<p>ahhh…we hope you are sipping a cuppa and not madly running around this morning. Just think. You did it…you gave your daughter a lovely wedding focused on her and her very worthy spouse, and now when she goes forward and has to professionally advise and counsel couples also sorting out the issues of divorce and step-parents and unresolved resentments just under the surface at their big ceremony, you managed to take the high road and set the example.<br>
Maybe the groom’s parents also relied on you for getting through it. Weddings and funerals can really bring out the part of people that has not evolved, grown up or resolved and then interfere with the occasion at hand which would have been such a shame! As someone whose parents also were not speaking but did both show up for my wedding, I can’t tell you how much I leaned on wiser, kinder adults who simply were able to focus on my wedding and my future, and they were able to actually model for my own parents how to behave, suspended all judgments about how my family “ought to be,” and did not get sucked into rehashing old painful patterns/conflicts from a broken family long dissolved. Bless them. My day was about my own future. </p>
<p>Intact families are hard to find in this world. So glad YOU were in charge so everyone could take a breather and simply focus on their success as parents: somehow all of you raising two people heading out in the world to do *great good *in very responsible, very exacting, demanding professions. What a thing of beauty that is to claim in life.</p>
<p>^^ What a wonderful post! Thank you so much for those thoughts. I will keep them!</p>
<p>I am back at work and totally exhausted. I will try to leave early to take WildChild to the airport (I think he was too tired and hung over to leave last night as planned). We will have an empty house tonight, except for our animals and Bride and Groom’s Ragdoll kitten.</p>
<p>Our videographer turned out to be the best friend of one of my co-workers (not a wedding guest). The girl told me today that the videographer told her it was the best and most fun wedding she had ever been to! That is nice to hear from someone who goes to weddings for a living! </p>
<p>When we have pictures up on a website I’ll send links to those interested. </p>
<p>MotherofGroom and her friends got a “distressed travelers” rate at the airport hotel, so we didn’t get her back! I said, “only in Nashville would they give you that great deal ($45 a night)! In Philadelphia they would have charged you 5 times as much since they knew you were stuck!”</p>
<p>Congrats and best wishes to your D and her husband. After the really long night, I am glad to hear about the joyous wedding day. Wishing them many years of happiness.</p>
<p>Now that you have a new title, you are not looking to change your moniker are you ?</p>
<p>Just wanted to add my congrats to the happy couple, to you and to all your extended family. It is not easy to survive some of these “affairs” and you came out wonderfully as did the newlyweds. Long life, health, happiness (and lets not forget wealth…it doesn’t hurt.)</p>
<p>^^ Thanks! (some of my family members might not find me quite so funny).</p>
<p>Yesterday was the first day I felt half alive again. I was completely exhausted. I had to go to Chicago on business for a few days (I’m there now), but had some down-time to walk around and SHOP! I am finding that I am sort of tired of talking to people, and I’m having to do quite a lot of that on this trip as well. </p>
<p>I’m anxious for D and her new H to get back tomorrow night from the honeymoon so we can do the whole post mortem on the wedding. Not sure I want to give them back their precious Ragdoll kitten (his name is Thelonius Monk).</p>
<p>MOWC,
My congratulations to all involved in creating the wonderful ‘best day of my life’ for your D and her H.
Thanks for keeping all of us updated.</p>
<p>I was thinking that if you and curmudgeon ever get together on a book, I’ll need to read it wearing Attends!</p>
<p>Talked to D tonight. They are in Charlotte on their layover returning from the honeymoon in the Dominican Republic. She said it was absolutely perfect and they loved the DR. Now, on to the business of real life for them! As one of our wedding guests (and an occasional poster or CC who happened to be son-in-law’s supervising doc during his Vandy rotation last October) said, “If people think marriage is a ball and chain, wait until Vanderbilt gets him in a few weeks!”</p>
<p>Yes, the kitten went back to their house last night before they got home. We still have our 3 year old Ragdoll and the 14 yr. old Maine Coon here. Of course, in case we haven’t spent enough money lately, the Golden Retriever has an infected toe ($260 later…antibiotics etc)- back in his Elizabethan collar, which he does NOT like.</p>
<p>It all reminds me of the writings by the author of “Diary of a Provincial Lady”, E. M. Delafield…do you know her books? You tell a great tale with a happy ending…may the new marriage be so joyful and successful! Good job, MomofWildCHild.</p>
<p>^^^ It better be a long, long time in the future- for the sake of everyone concerned! (although, the current girlfriend of 10 months impressed everyone)</p>
<p>^^ the vet nixed the bootie because she wanted it airing out. Hopefully it will only be a couple of days in the collar. He sounds like a truck banging around the house with the collar. It’s about 24 inches or more across.</p>
<p>MOWC-
When our late, sweet doggie had a bandage and/or ointment and didn’t want to wear the collar, we just put tabasco sauce on his fur all around the area (and directly on the bandage when the bandage was on). The facial expressions when he licked his fur were hysterical, and no need for the collar!</p>
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