And we are done. We are “full pay” with only one merit award that puts it close to everything else.
Final numbers private, state, UK:
Willamette - accepted with 25K/year trustees merit award
SLO- accepted
UC Davis - accepted
SDSU accepted, honors college
UCSB- waitlisted
UCSD- waitlisted
University of St. Andrews- accepted
University of Durham- accepted
University of Edinburgh- conditionally accepted
University of York-conditionally accepted
University of Bath- rejected
@firstwavemom Contact the Office for Student w Disabilities. They should be able to walk her through what accommodations might be necessary- not the first kid w chronic migraines. Definitely don’t try and reinvent the wheel.
@texasmissy Will do. I need to get her to see a doc here in June and get documentation before summer orientation.
@VickiSoCal Congratulations! Decision time. FWIW, my good friend’s daughter is at St. Andrew’s and loves it. Traveling through Germany for Spring Break
@firstwavemom she’s leaning towards St. Andrews. It’s definitely going to be a once in a lifetime experience for sure if she goes there.
Today she’s feeling down about UCSB. Needs a little time to mourn.
@Mom2aphysicsgeek, Thank you so much for sharing about your family, I know everyone of these ASD kids is special, and has a place in the world. I try to see my role as helping to build a trellis for him to grow up. Always there supporting, but he has to do the growing. Just hearing about others experiences helps me know what sort of help may be available, and what I can expect.
As a homeschool mom, I can relate to so many of the experiences you have shared about your family. In reality I feel lucky, we have had a relatively easy adolescent period, but as we move to this next transition, I know emotions will run high, and we will have some serious bumps. At home and in the “real” world.
For the future I worry about the employment possibilities for my DS . I think about all of the things that can get in the way. - his quirky speech patterns- his “willingness” to argue over the simplest things- the lack of awareness of personal space and how he comes across- but I love his sense of humor and ability to care about his little sister. There is a place in life for all of them, but teasing it out is not easy. So I am really cautioning him to not take out huge loans, even if he sees the average salary of an engineer as a quick way to pay it back. Will he be that 5% that take a loooog time to get a job?
So I am very thankful to all of you for sharing and helping me see that there are many roads to the future.
I vote for St Andrews! Friends’ son attends. Travels all around Europe on the weekends and breaks. I don’t know what he’s studying or if he’ll have a job, but he’s having a blast!
@5redheads & @Mom2aphysicsgeek boy do I hear you girls! So many worries and fears for my ASD boy. It’s definitely a different road than raising our other kids.
Dealing with two very sad and dejected teens today, D17 and the bf both rejected from UCSB. He’s in at Irvine, she hasn’t heard, which is starting to look like a rejection as many received waitlists today. She’s in at SLO. An Irvine- SLO relationship doesn’t sound very attractive to either of them, but that may be what they’re left with. They have a few east coast contingencies still open, but I’m finding it hard to believe they’ll be feasible with his parents. UC’s are insane this year, D17 looks like she’s been shut out of UC’s, will be offered Merced, but no one wants to go there. The bf got into exactly one UC, waitlisted at one more, with a 4.3 GPA and 34 ACT, top 5% of his class, great EC’s and leadership. I’ve officially decided CS is the stupidest major ever, and no kid should try to apply under it. All of these schools with acceptance rates in the 30% range have CS acceptance rates under 5%. No bueno.
@payn4ward Thank you so much! I am only about an hour from Boston and work halfway between home and there, so if NEU ends up being your son’s choice, I’m happy to reciprocate on this end. We were fortunate to have TSA Pre when we visited.
@firstwavemom thanks for the dotl scoop! I also went to uva and would love for ds to pick it. We have officially visited once with ds but he was not excited. I am hoping apr 14 dotl is a beautiful day and he can attend a class and magically decide its the place for him. If not, he has several other great choices and I will be supportive… even though I will secretly be sad.
@socalmom007 and others, I’m curious: What’s so bad about UCMerced?
(My only knowledge of the school at all comes from an old friend of mine who’s now a geotech professor and was part of the first PhD class from there—but that’s grad school, and that’s nearly always different.)
@dfbdfb Congrats!! That’s great news on the acceptance and scholarship!
@firstwavemom all of the advice provided by @nerdmom88 is right on point. I would add that one of the criteria is that the student will be interviewed by the office of Accessibility. My S17 has a documented medical disability for several years. He has no formal plan set up at his school. At the end of junior year, the college counselor ask us to meet with a disability counselor to get S17 “college ready.” I had no idea what this was all about and said it would be up to S17 if he wanted to meet with her. I met with her first and she explained that many kids are denied accommodations at college because of an inability to articulate what their disability is.
I think S17 is close to a decision, or at least is leaning heavily in one direction so I started the conversation with the college today and have paperwork to complete. I’m hoping to get all of the medical documentation submitted right after the deposit is made.
@dfbdfb it’s just out in the middle of nowhere and it doesn’t have a prestigious reputation. Most kids I know don’t apply to Merced or Riverside, they apply to the tops down to Santa Cruz and maybe a few CSU’s like CP slo, SDSU, etc…
@dfbdfb - Congrats on the SuperMac! @socalmom007 - I am sorry that the kids applications haven’t matched up. @Mommertons - I am jealous. I don’t even know what accepted student days (ASD) my D is going to attend.
In my opinion, she should attend at least 2 ASD. D realized for the 1st time yesterday that attending ASD is going to require missing school; she was not happy.
@dfbdfb UC-Merced rep suffers, because it’s the equivalent of a decent to good “directional” school, but is being compared against the other UC’s, many of which are the equivalent of state “flagship” universities…It’s almost never someone’s first or second choice.
