<p>We’ll, Oregon, another reason to say goodbye to 2013. Hugs to all of you</p>
<p>So oregon, D does want him permanently but has broken things off because he did not support her in the situation with the uncle as well as not commit to go wherever her residency takes them? (Just trying to sort it all out.)</p>
<p>Hugs to you and D…</p>
<p>D is in NY at a college group’s party and will come home with a couple of GF’s. Her BF flies home tonight. S is pub crawling in Greenwich Village with GF, a college friend from Canada and GF’s friend from Japan. </p>
<p>They are all staying here and hopefully will arrive home on the same train. My home now resembles a boarding house. </p>
<p>Again Happy 2014, everyone!</p>
<p>Woody, Sounds like your house is going to be fun tonight!</p>
<p>Yes, D wants him but only if he is all in and not going back and forth. The way I put it to D is that he does not want to come on her journey with her. He has every right to make that decision as he has his own to work out (new career, taking boards multiple places over the next decade) but he needs to sort out if he is or is not with her. She has been clear about her path from the beginning and also her desire to have kids. So again, he is not obligated to join her but he will hopefully start admitting whatever he is actually feeling and thinking. This is where I find him passive aggressive. He will say he will have kids but then makes very negative comments about having them even in front of me. In fact, while in Spain I was part of a long conversation with them where he said he did not want kids. </p>
<p>D been open to living where he would like to go and to apply for residencies where he would like to live but in the end has little control over the match decision.</p>
<p>H and I really like him and find him delightful to have around. As for the car, he did try to deal with the uncle, as did his mother. We have decided not to deal with this after the holidays but am guessing the car will remain damaged.</p>
<p>I think that if they are meant to be in it for the longterm, Oregon, it will ultimately come back together. S leaves on Friday to go skiing with her and her family in Colorado. He’s planning on studying and of that I have no doubt. His habits there are nothing resembling my DNA, and impressive. She’s currently in a grad program at Columbia and will likely also go to med school eventually. Im not sure where it’s going but I think the pace works for both of them with their lives so in flux. She’s smart and definitely keeping the bar higher. </p>
<p>Chinese food - check
some sort of year end count down show
Younger D asked me do her hair and then let me do her make up for her new years party. So that was fun! Happy New Years All!! I am so glad 2013 is finally in the rearview mirror. It was a great year in terms of accomplishments and life events - but it really was about my being there for everyone else. Without sounding selfish, I am hoping 2014 is a lot more about being there for myself!</p>
<p>Here’s wishing all of us a wonderful 2014. We deserve it!</p>
<p>This was seriously one of our best New Year Celebrations ever. Cannot even say why. D’s friends came through and we had such a nice time. They are watching “The Eyes Of Tammy Fe” now. I am helping her two GF’s plan their wedding this summer and had 2 dozen old green ball jars that I pulled out and they may use. Just fun. D talked a lot about her situation, which she needs to do.
BF and FMIL (new name for her?) both wrote nice sorry messages regarding the cancelled plans and so on. I have not responded and do not want to but what do you think?</p>
<p>My NY’s resolution is to have FUN in 2014. In the morning we 3 will drive 3.5 hours south to the Animal Safari to visit D’s friend from preschool and on. She for years just about lived at our house. I picked her college–The College of the Atlantic–and she thrived there.
Have not seen her in a few years now. She is 2nd in charge of the elephants and so we will spend the day with her with them and she is going to have us feed them and so on.
It will be a long day but am planning on a lot of fun!</p>
<p>Best wishes for all of you and yours for this NEW YEAR and we all hope for only positive things this year. Thank you for being in my life.</p>
<p>Happy New Year, friends! Add me to the list of those happy to have 2013 over and done. </p>
<p>oregon - sounds like your D has a good perspective on things. “Que sera, sera,” and all that. I’m hoping S comes to realize that, as well. He mentioned at one point that he and ex-gf “both know we’ll end up together down the road.” I pretty much managed to keep my mouth shut, but really wanted to yell, “What are you thinking?” Since he hasn’t talked much/at all about why they broke up, I’m doing a lot a speculating, but I want him to realize that statement makes no sense – if they know they’ll be together in the future, then why the he_ _ are they apart now???</p>
<p>Lovely sunrise this morning, but it sounds like we’re headed for a snowstorm tomorrow. We have no place to be, so it’s all good.</p>
<p>Good morning everyone! </p>
<p>Glad to hear that NYE was good oregon despite everything going on. I have no real advice for you or CBB except hoping that things work out and sooner rather than later.</p>
<p>Had a nice time last night, but just a little too much wine. We’ll be going to a New Year’s Day party later this afternoon and I think I’ll stick to water today. First though is the annual Rose Bowl Parade and taking my trees down.</p>
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<p>That’s great! Well deserved.</p>
<p>We went to see Frozen (not as good as the reviews would indicate), then out for barbeque. Then H, older D and I watched That’s Entertainment 1, 2 and 3. The other two kids were out. I think D was bummed that she was home with us, but that can happen when you lose touch with most HS friends. We slept on new flannel sheets last night…so soft! (From Target of all places…if your Target has any left, they will be on clearance.)</p>
<p>I read an article yesterday that suggested that rather than making resolutions, we should set a theme for the year…they suggested themes like mindfulness, health, etc. I decided on “action.” Especially in the area of what to do to grow my practice (after ditching the deadbeats), I tend to think a whole lot more than I DO. When I need to change doctors or tax accountants, I tend to research a whole lot and end up not doing anything. So: 2014=action.</p>
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<p>Us, too…mimosas in bed, dozing as it happens, with the Rose Parade.</p>
<p>Happy New Year all.</p>
<p>I have already been reminded of why “action” will be a challenging theme for the year: H playing computer solitaire. It is easy to get things done when I am alone. But it is mentally difficult when family members are idle</p>
<p>Happy 2014! We were all very boring last night, stayed home. S had a friend from HS over; they headed to the basement and watched Honey Boo Boo and laughed uproariously. H was fairly crabby and at one point suggested we cheer in the New Year at 11 pm (we’re in central time) but he didn’t make it that far; this morning he says he aches all over and thinks he has something. Boo.</p>
<p>After H went to bed, D opened the inexpensive bottle H had purchased and made a mess when it exploded, which I mopped up. Then when we tasted it, it was awful! Tasted like cherry cough medicine.</p>
<p>So in the end, I made it to midnight. After S’s friend left shortly after midnight, D, S and I watched a little Honey Boo Boo and laughed.</p>
<p>D’s temp job as an executive assistant is going fine. It’s been VERY quiet, although yesterday she had a few things to do. The executive will be in town Thursday and Friday so she will meet him in person for the first time although she’s communicated on the phone with him. She coordinated his private jet travel here. Most importantly, all the post-it notes are now arranged by color and size.</p>
<p>Some mention has been made of the transition from college to “real life”. Getting up early, being at work all day, spending time in the evenings making her lunch for the next day and planning her clothes for the morning, etc. means she is becoming just as boring as her parents!</p>
<p>Not sure how I feel about resolutions. Well, I guess I don’t think much of them, since I never make them although I generally have the usual ones in mind (health, more organized, etc.). On the radio yesterday heard part of a story about Lu Ann Cahn, who has a book out, I Dare Me: How I Rebooted and Recharged My Life by Doing Something New Every Day. She did something “new” every day for a year, wrote a blog about it, which is now a book.</p>
<p>Reminded me of Julie & Julia. But instead of thinking about challenging myself by doing something new every day, I’m wondering what I can blog about, turn into a book, sell movie rights, etc. Hmmm. What gorgeous actress would be cast as me, I wonder?</p>
<p>I hope each of you has a fabulous 2014! Happy New Year!</p>
<p>My sons also have “commented” on the difficulty of transitioning from school to the world of full time work. They are all very active people and were “all boy” in elementary school, meaning that learning to sit quietly in a chair all day was a challenge. The ways of college were great for them…sit for an hour or two, then a nice walk across campus, or hang in the dining hall or go work out…</p>
<p>Now it is into the office by 8 or so, sit at the desk the next 10-12 hours, then go home and maybe work some more…</p>
<p>They miss the unstructured time and the chance to really have movement during the day. They all try to take a walk at lunch and it helps some but not a lot</p>
<p>The upside is that at least they each like their job.</p>
<p>Happy New Year! I have been reading this thread every day, just not posting.</p>
<p>All is well for the most part. </p>
<p>Church on Christmas Eve, then celebration with my family.
Christmas day was just the 3 of us here in the morning, then left around 1pm for the 4 hour drive to WV to hubby’s peeps. Our nephew surprised everyone by coming home from his teaching job in Korea. I have a sis-in-law who can “top” anything. Meaning, she is better, sicker, bled more, more stitches, her cat is even smarter…So hubby, Odessagirl and I made up this little game among ourselves. Once we arrived in WV, how long would it take for SIL to “top” one of us. And whoever heard it first would say (quietly) BINGO or just make the “B” sign in ASL. Well, I won! Other SIL remarked about my new Blue Topaz necklace. I said that I also had on my (old) blue topaz ring. Well, wouldn’t you know it? SIL has 4 BLUE TOPAZ RINGS. And she lost one stone - but it was 2 CARATS. I leaned into hubby and said very quietly “BINGO”. Oh, my. Aren’t we awful. But I won a dinner out to a place of my choice and I am choosing Melting Pot.</p>
<p>Odessagirl is making choices that I am not happy with, but she will be 23 in a couple of months and I can’t do anything about it. I just keep thinking that I was already married and on my own when I was her age. This has to do with a boy/man/friend/whatever you want to call it.</p>
<p>I think I’ve gained 3 lbs - will weigh tomorrow.</p>
<p>Hugs to all who need them, and high-fives to others.</p>
<p>Fallgirl - How is your Dad doing? Does he live near you?</p>
<p>Oh, my New Year resolution is to dance every day. Starting today with some Motown.</p>
<p>I forgot something.</p>
<p>Hubby’s sister has her first boyfriend since I’ve known her (about 31 years). I believe she is 65.</p>
<p>This boyfriend is 83 years old.</p>
<p>Eddie, I love your little game…a very healthy way of coping with a difficult relative</p>
<p>Too funny, eddie! Enjoy your dinner!</p>
<p>eddie, I’m happy for your SIL. My sister is 63, never married, a lovely person, wonderful aunt,nice looking but just never had a boyfriend and never put herself out there-never left home,etc. (a whole other story).</p>
<p>Hi Eddie- I’m laughing about that game. And good for your H’s sister!</p>
<p>My Dad is doing OK, they are just waiting and will know more next week. Unfortunately, my parents live about 700 miles from me. I was looking into going to see them in Feb, but
that is on hold until they know more and have an idea how treatment will go.</p>
<p>Hope the coming storm is not too bad. Stay warm, everyone.</p>
<p>Belated Happy New Year!
Quiet one of sorts for us, by design 
I just didn’t have the going-out mojo this year, though a gf and I have vowed to make the guys take us dancing next year.</p>
<p>I had to watch the Winter Classic yesterday just to keep up with McSon’s “dream gift” He had a blast, despite the cold.The planets aligned to have the Leafs win in an ot shoot out so he got his money’s worth (or MY money’s worth) in terms of a dream game. I received some very elated texts!</p>
<p>Eddie, enjoy your hard won dinner! Sending mojo for whatever y’all want and need from 2014 :)</p>