<p>The fact that these girls were informed that you would be there that afternoon makes their behavior even more insane. They weren’t even taken by surprise. I’m back to thinking they are trying to assert control and bully your kid. My guess is that for some reason they want her out.</p>
<p>Do they just wonder when you’ll visit again or are they still fuming? </p>
<p>We’ve all had situations where we learn someone “didn’t like it” and hear they drew their line in the sand. And later find out it was a little different than either we heard or we interpreted. That’s all. It’s just a question. Especially since it seems they were not rude to you, in person, no vibe.</p>
<p>Honestly, the more I think about it the more presumptuous and bizarre the Skype request is. I find it astonishingly lacking in the respect with which I would expect an adult of an older generation to be treated, <em>especially</em> the parent of a friend or acquaintance. It does not deserve to be dignified with a response.</p>
<p>Roommates should work these things out amongst themselves. Is there any chance your daughter may ever have made a request of the roommates that they felt was excessive, and this is payback?</p>
<p>I’m surprised the roommates would want to be confrontational on Skype. Most people would not want to confront a parent.</p>
<p>Going back to post one of this thread. The OP says that ONE girl (the one who shares a bedroom with her daughter) wasn’t THERE while she was visiting. Is this roommate in on the “ganging up”? That would be even more strange since this gal wasn’t there.</p>
<p>Yes, she said the daughter’s concerned it’s 3 against 1. It is strange, all right!</p>
<p>She showed up while I was changing my clothes in her and my daughters room. I told her I will be out in 5 minutes and I was. I left and then went to sit in the common area. She was the first to bring up the ground rules of my visit. I talked to my daughter earlier today and she said that one of the other roommates probably wanted to “pregame” with a friend who was coming over and I guess I cramped her style by being there. (An aha moment) This one seems the most bent out of shape at least according to my daughter. The other one was getting ready to go out much later and felt I was in her way. My daughters response to all of this is " listen my mom has no desire to hang out here or with you guys."</p>
<p>I believe it is a case (actually 3) of spoiled brats, bad timing and bullying to have everything my way, everyday.</p>
<p>Sounds like your daughter ended the discussion about this. Perhaps that should be the end of this. It sounds like one of those things that happens…not terrific, but it’s done. If this isn’t otherwise interfering with your daughter’s life with the roommates, and everyone THERE has moved on, I would drop the subject. in other words…don’t ask your daughter about it. Certainly listen if she brings it up. But at this point, it might be over and done for the roommates.</p>
<p>If this is a school owned apartment/dorm, your daughter could put in for a room transfer if living with these three girls is not bearable.</p>
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<p>Yeah. I’d drop it. If your daughter handled it, then it’s over. Maybe just a bad day for the roommates and they got a “lord of the flies” thing going on for a moment. But, it’s over. I’d leave it be.</p>
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<p>There’s a younger acquaintance of a few younger college alum friends who has some issues with social graces and need to be controlling with her living environment due to having a medical condition where she can’t tolerate the tiniest bit of noise from early evening on in her home. </p>
<p>At a housewarming party a few months ago, she admitted she’s the one with the issue and that a consequence of that is that she may need to move back with her parents in a few months because her single studio is getting too expensive and her need for quiet in her home is such no potential roommates want to live with her as they’d feel like they’re walking on eggshells in fear of making noise from early evening onwards which’ll aggravate her to the point of angry outbursts.</p>
<p>“A younger acquaintance of a few college alum friends?”</p>
<p>Sheesh.</p>
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<p>So you’re saying there’s no such thing as someone whose social graces and/or ideal living arrangements are so far out of the norm for roommate living arrangements?</p>
<p>C’mon, if anyone’s lived long enough, isn’t exceedingly sheltered, and is observant enough of others, you’re bound to encounter people as odd as or odder than that acquaintance…or the OP’s D’s 3 roommates.</p>
<p>Cobrat…it’s the 11 degrees of separation! </p>
<p>Of course there are people with social issues.</p>
<p>“Of course there are people with social issues.”
Ya think?</p>
<p>^ like! ;)</p>
<p>^^+1</p>
<p>more characters needed…</p>
<p> and I see that some janey-come-latelys are trying to imitate the 3 bullying roommates. </p>
<p>Living proof that some never outgrow their days as queen bees. :D</p>
<p>I would suggest a group skype or phone conference with the roommates AND their parents so that ALL of the parents will be sure to understand the boundaries that the girls are establishing.</p>
<p>I’m sure that the other parents will be so happy to find out what they can and cannot do before they make the big mistake of trying to sit in that living room while someone wants to “pre-game”, likely with alcohol purchased with the parents money.</p>