We are still in limbo, we tried to have a conversation with our son about college and it didn’t go well. I think he’s trying to make a “perfect decision” instead of just a good one.
I think he’s torn between the academic rigor of GT fitting his education goals but then worried he won’t know anyone, so UMD has more of a lean there. But I told him you don’t go to a college because you know someone there, that’s not a good reason. Carnegie he likes the arts portion of it, but as my husband said we aren’t shelling out another 120k so you can play in the pit at the play.
It’s frustrating as hell since I’m a planner. I’m like I need time to make sure everything is done properly, etc. Plus we can’t plan our summer vacation until we know when he needs to be there. UGH.
Commenting to make it easier to find later. 2 weeks left until decision day. I feel like most kids at our school have decided already. We’ve known for so long it seems. D25’s best friend hasn’t deposited yet but we’re pretty sure she has decided. It’s so interesting to see where she chose to go. It’s so different than what we thought she’d do.
It was indeed awesome to meet you and your C25 too. Definitely made it a much more well-rounded visit. We are heading out to Ohio tomorrow for Denison and Oberlin, our last rodeo, and then decision time!
S25 has committed to Holy Cross We weren’t able to make it to MA for Accepted Students Day. I’ve been backing off with my nagging about attending webinars, checking his portal, etc so I’m hopeful we didn’t miss anything important!
Popping in to wave hello from Greece! S25 is living his best life on this trip. He loved the scenery, the towns, the history, all the cats everywhere…. We’re almost done with the programmed part of our trip, and tomorrow night will catch up with my S22 on his study abroad for a few days before flying home on Sunday.
I’m studiously ignoring: (1) the fact that S25 in fact did not really pull his grades and assignments together before the third quarter ended last week. This quarter is going to be awful grades all around, but fortunately his earlier grades from the first part of the year will pull them up enough that he won’t lose admission. (2) the parents Facebook page for his selected school is all about things that kids should be doing and I can’t even make sense of the words (and he’s not checking his new email or portal) so he’s certainly not doing those things. I have the believe that since some students have committed yet, it can’t really be that important. And (3) all holy hell had broken out in my office this week - and I can’t try to deal with it because I’ve lost permissions on my work phone and can’t check email or teams messages. I’m sure my Deputy is managing, but he’s a new supervisor and has never really had to deal with drama and he’s got both big picture agency drama and interpersonal personnel drama going on. I feel for him, and I dread what I’m going to find on Monday.
But in positive news, this trip is feeling like a great reboot. I’m having good time together and break time apart from my kid (the tour organizer couldn’t find rooms with beds to sleep three - so husband and I are in one room and S25 is in a totally seperate room. It’s been a good entree into adulthood - he’s exploring the hotels and small towns in his own, with his own money, and going to bed and waking up and doing whatever he wants/needs on his own, just catching up with us for breakfast. It really feels more adult.)
And in SUPER positive news, I have an online friend group that I started making a thousand years ago when wedding planning, then it morphed into all people who were having babies around the same time, then we left the original platforms and have been in a closed Facebook group for years. Well, this woman I’ve “known” for 15-20 years but have never met, who knows a ton about me and my family, lives in Athens! And we got together for dinner and it was SO GREAT to meet one of my “fake internet friends” in real life. We had a great dinner laughing and eating and it just made me so happy.
Wow I fell far behind and had a lot of reading to do to catch up.
I’ve been more of a reader than writer here during the college cycle, and for that I’m so sorry not to have been able to contribute more. I’ve been on CC since my kids applied to boarding school in 8th grade, so by now there are so many people I know in real life from here that I couldn’t talk about my kids’ college journeys much since they were being pretty private about their paths and plans. It’s so helpful when people share their ups and downs, so I’m sorry I couldn’t contribute along the way.
Happily, my D3 and D4 have made their decisions – Berkeley and USC (California). I slept well last night for the first time in a long while! :).
Enjoy your trip @OctoberKate! I worked in Greece after undergrad and I just love it there! how fun to see your internet friend! I still have friends I met on the Knot over 20 years ago, and then we migrated to Fertility Friend (I age myself surely with that), and then onto Facebook. What a fun dinner that must have been! And congratulations on Clemson decision!
that’s amazing. I was SO into it back at that time–I remember meeting up with people IRL for dinner once, but can’t say I stayed in touch with any. There was some crazy drama on those boards though!
I am still friends with the new moms from my new moms group of 18+ years ago! I was just thinking how amazing it is we were also just texting about college decisions..
Same here! My BabyCenter friends and I are still in touch in a FB group, and we are all sharing college decisions now. Crazy how long these relationships can persist!
D25 had her last AP Chem test today. The next couple of weeks will just be review for the exam. I think they’re “behind” in the rest of the AP classes she’s in but I’m sure it feels good to be done with that one!
Did our last tour today at Vassar. Was going really well and I was beginning to feel my kid might actually make a decision by the end of the day until…… he met a kid, a freshman, on campus, that I had arranged. I ‘met’ this kid on a Vassar sub thread and realized they had the same interests as my kid. (I know that sounds kinda weird and creepy). They were absolutely lovely and hilarious to chat with, and a great match for my kid. They had a great meet up today, apparently- I wasn’t privy, but my son shared how much he liked the student, but my kid’s demeanor changed slightly after. Because this lovely student shared the good and the -not -so-good at Vassar (and the not so good was not bad at all, it was normal stuff, like how it can be hard to make friends first semester) but the not so good was what my kid took from the meeting - argh!
This was my doing- What was I thinking?
My kids college future might come down to the perspective of a 19 year old he doesn’t know.
Insert face palm
My kid finished calc bc last week and is reviewing now too. They are doing extra studying at home with hope of getting a 5 to test out of calc 1 and 2 for the fall to jump into calc 3.
I am not sure when the other classes will start the review process either.
We weren’t able to make it to MA for Accepted Students Day. I’ve been backing off with my nagging about attending webinars, checking his portal, etc so I’m hopeful we didn’t miss anything important!
