OMG @HiToWaMom
My DD has a physics teacher like that, Complaining to the school had no impact, they said he is old… He even grades girls lower, as she is a girl she must have copied it off the internet.
Getting aggravated even typing about this
My H, the Aerospace Engineer, LOVED hidden figures. Super stickler for details so that is high praise.
UGH @HiToWaMom I hope that dynamic changes. My S just transferred into “walking yoga” out of “team sports” to get away from what sounded like a bunch of lunkheads. For all I know he is the only guy in there. LOL! He doesn’t care, is absolutely thrilled with the change.
QOTD…
How are you getting your kids to “check out” or take a mental health break from social media with all that is going on? I am not remotely trying to get political or to bring that into it but it is such an inundation of news that is overwhelming regardless of your position and I believe really unhealthy to not take a “break” from the news and discussing the news.
My S is super passionate about a lot of things and leading up a lot of things. It has become all encompassing. As of last night he was in 30 group chats with 600 (yes 600) unread messages in these chats. Not healthy and he knows it but “people are counting on him” and “he wants to leave a legacy at school” and he cannot step away. Will not. Can not (in his mind).
We were babysitting my niece and nephew last night (he got the 2 year old, I took the 4 month old lol) and he was absolutely freaking out that his phone would die before my sister got home. I seriously want to take the phone away but more importantly I want him to figure out how to self regulate. He isn’t really neglecting other things (well except the litter box!) but it’s so not healthy…
It’s a little messed up that I almost wish he was a gamer! LOL.
I think @MotherOfDragons makes a great point about the kids taking their cue from the teacher. A teacher who calls a mixed gender class “gentlemen” is not sending the right message. D has been in engineering classes at HS for four years now and hasn’t encountered any sexism. Her teachers are great and from what D says and seeing them at conferences, I can’t imagine any of them would treat girls with disrespect. So there’s hope!
I’m cheap so I’ll probably wait to see Hidden Figures when it’s out on Netflix or Amazon, but it sounds great.
My kids aren’t on social media. Son is something of a gamer but a lot less in last couple of years. Daughter is not.
@Building, @eandesmom All right! More thumbs up for the movie!
Yeah, I heard “walking/yoga” class is pretty much all-girls class. Good for him! I hope girls will not look at him like “what is he doing here?”
How horrible!! I’m getting aggravated even reading about it!! Yeah, the Auto Tech teacher is old, too. But grading girls lower? That is not acceptable!
@HiToWaMom he could care less lol. I am sure there are some that are, but he’s amazingly comfortable in his own skin. I wish I had that at the level he does! He is also far more likely to be friends with that group…than the typical “team sports” guy. LOL!
@eandesmom, my S would be there with your S. He does not have the jock mentality. He has a number for friends of both genders and treats them equally. His older sister would have thunked him hard if he didn’t!
Just as an fyi regarding science/engineering and sexism…I read that last year (2016) for the first time, there were more female finalists than male in the Regeneron Science Talent Search
Son17 is only a partial social media kind of guy. He just got twitter to follow some college stuff, has a Facebook account but never logs in, and doesn’t snapchat. He text chats with friends, that’s about it. He’d rather play games than socialize on social media. He is fairly active, so he gets plenty of unplugged time.
Son19 is a different beast, he is social media man and likes to game, and socialize and play sports, study and do clubs,He burns the candle constantly, no rest. He’s like my wife, go go go.
My son17 is more mellow like me and just goes with the flow and likes down time.
D17 is in her second semester of an engineering class, and the boys have started asking to pair up with her and her female friends in group projects, because they’re getting better results / higher grades. Would you consider that a form of reverse sexism?
Hidden Figures is fabulous! I went with my H and D, both of whom are heavily into aerospace engineering, and they gave it two thumbs up. My D15, who is a WGS major, was also pleased, of course.
QOTD: To be honest, I don’t try to divert my girls from social media. Independent of H and myself they decided to take part in a nearby rally during the Women’s March on Washington, and they came away very inspired. We’ve all taken to watching more political news, reading more forums, etc. No matter which side of the situation you’re on, the stakes seem high enough to warrant extra scrutiny, and I’d expect nothing less of them as citizens of this country.
Hidden Figures is a great movie. For a more complete picture, read the book! The movie covered just a few years of the book’s 30+ years.
QOTD: Through her Arabic studying, D has numerous friends and professors from the Middle East. She found herself getting anxious earlier this week and pulled back from social media. I now send her curated articles. She still listens to All Things Considered (NPR) when I have it on.
@eandesmom having a gamer, with no interest on regular social media (or even being social), is not such a good thing either :(. D17 is into her Social Media, but can unplug for a few hours if she needs to. The hardest lesson to learn, which she finally has, is what to post and not post. (use the grandma test–would you want your grandma to read it)
@snoozn @MotherOfDragons I have commonly been the only women in a group of guys. My first job the boss already referred to a group of us as the “boys”. (Programmers who were about 10 years younger than everyone else.) That never bothered me… I’ve learned to just shrug it off. Wish we had better non gendered terms for groups of people in this language. “Gentleman & Ladies” would have bugged me probably more in this situation…
But the comment about girls being better at organization… THAT bothers me. Putting everyone in one basket…
@HiToWaMom My father made sure I knew how to do auto repair. I used to change my own oil, and even replaced a clutch (twice) with my father help on my first car. It’s the only reason i could afford that car. I’m too lazy to do it myself these days. But I know a lot more about car repair than my husband.
QOTD: DS ( and I ) have “alternate” political views than most people here, so he is OK 
QOTD: My DS is a big gamer but not on social media at all. I was actually encouraging him to go on a little so he can connect with other students once he decides on a college. He used to have Facebook but went off a few years ago when he never looked at it. I am on more social media than him and I see how it can be so time consuming.
It’s hard to find a balance.
@eandesmom @mtrosemom What is the typical “team sports guy” and “jock mentality?” Asking because my son has been playing team sports for ten years and is a tier one hockey player, plays varsity lacrosse, swims and has wrestled. Just wondering, I want to make sure he’s following the criteria for group think and behavior.
Time for a JOTD:
Q: What did the janitor yell when he jumped out of the closet?
A: “Supplies!”
@cleoforshort I did not mean to gross generalize at all but can see how it might have come across that way. My apologies. My S is simply not into any kind of team sports which is more of a sports issue than a type of guy personality issue pre-se. He has plenty of friends that play sports at a variety of levels. However the vast majority of student athletes at our school, that are more “serious” students and more “serious” athletes, tend to take PE in 9th/10th and aren’t as heavy on the music side of things. They also take a more competitive PE class than this one.
In the class he switched out of, and yes this is a gross generalization of it’s own kind, it was a very non-academic somewhat sexist aggressive group of boys that my S tends to avoid like the plague. Kind of not dissimilar to taking an on-level class but wishing you were in the honors version due to the classroom mix. Except that in some classes there is no honors version. Bear in mind too that my S is hardly a top student, just a relatively solid one.
@srk2017 I don’t think the social media overload for news is limited to any one kind of view which is why I asked the question.
@cleoforshort, my son is similar to eandesmom’s son. Team sport weren’t his thing. He played, but quit competitive soccer because he did like to push other kids. He tend towards more singular sports, like martial arts. He doesn’t even really like to watch sports that much. He likes games of all kinds. Board, card, online. That is more his personality. He totally is not sports-minded and not athletic.