Thanks @doschicos , but some people are able to “remember that none of this is personal” better than others. I think for me personally, it’s best that I not open any more of my own discussions. Every time I do, I ask myself - “Why did I think this was a good idea?” #-o
Don’t get me wrong, CC is my favorite online forum. I would love to know some of you all IRL. But I think this is a good decision for me. There are plenty of posters who will take my place :).
“And I’m still not going to talk to her anymore. Some of you might think I’m taking the low road on this, but if I did otherwise, I’m envisioning this possible scenerio:
Me: Hi, how are you?
Her: For the third time - I don’t want to talk about it!”
Laughed out loud when I read that, that was so funny. And true, if you look at it like that, that woman’s made it perfectly clear she wants you to keep your distance and that’s what you’re going to do!
I hope that at some point, you can look at the whole exchange, and if not quite laugh at it, just shake your head. And do the same about this thread. I am sorry you are so upset by what I and other PPs had to say,
@Tigerle Thanks. Don’t worry about me, I’ll get over it. 
I’m just not going to subject myself to it again.
Yeah, assumptions made are always an “interesting” part of CC discussions. Just think of it as an anthropological and psychological study and find the humor in it. 
Why are those who don’t like to be touched by people they don’t know well expected to make allowances for them? Your desire for physical contact doesn’t override other people’s right to control who can touch them.
Are you okay with random women hugging your husband? Can grown men put their hand on your daughter’s shoulder? If they say they mean well, are your husband and daughter out of line for objecting to it? The assumption should be that people you don’t know well don’t want you touching them.
Saw this on Facebook yesterday, from Thoughts, Dots and Tots:
As I was pulling into work, I was following this car. The sign in the back window says, “Learning stick sorry for any delay.”
Knowing this information, I was very patient with their slow shifting, and honestly they were doing pretty well for still learning. Then I asked myself a tough question: Would I have been just as patient if the sign hadn’t been there? I can almost definitely say no.
We don’t know what someone is going through. We don’t wear signs that illustrate our personal struggles. You don’t see signs taped to people’s shirts that say, “Going through a divorce”, or “Lost a child”, or “Feeling depressed”, or “Diagnosed with cancer”.
If we could read visually what those around us are going through we would definitely be nicer. But we shouldn’t have to see signs and have reasons to treat strangers with kindness. We should do it anyway, whether we know what is going on or not. Whether they deserve it or not.
I’m sorry @LeastComplicated. Some people are touchy and that mom had something else going on. For instance, she was missing her family gathering to watch a dismal game and was upset. She behaved inappropriately, especially for an adult and you did nothing wrong.
I for one, will miss your posts and hope you reconsider. But I totally get the sentiment. The Internet can be hard!
@LeastComplicated Good luck tonight. Give her a wide berth.
Again, this is a HUGE assumption that OP touched the woman because of her desire for physical contact. I shake someone’s hand when I meet them for the first time, and trust me, it is not due to my desire for physical contact. I shake someone’s hand because it is customary. What the heck is this right to control issue?!
@austinmshauri I think @LeastComplicated understands. She said she won’t touch again. She feels terrible already.
“Just think of it as an anthropological and psychological study and find the humor in it.”
Good idea. I’m trying 
Why are people making OP feel like she did something wrong? Why should she feel terrible?
My friends know not to expect hugs from me often, but I certainly am not going to blow up at every acquaintance/stranger who hugs/touches me.
@deb922 Thank you! You are sweet :).
@gearmom Oh, the tournament is over. We ended up not going today not because of what happened two nights ago, but because my H was under the weather.
This was today’s result summarized by my daughter:
“Today they lost to a team they had played before earlier this season, but they cut the number of points the other team won by in half. They also played excellent defense and allowed the opponent’s top scorer only 4 points (I’m sure everyone has figured out this is basketball). So even when they lose, they are improving.”
I’ll give her her space next week.
And BTW, you all are making me all tear-eyed due to your kindness. :x
I do think @LeastComplicated feels badly about what happened, @gearmom. I hope she doesn’t leave CC.
LeastComplicated, I sure appreciate your positive and kind tone despite some rather tactless and judgmental posts. I would have loved to have you in the stands with me during my kids’ sports.
Sounds to me that this woman has exhibited some of the behavior I affectionally call “crazy sports mom.” You say she was competitive in the past as well. I would consider that the universe has given you a gift in revealing her true colors…and avoid her. It took me way too many years of trying to be kind to crazy sports moms and insane PTA moms to learn this lesson. You are kind and she’s a little off. Be grateful you know that!
@oldfort You should probably not come to RI then. We are a very smoochy bunch. It is the Italian/Portuguese/Latin influence. Not only are you kissing and hugging everyone when you come AND go but as children we were touched even more. Old ladies would pinch our cheeks and say “Come si bella!” And forget it if you have red curls. Everyone touched my sons and brothers curls when they were young.
I’m not leaving CC. I’m hopelessly addicted. I’m just not going to start any new discussions.
"Are you okay with random women hugging your husband? Can grown men put their hand on your daughter’s shoulder? If they say they mean well, are your husband and daughter out of line for objecting to it? "
If a friend or friendly acquaintance hugged my husband, I wouldn’t think much of it. Same for anyone putting their hand on my daughter’s shoulder. If my husband or daughter objected, that’s between them and the hugger/toucher. They certainly aren’t out of line to object but I hope they’d be polite about it. This of course assuming it’s someone they know and are somewhat friendly with and not a random stranger on a bus or something.
I don’t consider myself particularly touchy-feely, but I do live in the South so I’m used to it. And really, by comparison to people from some places I probably am pretty huggy–just not very huggy by Southern standards. I have many friends who I hug when I see them, I don’t think much of someone touching my arm to get my attention in a crowded space, etc.
To answer the original question, what is wrong with some people? I don’t care if @LeastComplicated touched the woman or not. She acted like my d when she was 14 and hormonal! To no one outside of her family. It was embarrassing when my D did it and it’s twice as embarrassing when an adult with teenagers does.
To all of you who don’t like to be touched, I am sure it has happened to you that someone inadvertently touched you in a comforting situation. I am sure (very hopeful) that you didn’t behave in such a boorish and embarrassing manner.
That any adult would tell another adult to leave them alone is so out of the realm of acceptable behavior. If she couldn’t behave, she should have gone to the car and texted her daughter. I feel bad for her kids that their mother is so touchy.