Congrats @Fishnlines29! Thrilled that it all worked out for her.
Congrats @Fishnlines29 D!
@LoveTheBard If you’re a superstar that gets into Chicago RD you might get enticed with lots of merit since they probably saved so much with their 2 rounds of ED. They’ll be trying to cherry pick some top students in that round now.
Thank you and to answer all your questions at once: @srk2017 @RightCoaster No gap year, NYU has faculty and their own campus in Paris.
D originally wanted to major in Physics. She indicated Physics as her first choice at each college she applied to except for NYU! The reason is that when we visited NYU’s open house in the fall, we attended a session for their Core Liberal Studies program and she loved what she heard. For Liberal studies, you spend your first year abroad taking core classes in either Paris, Florence, London or Washington DC. The program touts smaller class sizes and more interesting core classes.
We were concerned that you cannot take calc or physics abroad, but D talked to the counselors and they explained everyone has to take the same number of core credits and in Year 2, when she’s back in NYC, she can take 6 classes of electives toward her desired major. Year 3 is when she would declare her major.
I think she liked this idea because she’d like to explore a bit anyway prior to committing to the sciences. She’s also very philosophical and when she read up on the core curriculum, she found it very interesting. That along with her desire to live in Paris (ever since our recent visit there) made the program seem like a perfect fit. And yes, @rerunagain Paris was her first choice on the application! So I guess she was lucky she got it!
Thanks everyone for the well wishes. She was on a high with a huge smile for about 3 hours straight!
@vandyeyes and @Fishnlines29 congrats on two great acceptances. you must be thrilled to be done
@Fishnlines29 – wow Paris for a year before NYU - how cool - what will she be doing there – I am jealous!! My S18 will be applying to NYU and I think he could possibly benefit from a gap year somewhere - to experience something different and to mature some as well.
@CA1543 No gap year - she’ll actually be attending her freshman year at NYU in Paris!! Crazy but exciting! What does your S18 want to study?
Thanks @BigPapiofthree We are thankful to be done. D has had a rough year, it’s so nice to see something go her way!
@Fishnlines29 – look for a message to you PM - notification.
We had a sad night. Rejected from Claremont McKenna. Now it is on the wait for last ones… This rollercoaster is tough to watch/experience. D17 now feels worse about her acceptances (Villanova, BC, and Miami). Any words of wisdom appreciated.
@texasmissy We had a similar fate a few years ago - several early acceptances followed by a string of waitlists and rejections. But the schools he got into were very good, just like your daughter’s. One of them will be the right one - you’ll see that when the process is over and you’ve decompressed. She wouldn’t have chosen the schools that accepted her initially if she didn’t like them - go where you’re wanted and don’t look back.
@texasmissy, if you can go and visit the top one or two (again if you’ve already been there) and see if she can sit in on a class or two. That migh help jell a choice and make her feel good about the good schools that she has acceptances to.
We have some of those coming. I feel it.
Thank you @youcee and @mtrosemom. We started looking at our options. I really appreciate the support. Hard to watch my kiddo so disappointed!
QOTD: How much cursing is allowed in your house?
My kids are 15 and 17, yet they somehow rarely curse – my younger one in fact has alternate “curse words” for when she wants to voice her displeasure about something. “Flippin’ pancakes!!” - when she realizes she has homework she didn’t know about, and it’s 10PM.
I don’t know why they don’t curse, because while my spouse and I don’t curse at home often, in the CAR is a totally different story. I don’t know why, maybe because I learned how to drive in NYC, but I really Hulk out in the car. It’s like I’m a sailor. I can’t explain it.
STORY TIME! When my younger daughter was 5 or 6, I was driving her and a friend of hers home from ice cream. I heard the other little girl say, “Last night, my daddy said the “S” word!” And my daughter replied, so aghast her voice was almost muted, “he said… …‘stupid?’”
So, yeah.
Wow, @vandyeyes, huge congratulations!!
@Fishnlines29 That’s terrific, and what a relief. 
Congrats @Fishnlines29 – that’s the best of both worlds! Paris is the best.city.ever.
So sorry, @texasmissy. Is your D still waiting on some more decisions that might brighten her day?
@Dolemite - given the 9% early admit rate at UChicago, I think there was plenty of cherrypicking going on in those rounds. I do hope that they are saving some merit for what will likely be a really small RD group and that whoever among out kids that are in that pool will get lucky!
Cursing I reined it in for many years, but it’s starting back - I blame robotics team. The lead mentors curse quite a bit. But overall, we aren’t big on cursing, but it does happen. When D was 3, we were in the car & she told me to “tell the ?*!hole to get the ?@! out of the way” - after that I made a conscious effort to not curse. However, it does come out when I’m driving.
College decisions Thankfully, D made a decision & is done. She had one more scholarship competition that she was going to try, but it was a long shot & without winning one of the few good scholarships, it would be unaffordable. While I wanted her to look at one other college in our price range with a better program for her major, she decided that it wouldn’t be a good fit because it doesn’t have some of the other things she was looking for (orchestra, Japanese). So enrollment & housing are done. The bonus is that S15 goes to the same college & both now get $1000 sibling scholarship - YAY!
Huge smiles for @vandyeyes and @Fishnlines29 ! What fantastic news. I am so happy we have this little community to celebrate the successes of all our kids.
And many hugs to @texasmissy . That is so hard. But sounds like there are still great options on the table. I am more impressed the more I learn about Miami.
Swearing? Yes, to a degree. I learned how to swear in graduate school (unintentional pun alert!). Now that the kids are older I don’t try to stop them necessarily. I think it’s one way to teach kids that words can have power, and they can be important. Conversely, forbidding certain words or ways of interacting can make them overly powerful, I think. So if they choose to do so (which they rarely do), it has to be done effectively. No losing your head and spouting off random words in anger. And of course we’ve discussed that they are only allowed to do so at home, and racial/homophobic/discriminatory slurs are completely forbidden. And it goes without saying that rules of grammar must always apply .
But if you misuse an apostrophe to denote a plural noun I can’t be responsible for what I might say. It won’t be pretty.
Happy to share S got accepted to Vanderbilt. Very excited for him.
Congrats to @michiganbuckeye for decision and @BigPapiofthree for acceptance! Hugs for all at the @texasmissy house.