Passages and sandwich generation issues- death, dying and sale of property

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<p>Oy, Amandakayak:</p>

<p>What the heck is pulmonary hypertension? I’m sure you traced your mom’s steps to what Doctors she saw or asked questions to during that month that she had “a cold”? Did she have any other illnesses or complications? How old was she? Yeah, what a shock.</p>

<p>It’s actually good for her, though, not the family she left behind. My mom had this stroke and cannot speak or lift herself out of bed, but she is aware and knows she had the stroke and knows she will not be going back to her home again. It’s excrusiatingly hard to watch her cry every time I come to see her and then leave to go back home. I have to get on an airplane…wish I could be closer!</p>

<p>My fil died almost 5 years ago, and there are certain things my mil is still holding onto. She is taking her time getting rid of stuff and that’s perfectly okay. Your father will do things in his own time, this was obviously quite a shock to him and to all of you.</p>

<p>Jym: How are you holding up?</p>

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<p>Dad passed away about an hour and a half ago. I was with him, and watched him take his last breaths, which meant a lot to me. Lots to do. His house doesn’t have internet and I am trying to get in touch with family, so am sitting in the hospital cafeteria. Modern technology.</p>

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<p>cyber hugs coming your way</p>

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<p>Jym, I’m so sorry. I’m glad you were able to be with him. Hugs.</p>

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<p>OH. JYM.</p>

<p>Wow. I am soooo sorry.
Thank goodness his suffering is over.</p>

<p>Please know that my thoughts & condolences go out to you and your family (even your brother ;))</p>

<p>May his memory be for a blessing (something like that!)</p>

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<p>{{{{jym}}}}</p>

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<p>Thanks for the laugh, soozie. I needed that!
Thanks for all the kind words everyone. I am glad he will be with mom for Valentines day. She passed away 7 years ago., after going into the hospital Superbowl Sunday.</p>

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<p>jym, we are all here for you and each other. May his memory be for a blessing.</p>

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<p>I just read an article about people who had a hoarder as a parent. :eek: Not only did they have to deal with grief, they also had to deal with a gigantic mess that often took YEARS to clean up.</p>

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<p>Glad to bring a smile, through the tears, jym. <3 <3</p>

<p>:)</p>

<p>:(</p>

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<p>ellemenope-
My dad has stuff crammed in every drawer and closet imaginable. We’ve been slowly getting rid of stuff as he allowed. Burned up 2 shredders. . Anyone want check stubs form the 1970s?</p>

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<p>JYM-All of those discussions about where your dad should be–hospice, hospital…etc. As the old Yiddish expression goes, “Man plans, God laughs.” Hope that in some way, this brings you a sense of calm and peace.</p>

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<p>Jym, sorry. Try to take care of yourself. Joining the rest in sending good thoughts.
LA</p>

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<p>My best to jym and her family</p>

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<p>jym…glad you were with your Dad at the end. Being with a loved one as they leave this world is just as much a gift as being there when one enters this world. Wishing you peace…</p>

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<p>Just what gosmom said so well.</p>

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<p>Thinking of you…</p>

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<p>My thoughts are with you. I had the same experience October 2006.</p>

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<p>So very very sorry Jym. I’m glad your mom and dad can be together for this valentine’s day too. My mom’s sister died just this past Thanksgiving day and we all believe that whatever caused my mom’s death, most likely it was missing her sister and wanting to be together. Sending over a virtual lasagna and a bottle of red.</p>

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<p>sweet thought, amandakayak.</p>

<p>I am dealing with people who dont want to drive long distances because of their aches and pains, and want me to arrange their transportation to funeral/cemetary. Not enough room in the limo, and I kinda dont want my DH to have to drive them. Why are people expecting me to be the social secretary? I have to deal with the funeral plans. Ugh.</p>