Hmmm, it goes to show, “vibing” in a brief TV series isn’t an ideal way to find out compatibility. Talking to co-workers, neighbors, family members and others gives a much more accurate and in depth picture of the individual. Somehow, that’s not surprising to me. I guess the flamboyant folks and those that are more aggressive are the ones that end up standing out from the crowd. People that travel a lot are also attractive and “exotic.”
1 Like
To me the surprise isn’t that this doesn’t work. What I’m shocked at is that it ever does. Trista ( first Bachelorette) and Ryan have been married for over 20 years!
Also for me, ( and I know this isn’t how most people feel)traveling alot is an sign of discontent with everyday life.
3 Likes
???
3 Likes
I know I mainly am traveling for meetings and also to see loved ones. I know that folks travel for different reasons. Many travel for work and when they travel a lot for work, many choose not to travel much after they retire. My sister and brother on the other hand are traveling overseas like there’s no tomorrow. We are all different.
I am actually surprised that this compressed artificial environment ever results in true bonding between any folks who participate. I haven’t followed the series enough to know that it actually works, but understand some did marry and are still together.
1 Like
No one needs to apologize for traveling! Come on now. 
While I suppose some people might travel to get away from something terrible in their life there are PLENTY of people - likely most - who do it either because they must (work, family) or because they love seeing, doing, tasting new things - or different things. That doesn’t mean they don’t totally appreciate coming back home as well.
Also ok if you don’t like to travel. People chose to spend their time and money on different things if they are so fortunate to have extra time or money. Neither needs to be a sign of unhappiness.
5 Likes
I told dh that I loved him after six weeks of dating so these kinds of dating shows in a compressed timeframe don’t seem that crazy to me.
Jesse Palmer called the UT-Florida game today and did some Golden Bachelorette talk. His booth partner said that he can’t believe that someone showed up on the first date with Chocken Noodle Soup is still around and that he is Team Guy! lol
1 Like
This! We travel a lot and we love our life at home. Both things can be true 
2 Likes
As I said. I understand that most don’t view it that way. But I am saying I don’t just view those who travel a lot as “ exotic and attractive “.have several friends who seem to be really just bored with life if they don’t have a trip planned. They really focus on the idea that every day life is monotonous and travel A LOT…. Like every month some trip. Many big.An occasional trip is nice but the people who really seem to NEED a trip to counterbalance the day to day, that is just unfortunate to me. Others may not be this way, but I just don’t think traveling a lot makes someone automatically attractive. Others find it so.
1 Like
I knew pretty soon after H & I started dating that we were going to be great friends but I still like a longer timeline and getting to know more of his friends and relatives. In HI, you tend to run into a lot of people who know one another and it’s nice when you and your significant other get along with each other’s friends and family. It makes for a more harmonious union.
Posted a thread that people on this thread might find interesting - I sure did!
Thanks for the link—fascinating. I’m glad sone are finding ways to help dating apps work with and for them in finding compatible people. It makes sense that folks that have already raised their families are looking for different things in a new partner.
1 Like
NOT a Surprise. 
Wish them well! Hope
He’s not as
Controlling as he seems he could be.
Sort of crushed for Guy. I think she took him
Completely off guard.
3 Likes
Yaaawwwwwwwnnnnn.
Ds2 called during the show with lots of news so I didn’t get to hear what all was said on the ATFR couch. Oh, well. Has Guy moved on?
I’m still watching but did Joan really just say that due to time pressures, she decided to fall in love with Chock and if she’d had more time to explore, she might have decided on Guy instead?! Not sure this is a deep lasting love story…
Guy was more genuine being dumped by Joan than Joan was being dumped by Pascal. The men really seemed to have deeper and more considered feelings than her.
1 Like
She did say that but I felt it was just the words she told him to try and let him down softly?
I think that Guy comes out of this smelling like a rose. I think he was genuinely falling for her but could not compete with the more aggressive Chock. That was not who Guy would be.
Chock even seemed sort of “aggressive” (strong word I know but can’t come up with an alternative) during their last date with basically a proposal on that last date - the key/lock/NYC thing (I didn’t get what that was about?) and FLOODING her with I Love Yous.
Really Guy didn’t have a chance, Guy was a contestant, Chock was in the drivers seat.
I hope Guy is doing ok.
1 Like
I was at a movie preview last night so missed the final episode. Where is the easiest place to find/watch it?
ABC.com, but you have to enter your carrier and password.
Or Hulu.
@toledo did you watch??
Bets on if the relationship lasts anyone??
It won’t last. The Vegas odds of it not lasting make it financially unwise for me to bet. 
3 Likes