<p>Wow. susanr64 -so cynical-I do not think it looks like a fake marriage at all. Very stange you would allude to her being blonde and seemingly unattainable.</p>
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<p>Having a 3 year affair makes a marriage crumble…public scrutiny of your marriage isn’t the cause.</p>
<p>What is worrisome is the long affair. Kind of like the Mark Sanford situation–you can go on and on about how you want to patch up your family relations and you’ll go back to your wife instead of to your “soulmate.” </p>
<p>You can’t make your heart love someone just by saying so. You may re-unite with the wife, but she doesn’t have your heart and she knows it. That reconciliation is doomed to fail.</p>
<p>Not a marriage counselor, but have seen enough of this with people I know…</p>
<p>All I know is that my child was so excited to go to Tiger’s tournament this weekend and then this story broke. There was no way I could NOT talk to him about Tiger’s problems. I suppose it was a good segue to discussing personal responsibility. I also remember Kobe Bryant when he got into trouble. DH and I could not watch Lakers games for a long time after that.</p>
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<p>Well that will be a $300 million hot dog, I hope it was worth it.</p>
<p>Sevmom, Hmmmm, trying to figure out where I said it was a fake marriage and how I am cynical. I think I said that what looks to be perfect from the outside isn’t. And the comment about Tiger being able to marry a blond model was in the news (because he can), I didn’t make it up. </p>
<p>A little defensive in some of your posts?</p>
<p>^I didn’t see the cynicism either. Now the comment of there being no reason for rich people to get married was cynical. :)</p>
<p>Famous men with money often marry gorgeous models because they can. So true…even when it probably isn’t a good fit–think Bruce Springsteen. Maybe your marriage partner is like choosing a college…some people go to a prestigious college because they can, even if it isn’t a good fit.</p>
<p>Bruce Springsteen is an excellent example. First model/actress wife was a poor fit for him-had to figure it out for himself though!</p>
<p>Ellemenope - ooooh, that sounds like new thread - what college is your spouse? Did you shoot for first tier or did you turn down a more prestigious school for a lesser known one?</p>
<p>Sorry, I am in need of some lighthearted diversion!</p>
<p>Just watching Leno’s Monday show - he takes a nice dig at Letterman. His Tuesday show should be more interesting. Too bad it isn’t up yet.</p>
<p>Yeah, Springsteen is an excellent example of a cheating husband. I’m ready for the Tiger story to die out, but I’m sure the media won’t let it.</p>
<p>mamabear- the rumours have been out there for awhile about Springsteen-may or may not be true-hope not true</p>
<p>Worknprogress–</p>
<p>I didn’t shoot for a Tier 1 husband, just like I didn’t shoot for a Tier 1 college. We didn’t even give those kinds of things a thought back in the day. </p>
<p>But I will have to say, I was able to use my performance at my non-tier 1 college to get into a tier 1 law school. And I am happy to report that my non tier 1 husband turned out to be from the deep end of the gene pool and a real keeper!</p>
<p>Me too (w/o the law school part :))</p>
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<p>I wasn’t being cynical. Because the rich has a lot to lose. The non-rich people don’t have anything to lose. Just because they can, does that mean they should? I would be like George Clooney.</p>
<p>On her looks, maybe I have a really good HDTV, I see all the imperfections really clear. I see a blonde with long straight hair.</p>
<p>"I think we are all trying to understand why a man who seems to have it “all” would risk it for what - sex? thrill? Elin is stunning and he has 2 young, young children. "</p>
<p>He could still want to bed a variety of gorgeous women. Having a gorgeous wife isn’t enough. Also, many men who cheat cheat with women who aren’t as good looking as their wives. They like variety or like something that the other women offers.</p>
<p>He also didn’t have everything: He lacked a harem, something that it appears that many celebrities easily can have.</p>
<p>Looks aren’t everything. Look at Prince Charles.</p>
<p>“I wonder why do very rich people get married for, I can’t think of a good reason for either sex.”</p>
<p>I think that’s why Oprah hasn’t bothered to marry.</p>
<p>I also know people now who are in their 20s or thirties who don’t plan to marry their longtime romantic partners unless they decide to have children. Otherwise, they see no reason for marriage.</p>
<p>I hear that in France and possibly other parts of Europe even when many people have kids, they don’t bother to marry.</p>
<p>I’m just trying to figure out how “intensive counseling” is supposed to address a husband’s whoring around for years. What exactly is there to discuss? I think the golf club approach was the way to go, but I would have gone for more than the back window of the car–I’m thinking Tiger’s every last physical possession, including all trophies, then a bonfire for everything flammable.</p>
<p>Some men just take pride in the number of women they have taken to bed. Wasn’t Wilt Chamberlain bragging that his numbered over a thousand? :eek:</p>
<p>You’re right, Columbia_student, about the rich having more to lose by getting married. Ask Paul McCartney and his disastrous second marriage…</p>
<p>I think that Tiger Woods has seen his affairs as having no consequences (especially when the wife doesn’t know) and not hurting anyone. I suppose he is pretty shocked (yes, SHOCKED!!) to see the consequences play out–and they have certainly played out more flamboyantly than in many other cases where the wife catches on that the husband is having affairs–not at all quietly and hush hush. </p>
<p>Maybe this has been a giant wake up call for him. Maybe that’s probably why he’s making such financial efforts and counseling efforts to try to get his wife to stay and give him another chance.</p>
<p>Or maybe he’s just trying to salvage some semblance of his reputation so that he can continue to make lots of money on endorsements…</p>