@TheVulcan Most would say that we are very lucky in that our son made this super easy for us. Our oldest went to tOSU (and will graduate from a top 5 business school in May and has had his IB job lined up since last August, I share to make you know that non-MIT/CalTech is not a death sentence). S20’s stats put him in the 50/50 range for an Ivy, and his father and I were enchanted. And so was he, until he saw tOSU. He came home that night and no other school mattered, and he hasn’t wavered since. But while most people would tell us to shut the heck up and sit down, we kept urging him to reconsider the Ivy and one other reach school. Nope. Not gonna happen.
But your son is different. He’s off the charts and will probably only have a few true peers at any school other than MIT or CalTech. Even someplace like Ga Tech or Michigan will have many kids in his league, but will be mixed among a lot of mere mortals.
The best scenario is what we lucked into … a kid who insists upon going to his financial and academic safety. I don’t think that happens a lot around here. And while we were prepared to shell out the fortune the other schools were going to cost, it was an alarming number. But that didn’t prevent our stupidity. We persisted.
While I don’t want your son’s dreams to be crushed…I don’t want YOUR dreams to be crushed, either.
I will share a couple pearls of wisdom from our little prince. Maybe they will help? When we were trying to convince him to apply to Cornell, he again listed the 10,000 reasons that an engineering degree from OSU is just as good, he then said ‘ya know, $75k is a lot of pressure on me every year to like Cornell. I think I will have enough pressure on me In Engineering, don’t you think?’
Dang it, that’s a good point.
During a follow-up dinner conversation, because we are idiots, we gently emphasized how a degree from there will open doors for him. His response was ‘I think I will be good enough to open my own doors.’ While that could be from the voice of a naive 17 year old, it also could be his confidence coming out. Shut us up pretty quick, that’s for sure. Haven’t mentioned any of this since. He’s going to tOSU.
I am not sure what to wish for you. Maybe the guardian angel who hung out at our house for the past few months has moved to your house? I mean, is there a financial safety for him that he likes? (I am a bit afraid to ask).