@sbjdorlo -Almost logged in earlier re: @2manybooks post, but yours did it! That’s too bad about the kid transferring out of Stanford. Hope the next place works out better. Do you know where that will be? It has not been S '13’s experience at all…too bad this student did not manage to find him (and his friends— which, as you might remember, this is my ‘Mr. Social’ child---- who are everywhere). He was just saying the other day that his two favorite classes might actually have been philosophy (2 students in the prof’s office) and English Lit…specifically Mark Twain. And he is technically a quantitative kid!
@2manybooks and @piesquared - We have a few friends who attended Stanford. We have one of our own there now and so know many, many students quite well. S knew some before he attended and he has been there for a few years. We also have a friend from our home town who is a Stanford prof. Great people-all of them. They all love learning. Very intellectually engaged. All very personable and successful.
S '13’s first roomie was a Fellow from a super-selective program. (Can’t name it-too identifiable.) S was told he was matched with him because they thought he would deal with it well, which was true. He doesn’t get star struck easily. He’s always just himself. What a great first yearl The conversations were fascinating, and they had a blast. The next roommate (1st one is currently immersed at-maybe running?-a lab somewhere working on the next brilliant discovery and working on a doctorate) is equally fascinating in a less off the charts way (he’s almost have to be!), but still so interesting, impressive, fun and amiable.
S says most of the students at Stanford are like that and I would agree. Movers and shakers for sure, but you might not find that out for a while. Very humble bunch, in our experience. You usually hear about their crazy accomplishments form someone else. S has a good friend that, after a couple of years, he found out some way-not from him- that this guy is a millionaire from some random thing…don’t even remember what at this point. Or which friend. Could go on with similar stories and plenty of name dropping. But these friends are just like your kid or mine. You would never know it, for the most part. S did say that occasionally he runs into someone who has no idea how they got in and will be the first to tell you they don’t have the same ‘wow’ factor-hidden or otherwise-the good old imposter complex. In his experience, those students might have to work a bit harder but still do okay, and are great in their own way.
I ran the ‘info’ from the recent posts by S '13 and his friends and this is what they replied. Stanford is known to ‘not’ be competitive. (Our kid came in with much less academic prep and does just fine. In fact, he does so much outside of class, we sometimes wonder if he is even going to school!) Some kids do put pressure on themselves, however. He has one friend who finally let go of the need to get an A+ in every class. But he said it is more a function of the fact that she is a GA Tech prof’s kid. He is not involved with startups, knows those that are and does not find it overwhelming at all. Lots of ‘fuzzy’ students there as well. He takes CS and engineering as do many of his friends. They don’t have issues with peer pressure. And they have no idea why anyone would say Greek life there is oppressive. It’s basically a non-factor, small presence, away from the main campus and the administration monitors the Greeks closely and deals swiftly and proactively with the system. Can’t speak specifically to German, but there have not been a bunch of department cuts or even talk about it out in the open or in print. Maybe behind closed doors, but I don’t know why that would be the case? That’s a good question for our professor friend.
As per weather…S misses rain, of all things, at times. But one thing he really loves and helped draw him there over contenders in the NE (wouldn’t even consider the midwest weather!) is the ability to be active all the time in shorts and tennis shoes. He is constantly playing basketball, football, tennis, ultimate frisbee-you name it-and recruits for intramurals as well. He says the seasons are distinct enough, better than socal! And that snow and nasty weather tends to get old after a while when you have to live in it and get around on a regular basis. Please don’t shoot the messenger! Just a different point of view that should probably be expressed for those who might be interested.
@piesquared - “I do in fact know some students who turned down Stanford for other schools, including after the admitted students’ visit. It is a wonderful place for some students. It is not the best fit for all students, even all who get in.” Totally agree with that statement. S '13 couldn’t have found a better fit. S '16 wouldn’t consider it because it is his brother’s school and in California. D '10 wanted a LAC. Have you given up on Fordham? We have a close friend that is a prof there and know several kids who have attended and been very happy with the experience. But you are a long ways away from NYC! Good luck with your decision.
ps- I apologize again for the length of this post. I tend to ramble late at night!
And the ones that turned down Stanford that we ran across tended to be those who couldn’t fathom giving up the MIT experience, or ‘fuzzy’ types that wanted the Ivy and tradition of Yale. The numbers confirm those cross-admits and outcomes.