Agreed, and we’re already done with it.
Was just having some fun on the non-repetitive part in the LOCI.
I’m of the belief, what needs to be done, needs to be done.
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for some kids, mine being one of them, they spend a lot of time and energy on this stuff, wayyyyyy more than I would because they do overthink it. It’s another stressor on top of an already stressful process and I think it’s perfectly okay to vocalize it’s all too much without having everyone say “well whats the big deal?” I’m telling you for some kids it’s a very big stressor coming up with this. Mine has spent a long time working on other ones and they obviously don’t all translate.
To say “then bow out you must not want to go there” is silly, you have no idea what any kids day to day life is and sometimes one more thing is the straw that breaks the camel’s back. You can listen with grace or you can minimize them, the choice is yours.
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Try my suggestion. When your child gets home. Ask if you can talk about some of her choices. Then ask." Why do you really want to go to Michigan" . I had a student on a first meet just blab and blab and I stopped her and told her to just write it down. It was very laid back casual. That became her “Why” Michigan essay. She graduates this year.
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I can totally relate to this.
For some kids, everything is serious business—they either don’t do it, or want to do it really well.
So, repeating something that’s already been said, this time differently—and for no apparent value to the school, it can be stressful—it definitely was for my D25, and she went into an analysis paralysis loop.
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I hear you… the whole rat-race to get into the best school you can is reaching a critical point for lots of kids…
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My kid is a perfectionist and we’ve been working with him for a long long time, but it’s hard for him to hit “submit” on anything, his essays are often long done before he hits submit, not because he isn’t interested or putting it off but more because he thinks he can still make it better. It’s rough. Especially on top of everything else because while other kids may not care about second semester grades, my kid still very much does.
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Very well said. But it seems families put pressure also on the kids. We had a simple rule.
They knew our budget upfront.
If they didn’t get accepted (wouldn’t of happened but still). Then gap year or community college.
If they got into 1 school on their list. It’s on their list so congratulations. That is where you are going. Awesome.
If they got into more then 1 school than they had a choice.
We had a Google docs spread sheet so we were all connected with major data information on it.
They are both very grateful that they got great educations. Now their off the payroll 
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The Curse of Being a Perfectionist.
Such kids do very well in life, and with understanding parents like yourself, will be protected from the extreme burnout being a perfectionist causes.
Those can be very powerful positive attributes, I hope he finds a way to control his special powers.
LOL
My only regret, so far, regarding this process is that I didn’t start the parent’s part of prep earlier.
I’m medicare age, and was living back-in-the-day when you picked your school, worked on the application one weekend, got into where you applied, then paid what now seems like peanuts for the degree…then rinse-repeat led for grad school.
Steep learning curve. I’m now prepared for grad school, tho… but she’s gonna be on the payroll for quite a while… maybe, at some point without a boss.
Yep. My wife picked one school (guess which one )… I worked and put myself through college. Couldn’t do that today. It’s hard today and totally sympathize but it’s the game we must play…
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Some statistics from this results survey that I thought were interesting:
- 10 of 15 (66%) of instate were accepted
- 25 of 70 (35.71%) of Out of State accepted
- 1 of the 5 international respondents was accepted
- 23 of 45 (51%) of LSA accepted
- 8 of 25 (32%) of College of Engineering accepted
- 5 of 20 (25%) of other schools within UM were accepted
- 4 of 13 (31%) of Test Optional students accepted
- 32 of 77 (42%) of submitted test students accepted
- This difference is statistically significant, but confounding variables likely impact this as well.
- No one was rejected of the 90 responses received.
- The average admitted student’s SAT was 1519 (n=21) and ACT was 34.6 (n=12),
compared to an average deferred SAT of 1479 (n=27) and ACT of 34.1 (n=17)- This is a statistically significantly difference in SAT scores with alpha=0.10 (p=0.06).
AP Statistics is coming in handy lol
- This is a statistically significantly difference in SAT scores with alpha=0.10 (p=0.06).
- The average admitted student’s unweighted GPA was 3.95 (n=34),
compared to an average deferred unweighted GPA of 3.94 (n=45) on 4.0 scale - The average admitted student’s weighted GPA was 4.51 (n=18)
compared to an average deferred weighted GPA of 4.23 (n=33) on a 5.0 scale
Keep in mind that this dataset is likely a very biased sample, and that it suffers from response bias as well. And only 90 people responded to the form – this was just for fun!
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I want to thank you for going above and beyond to help this thread. Some really good information here.
This is an accepted student. Congrats.
Thank you!!
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Thanks for the thought, effort, and information.
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Very interesting survey. No one is rejected. That’s quite something. Thank you.
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A rejected applicant will have zero motivation to stay on the thread, let alone filling out surveys.
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I checked just for giggles and those 40 points move you from a 92nd percentile SAT up to 94th percentile.
(For the record I think these SAT scores had nothing to do with much of anything, let alone being accepter vs deferred).
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anyone know when cs advance selection comes out?
Just came out.
Now waiting for Ross preferred.