@chippedtoof yours is a good point. All these top level kids could succeed and thrive at all the super selective school. The best way I heard it phrased was when we visited Duke and the AO said kids don’t get "rejected"from these types of schools but rather the students that are admitted get “selected”
Hell there are kids with perfect test scores and straight A’s and great EC that get rejected from these schools. The kids basically couldn’t do anymore or had more success and yet they don’t get in.
I believe that we as parents (and I know from reading this forum that all of you are of the same thinking) need to tell our kids how proud we are of what they have accomplished and what fine young men and woman they have become in the first 17-18 years of their lives. They should not let a rejection from super selective school discourage them or take away from all that they have worked so hard to accomplish. I know when those inevitable rejections come I am going to hug her, tell her how proud of her I am and that I love her.
I was at my older daughter’s vespers concert at college last night so just checking in now. I want to say that I truly think your children are all amazing and Stanford doesn’t know what it passed up. I know they all have so many good things coming their way!
I heard 2 kids from S’s school were admitted to stanford last night (which is unusual for our school). I’m praying that they pull their other apps and don’t try to rack up acceptances. Most kids don’t but I’ve seen a few from our school do that and I really hate it. Were they really so torn between H, Y, P, S, and M that they had to apply to all of them after they were accepted EA at the first?
The news here is S18 and I are taking the train in January to visit Franciscan. I’ll report back. It’ll be S18’s first train ride, and I haven’t done one since I was his age (how I used to go back and forth to college myself.) Includes a layover in DC. I’m excited!
D took her last ACT to optimize chances, but, as I told her, her coursework and scores were more than good enough. She herself is more than good enough. All of these wonderful children would be considered valuable commodities for all the effort, conscientiousness, and attention they have given in their schools, communities, and families. There are so many rejections and bad circumstances (ie too sick to take an exam to qualify for a scholarship due date), but
that’s ok. Maybe this was not the time for these places or events and honestly, things almost always work out for our best, whether in developing resilience or finding their place.
Any advice from other parents who just went through this to prep with S for his Mon ED decision? If a yes, of course we’ll all celebrate. If a no - consoling things to say? Also, he has not done several other “reach/dream school” RD apps yet, most due around Jan 1. Was trying to encourage him to work on some of those essays this weekend (but not hit submit yet). Crazy parent idea?? Did you encourage your kids to do RD writing “in advance” while waiting for the ED decision?
Thanks @melvin123 . Only school he has applied to …so far …
He was Intending on Drexel, Nova, Lehigh, Penn + Princeton. Possibly Villanova.
But Pitt was his preference, visited over summer and fell hard .
@MDSparkle re other apps, great idea if you can get your kid to do it, but we’re so close now, I wouldn’t make this a huge issue, but that’s just me. Re preparing for the result…some of her cousins were over last night and their comments that even if she gets rejected, the fact that she had the stats to apply and have a realistic expectation of getting in was a huge accomplishment. Although I’ve said that a million times, I’ve had no reaction. Watching her last night, you could visibly see her sit taller and feel good about herself when it came from kids just a little older than her and who’ve been through the process recently themselves.
If anyone has anything to say post getting bad news that they thought was effective, I’d love to hear too. Hoping for the best, trying to prepare for the worst. Waiting on 3 decisions probably all at the end of next week, beginning of the following week. Right during mid-terms. Sigh.
Down to the last 2 apps and supps - getting close! DS18’s high school wants them all done by mid-Dec! I’ll be glad to have them done as well. No ED apps but a number of EAs - hoping for some good news sometime soon. Congrats to those hearing good news. Hugs for anyone who has been disappointed in the process so far. It is going to a long process I think for my DS.
@MDSparkle no great advice, but it probably depends a lot on your kid and what their expectations are. Good luck!
We did talk about expectations and what each possible outcome might mean before the decision came. So there was a plan in place for next steps.
In case anyone wonders, if he’d gotten in, would have not applied to final 2 schools on his list.
If he didn’t get in, he of course would apply to the 2 schools. And in fact, he is now adding another match as well (I didn’t realize that one was still under consideration, but I’m good with it!)
Because of scholarship deadlines and low expectations for Stanford, he already has 7 other applications done. And into one of his safeties (Minnesota), which I do believe helped a lot with emotions.
