This is so true. I have loved seeing how posters genuinely rejoice in the successes of other people’s kids - I have seen no snark and no envy about what is shared, so no-one needs to shy away from posting what those admits are -whether those are highly competitive or auto-admit safety schools, or everything else in between. We all want what is best for our own kids, which differs, and that’s fine because ultimately all that matters is that our kids ends up somewhere that makes them happy.
The other aspect of course is having a supportive community to help each through all the anxiety that we sometimes have…
I totally agree. I joined in here late, but I stayed because everyone was so supportive and seems genuinely happy for all the wins, big or small, no matter whether they be at prestigious schools or safeties. I haven’t sensed anyone on this thread seeming “competitive” about admissions.
People get so invested in where their kids go. I was visiting my sister in NJ and talking about college and kids apps. A few days ago she was picking up her daughter from middle school and talking with another mom about highschool. The other mom mentioned her son had just graduated and had taken a lot of AP classes, my sister asked
“ so he got a lot of credits in college ?”
“oh no he got into Harvard, good schools don’t give you credit for AP it’s not like Rutgers or something”.
The funny thing is both me and my sister went to Rutgers. She lives in a pricey town and I guess this mom never imagined a Rutgers graduate would live there. We both thought it was hilarious. Kids can be successful no matter where thy go in fact having worked in Silicon Valley for 20 years I have never had a CEO who went to an Ivy. I just looked them up, Santa Clara University, San Jose state, Florida State University, University of Cincinnati are where the CEOs of my last few jobs have come from.
It’s the same where we are - just outside of Boston and it bleeds through to the kids as well. My daughter was telling some of the other kids where she applied and they were like “isn’t that kind of mid”. She’s considered one of the “smart kids” and they couldn’t fathom her not wanting to go to a super competitive school. I’m always grateful that she doesn’t let stuff like that get to her. She likes what she likes and not swayed by peer pressure. Not sure how that’s my kid because I was certainly not like that. Though I guess I am now.
Oh dude, I would have had to bite my tongue, too. But I’m glad you did, because now she’ll email and get the necessary info, and she’ll totally think it was her idea, lol!
I wish she’d said, sweet as pie, “Oh, my brother and I both went to Rutgers! We both had such good experiences and went on to be successful. Shame you don’t think it’s a good school.”
People sometimes need to be called out when they’re being oblivious.
My D26 is a little like that, but I haven’t quite figured out if it’s because she’s pretty different from the typical kid at her school, so she just embraces it – or if she genuinely enjoys standing out and being unique, lol.
In terms of college choice, though, her school doesn’t send a ton of kids to elite schools, so she doesn’t really feel that pressure even though she’s a strong student. In fact, most people go to a big SEC school, and that’s not a good fit for her at all, so she has no qualms about not following the crowd on that one.
I did something like that with an ignorant neighbor 2 yr ago when neighbor asked where D24 was going to college. I told the neighbor which school it was. Neighbor made a ‘put your foot in your mouth’ comment and I replied with a pretty good Suzy Sunshine voice (completely & purposely ignoring the judgmental tone of the neighbor’s comments). The neighbor’s comments were pretty embarrassing for her, when you think about it. Because she said, “Oh, huh, I’ve never heard of that school. It must not be very good. Why would she want to go THERE?”
On a side note, Im glad D26 doesnt care about sports.
Rice made national news this week because they have to bribe students to attend their football game with free beer, free ice cream, t shirt and a $15 food voucher.
As one Rice parent said: “If they want to get more students to attend, offer them 10 more points on their mid term.”
I was just telling my husband about that! And we were both surprised that they couldn’t get people to show even when offering freebies. Especially the grad students. In our experience (him having been one and my working with them), they show up en masse anywhere they’re offering anything free, regardless of what it is.
We are laughing so hard about this whole situation. I texted my Rice kid the NBC article, and I told her the fear in the parent FB group was that the students still wouldn’t show up, and then the whole country would know how lame the fans are.
She was like, I knew about the bribes of course, but I didn’t know it would be national news!
Is she at the game? No, no she’s not. She’s been to exactly one football game in her 3.5 years there, despite being friends with the MOB kids, and that was this year – because her suite mates knew of a tailgate booth that was giving out free shots and dragged her along.
Oh, and that funny parent who commented about adding 10 points on the midterm – she is my favorite, lol.
We’re watching Pitt-Ga Tech in our house, funny because D26 applied to both. D26 doesn’t care in the least (and is not home), but it amuses me. (Can’t bear to watch my alma mater Florida vs. Tennessee.) And Rice and North Texas were tied like two minutes ago, but now, welp, they’re not.
The Rice kids are deeply nerdy, lol. Just no football culture to speak of. For one game a couple years ago that was actually kind of exciting, my kid and her roommate sat in their dorm room and refreshed their phones every five seconds to keep up with the score…instead of just walking across campus and watching the game in person.
Parents here are kind of tiered about colleges. There are the group obsessed with prestige and then there’s the rest of us. With CC-UC becoming more and more common I think it also takes some of the “pressure” off.
Coming on here after missing quite a bit. @sbinaz I think you took the brunt over my comment about it being a “racket”. Sorry about that!
Wishing everyone a wonderful week leading up to Thanksgiving. December is going to be a big month in our house as far as college decisions. The outcomes will likely determine whether D26 stays in state (driving distance) or goes pretty far away (non-direct flight) . Unless of course the decision is a deferral - and the waiting will continue. I am trying my best to focus on the upcoming holiday and enjoy this time
Yup, same boat in our area. We love the CC/UC route. Def takes some of the pressure off. Plus our kids see other parents in our area who graduated from all different schools.
On football Rutgers hasn’t beaten a ranked opponent for since 2009, they are 0-40 against top 25 teams, somehow people still show up for the games no idea why.
Every post I have read on this thread has been negative toward ED0. With no factual analysis of the pros and cons. Just baseless claims. Then a post calls it a “racket”. And I lack creditability? Please, I think you missed the context of my post.
But I’m glad you did, because now she’ll email and get the necessary info, and she’ll totally think it was her idea, lol!
