Thank you so much! CALS is certainly the natural fit for her primary interest. But, she was wanting to possibly double major in East Asian Studies (have no idea where that came from) which is in CAS. We discussed the likelihood that double majoring even is she was in CAS would likely be too much. Maybe that was her rationale for settling on CALS?
When we visited, we got some very spooky vibes: there is a b&b in downtown Ithaca with the name of our dog, a village next to Ithaca has D25s name, and there is a building on campus with our family name. Kismet?
D25 completed her Supplemental essay for scholarship to her top choice school but was too scared to hit submit and asked me to. Shes a goof. (She would not let me read it).
That’s a great question? I don’t really know. I know they definitely repeat with puncture wounds etc, and often with pregnancy, but as far as I know most people are good for 10 years. Recommendations change all the time though. I do feel like the one I remember as a kid hurt a lot more than the more I got a few years ago, but maybe that’s just false memory. Or maybe it is different? Now I need to research lol
My daughter is in at SUNY Cortland!! Old school mail, just like 2023. She is committed athletically, but seeing the actual acceptance is SUCH a relief!!!
My worry today as we await D25’s top choice is financial aid. It’s a need aware college and we have fairly substantial need. I worry that financial need will work against her. I don’t know why I bother worrying about things I can’t change.
So many decisions happening today. I think the CC calendar listed > 20. Good luck to everyone!
News about S25 comes later tonight, but his boyfriend was accepted to Princeton with a full ride, so we are over the moon about that! He is like family and worked his butt off for this. So deserved.
DePaul accepted S25 last night. Chicago! He is so happy (we are too). It is his top (realistic) choice! This is the one we have been waiting in, and the merit award makes it work for us. Yay!! It is such a relief!
Can I share how surprised I am at how many schools do not use my kid’s preferred name in communications and/or misgender my child? S25 received an EA acceptance that did both, and for them, that is 1) upsetting when they should be happy and 2) an automatic “no thank you.”
They do this to me and all of my trans friends as well, unfortunately. I think it’s because CollegeBoard has our legal names on it, and they auto email using that information instead of using the portal system. Every email I’ve gotten from a real person has included my preferred name and pronouns though, thankfully! I agree with your kid - if a college can’t do the bare minimum of respect by checking preferred names within their own application portals, they aren’t worth going to.
I’m so sorry to hear that! Have you reached out to the school? I wonder if it’s just one person making a mistake and not a reflection of how the school does things? My son would be equally saddened.
Oh that’s so so disappointing. We haven’t had to deal with any of this because my son’s gender and name were legally changed last year so his dead name never needs to be used. It does make it easier.
I’m keeping my fingers crossed for your son later today!
Last summer I was advising a trans student and was really appalled the email id generated for him used his dead name. There is a mechanism through which a student can request a name change, but the student’s enrollment materials had his preferred name. Students shouldn’t have had to deal with this, especially when they are brand new to college. And they shouldn’t have to worry about their dead names appearing in an email to others or on course roster. In my student’s case, I emailed the office and they launched into action. There really seemed to be a disconnect between the whatever systems of student record keeping and our otherwise very proactive and responsive LGBTQ+ center.
