Not a new romance but I do worry about heartbreak for D24. She’s had a wonderful first boyfriend since the Fall and I know it will be hard on both of them when the inevitable breakup comes (I will be sad too). They are going to schools nearly across the country from each other and his family is moving out of the area. I am trying to just stay in the here and now and watch them enjoy the last big high school moments together. I’m also very thankful she had such a great first romantic experience- he set the bar very high.
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My S24 also started his relationship longer ago (late fall), but I am not sure that is going to really make anything easier. You never know, though–kids today can stay in touch much better if they want to, and she is going to college where we live, and he is an easy direct flight away . . . .
So regularly meeting up in person won’t be impossible. If that is what they both end up wanting.
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I think it’s totally fine–and sometimes it’s easier to be smitten when there is less long-term pressure. 
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Just popping in to say I ended up marrying the guy I got involved with a week after HS graduation, in spite of leaving for school 14 hours away just 8 weeks later (and being sure it was just going to be a summer fling).
If it is meant to be, it will be.
Editing to clarify - I didn’t marry him a week after graduation 
I married him 8 years later.
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This is so beautiful, regardless of the final outcome.
I love this perspective. Thanks 
I was hoping to see a response like this too! Thanks for sharing. How lovely.
My now 25 year old marriage also started out as a long distance relationship (we started dating when he was home for the summer to the town where I went to college, and we worked together at a movie theater). My oldest met his current girlfriend when they did an REU together after junior year of college; they kept in touch throughout senior year from colleges 1000 miles apart, then started dating when they’d both graduated and were living in different, also far away from each other, cities. He flies to visit her for a long weekend once a month or so (yay for cheap Frontier flights); it looks exhausting to me, but he’s a lot younger. And he’s moving to her city to go to grad school at the same college in the fall. Anyway, so another vote for “if it’s meant to be, it will work out.”
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You can never tell indeed- I started dating my wife during the winter Holidays after my first term at University in London, and she was living in her hometown in Italy. Lots of phone calls, a few cheap flights and 33 years and 2 kids later, we’re still here… 
anything can happen for love.
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My S24 and his boyfriend since the fall just agreed to break up yesterday. They’ve discussed for awhile that they don’t want to do long distance — S24 in CA and boyfriend in the Midwest.
Bf goes to a college nearby and is done for the year this week. Then he’s heading home. This is why they are doing this now.
But they seem so great together and they are both so sad. I was encouraging S24 just to give long distance a try but he doesn’t want that. That didn’t keep him from sobbing in my arms last night! 
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This just makes my heart ache. Lots of hugs to you and your boy.
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Unfortunately or perhaps fortunately, my daughter started with her bf at Senior Prom - he goes to Denver, she goes to Charleston.
Lots of tears, two flights a year each to visit, and god knows how much facetime - but three years later, still together. Oh, and there was the emergency flight home first semester - just couldn’t handle it emotionally.
I think they broke up for a month for rational reasons and realized they didn’t want to be with others.
So it could go either way - but ultimately, the students will figure it out -tears or not.
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And . . . in “high school is still happening (kinda)” . . . today was D24’s last day of real classes. She has one AP test every day this week, and then she’s out for good. They also do things like the senior breakfast and “field day” (this is an arts school, so you can imagine the hijinks). I hope they do a three-legged race. Meanwhile, father-in-law is at the ER after a fall–DH is there with his mom. He refuses to use a wheelchair, which he really needs at this point, so this stage is inevitable. Luckily, he seems okay, but they have to do head scans. Ah, the joys of the “sandwich generation” years. I hope all your kids have fun activities going on!
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Same situation here! I just kind of monitor from a distance and let him go about getting to know her. It’s all very sweet, promposal and everything!
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So DS’s senior trip with pals just blew up. They couldn’t agree on where to go. One kid is basically allergic to cities. And the other guys just want to go to clubs and get with girls. DS tried to convince them to spend a few days in say Madrid and then go to Magaluf. He’s not interested in just hanging out on beaches or the type of clubs found there. He would have been game to go to clubs in Berlin. He just texted me and I get the sense he’s upset. We are going to chat this evening. I feel for the guy.
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Tell him I’m things could be worse. My S24 is heading to get a physical tomorrow morning so he can work in the furnace room at a factory this summer. He starts the day after graduation and he’ll work until the day before he moves in at school.
I did something similar before college, except I worked at a factory that made green pigment. So when I showed up at college I was green.
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Oh I absolutely understand. DH and I joined the Army to help pay for college and then worked all through college. He took three years off, while I finished, working at a shipyard as a pipe fitter. No one needs to cry for my boy, but it’s still hard.
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When my kid grumbles about it I remind him that there’s one thing worse than getting a job to pay for college: NOT getting a job to pay for college.
There are help wanted signs everywhere. Factories that don’t always hire summer help are taking anybody they can get. It’s making school possible for him.
So things can always be worse!
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So AP Chem exam today was a complete disaster. After keeping the kids for 5.5 hours through 2 fire alarms, they told them that likely the results would be invalidated. Needless to say D24 is furious as she thought she did well and now this was just a huge waste of time. She got home at 6pm and has Ecn first thing tomorrow followed by Lit on Wednesday.
This is my kid who is still recovering from a long lasting concussion so 3 hrs of testing was already going to be a brutal so this was absolutely grueling for her. I’m not sure she’ll be up for Econ tomorrow and I certainly won’t push her.
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