<p>Classicalmama, they were both WLed twice at Groton because it’s just so <em>obvious</em> that they’re both Exonians at heart. ;)</p>
<p>But seriously, like goaliedad said, there was not a big difference in son’s apps for 8th and 9th grades. His stats were a smidge better this year, but his parents didn’t make any more money and maybe that’s what was needed to change for him to have gotten over the hump from WL to accepted. Or…maybe it just wasn’t “right.”</p>
<p>My d was not selected for Exeter for 9th grade, but accepted this time for 10th grade. It was an error on her transcripts. </p>
<p>But it was a blessing, she is really a Deerfield girl.</p>
<p>DA class of 2013.</p>
<p>Absolutely neato…Exonians to their very cores. :)</p>
<p>Honestly, unlike neato, I think my son’s Groton application was quite a bit better the second year–SSAT scores improved, EC’s got a bit stronger (in depth, not breadth), essays were better, interview was probably better…and yet, the waitlist again. And I’m grateful. Really. It made the whole decision making process so much easier and made us all feel that Exeter was, really, where he belonged. Call it fate or fit or luck…we’re just soooo grateful.</p>
<p>I think Mashaa’s right…go to the school and settle or stay home and try Andover again…but Andover from the new school just doesn’t seem like a good idea on a bunch of different levels.</p>
<p>Different strokes for different folks. I don’t see any harm in the young man trying out the new boarding school and applying for transfer if he really feels Andover is a better fit and ultimately where he belongs. IMHO, most people in the world are not as rigid as people on CC. I don’t think anyone should pretend they can second guess ADCOMS or have a crystal ball. We already said getting into top BSs is a long shot any time students apply, no matter how good the credentials.</p>
<p>And yes, we have a close family friend who got rejected by Andover for 9th and accepted in 10th, (for next year) and yes, her brother is going into his senior year at Andover. It happens. If he doesn’t try, he’ll never know.</p>
<p>Classicalmama & Neato - </p>
<p>I am curious - if you are comfortable answering - Out of the schools that your son’s applied to the first year, how many overlapped with the ones they applied to the second year? Did either of your kids get in somewhere year one that they passed on? And what the hell was Groton thinking??!</p>
<p>The only school my son applied to last year was Groton because it started in 8th grade. I believe that this was so with classical’s boy as well.</p>
<p>I continue to believe that my son would have done well at Groton and I was a bit surprised by the second waitlist, but I don’t generally question schools’ decisions.</p>
<p>What do you mean what was Groton thinking? It’s a crap shoot at best which if any school you get into once you fall into the “most talented pool of applicants.”</p>
<p>:::::: RBG2/Scholwannabe it’s really confusing when you post on a single thread under two names. Why not just use one handle/user name? It probably confuses the OP too. She/He thinks you are someone new.</p>
<p>Ohh how embarrassing. I don’t know why, but I was totally not thinking about II Form. Time to walk away from the computer and have a glass of wine. </p>
<p>Schol/RBG2 - I should have included a smiley face to let you know I was kidding about the Groton comment. It just sucks when I see such amazing talented young people get turned away, and it’s infinitely worse when it’s Groton since I went there. I wish everyone could go. Ugh. So annoying. Kinda makes even me feel like Exeter was the wiser one in this case. (duh, obviously they were)</p>
<p>I’m sure there is an Andover grad or two on these boards who is thinking that way about you & Timmy’s son’s.</p>
<p>thanks, grotonalum, very kind remarks. Very much appreciated. I was probably too quick to post the flippant remark above. The whole process has been stressful for the whole family. My son did get to speak to someone from his first choice school to get feedback on his application. I think the suggestion was great, about getting feedback before making any decision to reapply or to reapply. I was so impressed at my son’s maturity to contact the school, ask to speak with someone and arrange a time (all on his own–no helicoptering); hear feedback as well as at the school who took the time at 9 pm to make a call to our home. In the end, the feedback was very useful AND my son is still in a good BS, though not his first choice!</p>
<p>I think parents just need to stop fretting and get off college confidential. The atmosphere is stressful enough with students ■■■■■■■■ around.</p>
<p>I agree. .</p>
<p>rushandcrush / pulsar (to both of you, or if it’s just one) - especially to Pulsar…this site, like life, has all kinds of people across a range of ages and everyone is welcome to participate.</p>
<p>An advantage to the kids of parent participation on this site is that many of us older posters have been to boarding school and while the details of the BS experience change as time passes by, the challenges of assimilation and adjusting to life on your own remain the same. </p>
<p>If you’re smart, you’d cut down on the fire hose of smarmy, impulsive comments and take the time to be more thoughtful. In two months, you’ve had more than 350 things to say on this site; that’s a lot - too many. Even if you were 50 years old with a life time of boarding school experience, it would be a bit much. </p>
<p>When and if you get to boarding school, you’ll learn that not all faculty, but most, have the kind of life wisdom you want to absorb and many of your peers will too. A good goal would be “mouth shut and ears open.” That’s not to say you shouldn’t be a vital, active contributor, but your orientation should be to listen more than you do. Hopefully, you have some sense of this.</p>
<p>From my parental point of view, many of the kids who post on this site have fascinating, heartfelt, valuable points of view, worries, questions and interests. I learn a ton from reading these posts.</p>
<p>rebelangel, Pulsar is unique, no incarnations. I love how you parents try to label people and gang up on them when you don’t agree with other’s opinions. Look at all the posts from parents, the wolfpack mentality (loosing individuality) becomes obvious. Parents make valuable contributions on CC. Some fret too much. The point of my post is parents fretting too much. As you agree internet gives one the benefit of maturing mentally faster than previous generations. You parents need to recognize it and give them the credit. There are separate parents forums as well for parents to contribute than fretting on these students forums.</p>
<p>It’s like me saying you, Sue22, Alex, Sadie are all just one, but I’m smarter than some one who tries to label people and discredit them. Can an angel be a rebel?</p>
<p>Pulsar - I was actually kind of hoping that you wouldn’t respond to my post, which would have meant that you’d read it and thought about it. Oh well, at least I tried.</p>
<p>Good try though. If you want no one to respond to your posts, then CC will cease to exist.</p>
<p>The students who are likely to do well in boarding schools are mature enough to converse with adults. Boarding schools foster bonds between faculty and students. If you attend a boarding school, you will also get to know faculty families. </p>
<p>Many students don’t want to leave home. That’s fine. If you don’t want to leave home, tell your interviewer. I guarantee you, he or she will keep it from your parents. As far as I know, all schools interview parents and students separately, probably to give the students the chance to say, “Help! This is not my idea!” It’s not necessary to go online to criticize schools which you know nothing about. Just say the right words in the interview, and you will not be forced to attend a boarding school.</p>
<p>We are discussing pros and cons of schools, not criticizing them. Isn’t it the idea of CC? If you want only to discuss pros, we probably don’t need CC.</p>
<p>On occasion, parents do contribute a wealth of helpful information to this site and obviously complement the growing maturity of its teen and preteen members; but otherwise, they tend to exacerbate the disgustingly stressful and college-driven climate found on this forum. I’m not in the mood to elaborate about this since I’m a second semester senior and I have better things to worry about, but in a terse and slightly blunt/childish manner… I’ll express my sentiments in the following: Angst-ridden teens + CC = nerdfest. Angst-ridden teens + angst-ridden teens’ parents + CC = creepfest. There. I said it.</p>
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<p>HaHa rushandcrush! 
That honestly made me laugh.</p>