Sorry, @mysonsdad. Is he going to accept his position?
@Sophmore1, most likely, but wait listed to ND is just a long rejection
D into Grinnell with scholarship. Donât think sheâs that interested at this pointâŠ
Congratulations @booajo ! D isnt that excited either.
@PAO2008 : âFamily, neighbors and close friends - uh it will likely be 50 or more people.â
Wow. I donât think we, the family unit, know 50 people. Do you cater for this? Cook? BYOâŠ?
Congrats to those with good news. Sorry about the Notre Dame results. Ice cream for all. Hoping for more good news soon.
S (finally) came home and after (slowly) eating dinner, checked his decision for University of Rochester and he was accepted. Really happy for him about this one. I think he does enjoy watching my blood pressure go up. @-)
Congratulations @PAO2008
Ooooh, wicked!! Congratulations anyway!!
@PAO2008 Congrats! I can see my son does the same thing.
So I am more a reader than a poster but I have come to value all of your opinions and wisdom. I am looking for a little advice especially since this is my first rodeo. My D got a nice in state full ride that includes several study abroad trips. It is to my alma mater so we were thrilled. Today she got a full tuition scholarship to her first choice school but that will still require us to pay almost $15,000 a year. And now she says the state school is her top choice because it will be free. How do I make sure that she is making her choice based on what she really wants versus her desire to save us money? She is a twin and her sister has no such desires so we will probably be paying our EFC one way or another.
I have to say that many days you all have made me smile with your kindness and support for one another. How nice would it be if the real world was like the CC one on this thread.?
@madredos It sounds like she likes the full ride school and if she wants to go to grad or professional school might think you could hep her then. Talk to her about it, but if a good school wants her enough to give her a full ride and she likes it there, why not? Family situations change financially, she may like knowing she doesnât have to worry about that and might not want to worry about feeling like she should limit her food and housing choices if you are paying. I see your point, but her taking cost into consideration is not at all a bad thing. It isnât like you pressured her, she sounds like an awesome kid and that twin thing is always a powerful force to reckon with. (-:
@madredos - a friend of ours told me a story several years ago about friends of his with twins. Both were highly accomplished and got into lottery schools back then. One joined the lottery school while the other told her parents she would rather go to in town state school which gave a full ride with study abroads and save her parents money (I guess one twin looks out for parents? 
).
I was more interested in the outcomes which was that one who went to our local U ended up at MIT for a PhD and the other went for a PhD at Wisconsin. That was my learning curve into what you do in college matters much more than where you end up.
Having a child exhibit that type of consideration for the familyâs finances is admirable and makes me want to reach out with a hug to her. Doesnât mean I would seal the deal in that regard, though, but would seriously sit down with her and ask her to write out the reasons she feels she would thrive and be happy. Ask her to close her eyes and see herself answering questions about her own alma mater to people after she graduates, and whether she would be pleased to think of herself as a graduate of one over the other. The opportunities extended to her beyond the mere financial assistance seem marvelous, so it is quite possible she is actually quite pleased in addition to being practical.
She obviously has a long-range goal in mind, knowing that your plate is full, and maybe there will be more schooling to come for her.
One thing to consider in this whole exercise is some of the more particular traits youâve seen in your girls, and the impact the girls have on each other. Where one girl is willing to consider the familyâs budget, and you already know the other would not make such a concession to finances, have you noticed this to be a lifelong difference in their dispositions? Have you noticed whether one seems âcompliant and easy-goingâ, but could possibly feel overshadowed, or nudged out of the way due to a willingness of the other to express - and receive - whatever occurred to her to ask for?
These questions, I will admit, are presumptuous and may move you close to being edgy with me. I am used to that at this point, so I ask anyway, based on what Iâve been exposed to and what I have seen play out between my girls, who are not twins, but a year apart. One is breathtaking and one will take your breath and any other essential aspect of your being that you are willing to lay down for her, kind of like the woman central to Billy Joelâs âAlways a Woman (To Me).â
My advice, be mindful of your daughterâs consideration, and then sit with her and let her know that at this time (if this is true; if finances allow) you expect her to think of what it is her heart is telling her will help her to launch her adult life feeling like she can open the doors she wants, and walk through them feeling the way she wants to feel. Feeling her best self, for all the reasons that may entail.
Good luck to you.
@madredos I also worry that D is going to pick her school to save us money. That seems great(it IS great), but I want to make sure she is getting the college experience I want for her. Hopefully she will be able to articulate why she is making her choices.
Hey everyone, just found out I got into Bowdoin College with a Faculty Scholar Award (one-time $3000 grant for research, study abroad, or internships) and UCLA!
Two different beasts. What was your strategy, @frenchtoastlover? Congrats! Youâll either need flip-flops or LLBean Gore-Tex gear.
@Waiting2exhale Thank you! Iâll probably make a post about it after all the decisions come in! Tough to know, but at this point I think itâs because I took the time to really research each college and put effort into the essays for each school. I probably reached the benchmark for standardized testing (2250 SAT/ 34 ACT) and I had a perfect GPA with rigorous courseload. However, I think I really conveyed myself strongly through my personal statement, and chose teachers that knew me really well to write rec letters. Still, thereâs always an element of luck!
DS got a no from Pomona and yes from UCLA.
My DS got into UCLA. And today he passed his driving test too. Good day today.
DD got into UCLA and Harvey Mudd