ahead on some Sundays, if she canā¦
She is FINALLY developing some good study habits this semester, and I really hate for her to get behind - for a POSSIBLE scholarship she likely wonāt be selected for, and is not necessary for her to attend collegeā¦
So that is her dilemna. I told her, if she has time to write the essay, go for it, of course. But, if not - do what she needs to do for school tomorrow and this week, and there is still the 6k, which everyone is happy about.
Added to the mix is that SIU is not her first choice, but sheād be willing to go if she had to. She applied to two other school so far, and one has not sent their scholarship letter yet.
Obviously, she will send the e-mail to sIU today asking for the deferment to make her decision about enrollment and the scholarshipā¦
My question is, do other schools make the scholarship offer in such a hard-sell way? Basically, if she accepts within the suggested fifteen-day deadline, then it means she will attend SIU.
Thatās strange @BeeDAre Were you told how that it was going to be like that when your D applied??
@BeeDAre One school asked D to officially accept their offered scholarship, but it didnāt mean that she will attend the college. We didnāt have to pay the deposit. So, I assume if you donāt have to pay the deposit, you can accept anything you like and change your mind later.
She doesnāt lose the scholarship if she asks for her deferment for her decision, does she? May 1 is the deadline. It just sounds like they want to know if sheās made a decision yet. Tulane sent an email asking if D will attend or if she needs more Information from the school and/or more time to decide. Still, the deadline is May 1.
@readingclaygirl, No. When she applied, the scholarships page on their website just states that they are automatic scholarships, and awarded based on grades and test scores. It also says that the Chancellorās and University Excellence scholarships are competitive.
But nothing was said about having to respond within 15 days.
Itās not a problem, really, if she can simply respond by e-mail and defer her decision - but the way itās worded, I can see many kids thinking that they either need to accept within the 15 days or forget about the merit $ altogetherā¦
Iām thinking they are probably required to give until May 1 to let students make a decisionā¦
@lonetreegrad, I was thinking that, too. I think I need to call someone on Monday morning, and ask what happens if goes ahead and accepts - does this lock her into enrolling?
The Automatic Scholarships deadline has passed, so I donāt think her accepting hers will lock someone else out from receiving one.
See, this is the lingering question in the back of my mind. Iām thinking they just want her to hurry and decide.
My guess is students apply and are awarded scholarships and then they never hear back from the student untill May 1st when they are either accepting or declining. If they have an idea within 15 days (accept, decline or simply I need more time) it helps the school gauge where they are with scholarship funds. If there is simply no response from an applicant, itās safe to say that arenāt interested and they can give that award to someone else.
@lknomad D just received the Berkeley LOR request!
I take it thatās a good thing? ^ 
D just got her award letter form Ohio U. 10k altogether! I think that means she will pay equivalent of in-state tuition (we are OOS.) I LIKE this offer for her
Andā¦ she doesnāt have to accept until May 1.