Our friends were always shocked at our kids’ independence from a young age. I told them we accomplished it through neglect and laziness. My jaw would drop to the floor every time our parent friends jumped up to get their kid a drink or snack on demand. There’s the kitchen. Pull up a chair if you can’t reach.
The same snack fetching friends are amazed we’d let our kid go to BS. On a recent trip for a tournament we found out that there are still parents that order their kid’s food, put the toothpaste on their toothbrush and follow them around picking up trash and clothes that they just drop at will. Teach and release, people. Teach and release.