<p>Well, that’s a good idea! Why not all the parents?</p>
<p>Sounds like serious overkill to me.</p>
<p>The whole situation is serious overkill for 2 hours on a couch. I’m betting the girls were over it a long time ago. Let’s hope.</p>
<p>Agree, actingmt. It is probably a non-issue, though will probably be the source of a comment or 2 if/when another roomie’s parent stops by.</p>
<p>In the hypothetical “group parent/child skype meeeting”, we would hope that the other parents would be appalled by the “pregaming”, but people’s level of tolerance varies. Definitely don’t need to flame that fire.</p>
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I wasn’t making a serious suggestion about the skype with all parents. My point is that the other parents would be horrified at the behavior being exhibited by the other girls (hopefully).</p>
<p>It might not be a bad idea, if this issue is still an active one, to have your daughter suggest that all the parents be notified of house rules, not just her mom. I’'m guessing that the girls will drop the issue quickly.</p>
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<p>If the 3 are dumb enough to do that, I wonder how they’d react to the possible parental reaction of:</p>
<p>“If you’re going to act like a spoiled prima donna regarding visits from your or your roommates’ parents, then it’s obvious you don’t need our money for college and dorm expenses. Enjoy paying for it all yourself. [parents of one of the 3 exits group skypechat]”</p>
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I like the way you think, EPTR. And yes, realized that the " group skype with all parents" was tongue in cheek, but my concern is that its possible that not all parents would be horrified about the “pregaming”.</p>
<p>Yes, EK, the thread jumped the shark. And we all know where that happened… about 16 posts ago…</p>
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<p>Wow, it’s one thing to have friends, and one thing to have acquaintances, but to know the acquaintances of your acquaintances. That is some social networking!</p>
<p>Why, its downright unbelievable, isn’t it Pizzagirl??</p>
<p>11 degrees of separation…or maybe it’s 13.</p>
<p>Or he might live in Seattle. It is really a small town,like a Venns diagram of acquaintances.
One of my friends from something unrelated, knows both my guitar teacher and the wife of my husbands best work friend for instance.</p>
<p>Remember that thread about coincidences? I can’t recall what the thread was called, but it was fun. My friend from college lives across country. She works with, and lives 2 minutes from, the uncle of my S#1’s GF.</p>
<p>**** ETA: Here it is <a href=“http://talk.collegeconfidential.com/parent-cafe/1469370-cosmic-coincidences.html?[/url]”>http://talk.collegeconfidential.com/parent-cafe/1469370-cosmic-coincidences.html?</a></p>
<p>This might be a good time to explain to your daughter that your feelings are hurt. The roommates did not directly hurt your feelings. Your daughter did. She had no reason to tell you any of this. She very well knows that her roommates are being unreasonable. She is old enough to blow it off and tell them to get over themselves. If I had been in her shoes I would not have hurt my mother’s feelings by bringing it up. You did nothing wrong.</p>
<p>Just jumping in to say that I pretty much lost it at post 127. </p>
<p>Carry on.</p>
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<p>I completely disagree with this. </p>
<p>To be quite frank, that flips the parent-child relationship on its head. One of the jobs of a parent is to serve as someone to confide one’s emotional highs and especially lows in a given child’s life. This applies even to young adults out of HS for a few years as most don’t have the life experience or developed the emotional strength/maturity necessary to reciprocate yet. </p>
<p>If anything, telling a child your feelings are hurt when he/she confides his/her low points is one of the most crappiest things a parent could do to their child(ren)…especially if the child is a minor or just a few years past 18. It’s one good way to create great distance or even permanently rip apart one’s relationship with one’s child(ren). </p>
<p>I’d feel the same way in regards to my younger friends/relatives. If they’re feeling bad and need someone to confide in, it’s my job as the older friend/relative to put my own feelings aside to hear them out, provide whatever counsel I can, and serve as an emotional rock for them. And serving as a confidant/emotional counselor isn’t something which comes naturally for my ENTJ type personality…but them’s the breaks sometimes. </p>
<p>In short, a child or younger relative/friend feeling the need to confide isn’t the time or place for parents or older relatives/friends to make it about their own feelings.</p>
<p>I almost hate to admit this but I agree. If the problem is that your feelings are hurt you should not dump that on your daughter while she is away at school. Now, it’s probably too late but you need to get over it. These are dumb girls that should not have the power to hurt your feelings. What do you care what they think? Or that you were an inconvenience to them. Whatever!</p>
<p>If her daughter is like my daughter, she is sensitive to the feelings of thers. </p>
<p>That said, the experience was one that she may not have known how to handle, and of course told her mom. Not to hurt her, necessarily. More like I am in this weird situation and I don’t know what to do and it involves you with my roommates. </p>
<p>I always told my girl that she could blame me about stuff if it helps in situations with her friends - saying mean mom won’t let me do something. </p>
<p>My D is going through girl drama in her house right now. I told her last year she would be better off renting with a bunch of guys, because too much estrogen in one place! She agrees, now.</p>
<p>Oh, my D would definitely tell me. But whatever they say about me I have to blow it off and not overreact. That’s what they do. I must be the adult. At least, that’s what I keep telling myself. LOL!</p>
<p>I was worried her D might stop telling her stuff if she gets hurt by it and that’s not good. It’s better to know. IMHO.</p>
<p>It is always better to know.</p>