<p>Exercise. Running, swimming, weight lifting, tennis or any other form of activity that will result in increased release of endorphines in your brain. You won’t think of yourself as “ugly” anymore, and noone else will either.</p>
<p>you said before that you aren’t overweight. I think what you need is a change of environment - to be with people that don’t know you or your past. </p>
<p>I had a friend who was bullied everyday in my school (though I tried to stand up for her, they ignored my protests). They said that she was ugly and stupid… due to this she was suffering in school
Eventually though she moved and she called me after 2 years and mentioned that she had started to get A’s in all her classes and that she had even found a new boyfriend! </p>
<p>If you move to new environment people can assess with no bias and see you for who you truly are</p>
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I had a similar experience. I was bullied daily from fourth to sixth grade and ignored (or stabbed in the back by “friends”) through middle school and most of high school. My overcritical mother didn’t help, and my previously healthy self-esteem took a serious beating. I used to think I was the most hideous person on earth, and sometimes I still do – it’s taken me years to get to a point where most days, I don’t feel too awful about [the</a> way I look](<a href=“http://photos-055.facebook.com/ip008/profile2/285/84/n1092600055_25048.jpg"]the”>http://photos-055.facebook.com/ip008/profile2/285/84/n1092600055_25048.jpg)*. That’s one reason I look forward to college; my self-esteem is immensely higher now than it was in seventh grade, but since I’ve attended the same tiny private school (50 seniors) for the past six years, it’s been difficult or impossible to shake my reputation as an intelligent but shy, awkward, and oh-so-self-conscious person. I even catch myself acting quiet and uncomfortable because by now that’s all anyone expects from me, and it’s much easier to play along for two more months than to try to prove them wrong.</p>
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<p>*I empathize with the OP about having an unfortunate bone structure. I’ll never have prominent cheekbones, a defined jawline, or delicate features, and I’ve never told anyone this before, but I have seriously considered rhinoplasty (not that I could afford it). Obviously, I still have a long way to go before learning to accept myself “the way I am”… :rolleyes:</p>
<p>^^^ You look GREAT Camiliasinensis!! Your looks match the wonderful personality I have gleaned through your posts here…I have a feeling that you are going to SOAR in college!! :)</p>
<p>Aw, thank you! :)</p>
<p>You are pretty! I have that nice girl attitude on your face.</p>
<p>Does that even make sense? Sometimes my compliments can be mistaken for complaints.</p>
<p>^Haha, no, I think I know what you mean. Whether I’m pretty or not isn’t really the point, though… the point is that constant negative reinforcement can influence the way people perceive themselves in a very destructive way.</p>
<p>I myself have prominent cheekbones and a defined jawline (not delicate features though). If it wasn’t for my hair and eyelashes, I would be mistaken for a boy <- which has been done before when I had moderately short hair</p>
<p>“Does that even make sense? Sometimes my compliments can be mistaken for complaints.”</p>
<p>Ha Ha</p>
<p>The biggest compliment i ever got was that i could speak eloquently on matters of which I know nothing.</p>
<p>I think it was compliment:confused:</p>
<p>No you missed the point. Goldshadow cannot say the majority finds a certain person unattractive because that person will never really know the majorities opinion.</p>
<p>If the majority of people in that one person’s community did not find him/her attractive, why would the rest of the world matter? By majority, I’m pretty sure Goldshaw meant the majority directly concerned.</p>
<p>if it helps at all, i’m a former community pageant winner (you’d think id be as cocky as roosters get) but a few months ago, when i developed the most acute acne ever to pop onto this earth, my self-image came roaring down on cliffs. showing my face to ppl became a nightmare - life sucked.
i woke up mornings to the mirror and thought: damn… =(
lol</p>
<p>BUT (happy ending) i went to the dermo and he (alias Jesus Christ) saved my skin and now im just waiting for my medications to come in and clear this hideousness outtt. hopefully, i can face the world again with poise and spirit. </p>
<p>moral of the story: ppl can help. identify the biggest flaw u think u have (key word - think), make sure it really IS a messy flaw, then fix it with a little advice from experts (not kids on a forum)</p>
<p>^ so you’re telling her to get plastic surgery…GREAT ADVICE <em>attach sarcasm here</em></p>
<p>Thanks for the advice, guys. Most people are telling me to either lose weight (which I don’t need to do) or “think positive”. I guess what I really meant in my original plea was, what sort of behavior or personality traits suit an ugly person? What can I do that will somehow make my appearance excusable and enable people to get past it?</p>
<p>gain a little more confidence.</p>
<p>At least people won’t assume that you’re a moron and can’t be taken seriously based on your looks.</p>
<p>The problem is, though, that’s exactly what they do. I’m not smart-ugly. I’m a pathetic kind of ugly, the kind people laugh at and feel sorry for at the same time. I am ugly in a way that lacks dignity.</p>
<p>I have a feeling that you’re not nearly as bad looking as you think and that it’s your lack of confidence that’s turning people off to you. After all, if you don’t like yourself, why do you expect others to?</p>
<p>What I think is attractive</p>
<p>Male:
Skinny preferably without muscles
no hair on the stomach,back or armpit
Long hair
Geeky or pretty looking</p>
<p>Female:
Skinny(not rib showing skinny but average weight) or A little chubby (not extreme fat where you take up two seats and you have to wobble)
Dark hair
No Tan
No freckles</p>
<p>umm… ok were we asking for all that? ^^</p>
<p>honestly, ive nvr met someone that kind of ugly, OP. HOW can anyone lack dignity!? create some, man. if you pretend like ur not ugly, people will catch on and think so too. its not hard, just be a good person. do wat u like to do, say wat you wanna say && just go with the flow. other people cant possibly influence ur life that much unless u let them.</p>
<p>“umm… ok were we asking for all that?”</p>
<p>just trying to drive home the fact that everyone has different opinions on what it is to be ugly or attractive. But nobody seems to be on the same boat I am.</p>
<p>Happypoo do you think these people who call you ugly are attractive themselves? People call me ugly but those people I find ugly myself so I just ignore them. There is no personality trait that can make you attractive perhaps you are going after the wrong people. Go after the people that fit your interests and have a similar mind set as you and I bet they won’t think you are ugly.</p>