<p>I was just rejected as a member for an online cancer survivors support group. After I declined to provide my phone number, the moderator decided she didn’t like my tone, and then informed me that I clearly wasn’t as vulnerable as the members of the group and didn’t need the support.</p>
<p>I am devastated. Just devastated. I know I offend people, but really… being rejected by a cancer support group. That’s low.</p>
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<p>Good grief.</p>
<p>If you’re still interested, just go back, re-apply, and put in a bogus phone number. I do this all the time when a website asks me for my email address.</p>
<p>Yep, that’s the plan. Got the free phone at the AT&T store today.</p>
<p>Silly me, I think anyone seeking support should get it! </p>
<p>I guess it didn’t occur to the moderator that you will be a great supporter for others in the group? Sounds like you could be a rock for the more ‘vulnerable’.</p>
<p>Wow. I think I’d seek out another group. That moderator does not exactly sound “compassionate.” Good luck, dmd77. You have my support and admiration for being so strong and seeking out resources.</p>
<p>“I am devastated. Just devastated. I know I offend people, but really… being rejected by a cancer support group. That’s low.”</p>
<p>It is low, and I’m delighted that you see the humor in it. It’s kind of funny, really…</p>
<p>I’d ask for the support group link, but I’m guessing I’m not enough of a ‘vulnerable’ cancer survivor. They probably won’t let me in, either.</p>
<p>I’d question who is in charge of this support group - the moderator gets to kick you out if you don’t want your phone number made public? There are so many excellent resources, find another.
Personally, I think you are already ahead if you are determined enough to stick up for yourself.</p>
<p>Gee, that sounds like a very supportive group! I guess they are trying to prevent spammers and such from joining the group, but what is the moderators’ job then? I like the way CC handles the problem with spammers and rude posts, and no phone numbers are required.</p>
<p>Actually, because I have a rare cancer–only 800 cases diagnosed per year–this is about the only active group.</p>
<p>Yep, she’s a VERY supportive person. You should see the emails I’ve gotten. Apparently, questioning her motives is inappropriate. (I think I may have gone over the line when I asked her “who died and made you god?” though.)</p>
<p>I’ll be honest, I’ve always felt a little Groucho-ish about groups (“I don’t care to belong to any club that will have me as a member”) but I was hoping the group would make it easy to keep an eye on new research.</p>
<p>dmd77 – Did you really ask that question? If the answer is yes, then I would absolutely want you in whatever group I was in!</p>
<p>dmd, you just let us know what kind of cancer you need a support group for, and we’ll start one. In 12 months we’ll drive that other group out of business…</p>
<p>No, I didn’t. I asked her to delete my information because I thought she was nuts, though. And yes, I did tell her I thought she was nuts. That’s when she told me I was clearly not vulnerable enough to need her support group.</p>
<p>That’s truly unbelievable. Maybe you should give her the state senator’s number.</p>
<p>Seriously, though: It sounds like it’s her group and it appears that she’s afraid you will challenge her dominance. That’s why she doesnt want you in it. </p>
<p>Somehow you can find another group – one without Hitler for a leader.</p>