<p>You can decide about not funding weekend visits. You can set limits about how much you will finance tuition or sign for loans if grades take a hit. You can voice your concerns about D missing out an certain aspects of the college experience. You can counsel about safe sex. Then you have to let things play out. </p>
<p>My D went away, about 6 hours away by car. BF stayed home at local state college. I thought by Thanksgiving or Christmas they might not be together. Not true. They saw each other once a month during football season and once ever 1-2 months during the spring. They talked on the phone nightly. Given he was not that close, she had time to join a sorority and become involved on campus. Grades were good. Time management was good. </p>
<p>She commented that she seemed to meet alot of jerks, guys hitting on her, guys not treating her girlfriends very well. Turns out she didn’t have the pressure to date, she went to socials at frats and her sorority without the hookup mentality. She found the grass to not be any greener…yet. Perhaps when she is dealing with more 21-22 year olds and not 18-19 year olds things will look different. For now, the relationship did not interfere, and in some ways she felt more free to develop relationships with just friends at school.</p>