My kid has been having the same experience as your daughter.
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I LOLâd at the âVeryParticularGirlfriendâ title upthread. That was hilarious!
D24 doesnât have a significant other at the moment, so at our house, the decision made did not involve any factors like âhow far away will I be from Significant Other?â
I made D24 watch a dorm walk-through video yesterday for her college and we had tense words with each other (ok, there was eye rolling and me snapping at her and then lecturing her to get her head out of her butt). Sheâs now annoyed that her college doesnât have any suite-style dorms for freshmen.
She didnât appreciate it very much when I told her that she already knew that before she made her college decision. AND that Southwestern has the same freshman dorm set up (no suite style rooms), tooâŠso it was never a factor.
Um ok, but I am the dumb one today. LOL. Teenagers.
She wants to live in a coed dorm. Ok fine, thereâs 2 of them. And then thereâs 1 female-only dorm and 1 male-only dorm. Told D24 that itâs entirely up to her, but if she chooses to sit back and not take action, then she could end up being placed in a dorm that she doesnât want and if that happens, Mama here ainât gonna want to hear you griping about it from Aug-May!
Meanwhile, I started to order dorm stuff on Amazon. Like this Nightcap drink cover thing. And this tool kit.
Iâm going to IKEA this weekend to stock up on some of those big Frakta zip-up storage bags. We can transport all of her clothes in those.
Also have a 1-way car rental reserved and 2 nights of hotel near the college. Have to book a hotel room for night #1 though (which will be somewhere between home & Sherman, TX). I have some thoughts on that. Still need to purchase my & DHâs 1-way plane tickets to get back home at the end of move-in weekend.
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Had a little bit of a similar conversation with mine - in hindsight can say maybe applied to a few too many targets, but we also had many categories as he is a bit undecided on type of school and with merit/targets so unpredictable was hard to know in advance.
Lucky to get some good options through early action that we even culled the list of what was outstanding at end of last month - withdrew from wesleyan and Richmond before decision and william & mary scholarship consideration (he was finalist for 1693) as he knew he had other options he would take over those / and he was a little âi told you so that i didnât need to apply to those tooâ but as i reminded him we had no certainty those other options would come and should just be happy they did and move on!
He got something this week that rounded out his list of options and I feel zen about the âlotteryâ ones next week now. However am cognizant he is subject to all the chatter at school about what everyone is âgettingâ (or not getting) and I am also reminding him that this is not really relevant to him figuring out what is best for him (and in many cases he did not want to apply to many of those schools as he had no interest in themâŠ).
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waiting for the final decision today from the most reachy/selective college on our list, Swarthmore.
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Good luck!!!
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That has to be tough and itâs such a mature thing to make that call. If theyâre meant to be, I really hope they can find a way back to each other. You canât really tell them this, but life is so vast and we all continue to evolve. Hopefully, if they make it back together, they wouldâve picked up a ton of insights on life so itâll make their pairing even stronger. D24 broke up with her bf of almost a year before the school year started. She said heâd be going to school elsewhere (heâs Mormon and his family has set plans for him) and senior year, so wanted to be friends because she knew she couldnât be the kind of girlfriend who could be 100% present since she wanted to focus on school, soccer, college apps, and the rest of the time, she didnât want to miss out on her friends. It was tough and I think he took it harder. Some hurt feelings and she said she didnât like what transpired after since she thought they agreed to be friends. I told her thatâs a good life lesson to learn. Not everyone takes a breakup or post-breakup the same way.
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Good luck to everyone getting decisions this evening!! Sending positive vibes.
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Can I ask a FAFSA question? Iâve not been as active. D24 and her dad took over the FAFSA process. She got an SAI. Itâs different from S21, but thatâs my circus to deal with. Her app is still in review (and I assume the basic things were done all right to get an SAI). Itâs been a while since Jan. The UCs have all extended the acceptance deadline. She said she needs to update the college list but she cannot til itâs processed. Colleges wonât penalize the kids if FAFSA continues to be behind, right? Iâm trying to see if I should tell their dad to apply using the CA financial system (itâs interchangeable with FAFSA) just in case. TY and Iâm sorry if this is rehashing old FAFSA wounds.
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It has recently occurred to our family - my child in particular - that having a birthday in the imminent aftermath of âIvy-and-what-have-you Dayâ is a distinctly unfortunate clash of calendar agendas.
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I donât know the answer to this - there are gurus on other FAFSA threads - but I would recommend checking the application frequently and adding schools as soon as you can.
If the CA system is available and works, and most of the schools under consideration are CA schools, I donât the the harm in trying that approach as well.
Good luck!
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They certainly wonât âpenalize,â but these D.O.E.-created delays cause lots of internal disruptions for colleges. My own school got all of our ISIR and FAFSA information yesterday. Yesterday. All at once. And until yesterday, we were unsure weâd even be able to read it. A big portion are going to get snagged and need resubmission, for a dozen reasons, and it will take a few weeks to turn the data into FA packages. So there will be delays galore, and a lot of flexibility and patience and sort of âmaking it up as we go along.â Itâs going to be hard for those who need to appeal for instance, or resubmit. And thatâs just for new students. Transfers and returners are another kettle of fish, and IMO, theyâll get it even worse.
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Well we received our first wait-list today after 8 acceptances. Now I kind of get why parents were getting salty on here. It is tougher than I thought it would be. 
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Let me tell ya - a tour looks a whole lot different to your kid when they are in the program they want, have a good tour guide, and the campus is bustling with students. I have one happy D24 who will officially be a Binghamton Bearcat - Marketing and Environmental Studies! Last time we went it was move in day for Spring semester, so she didnât realize how dead it as in comparison to a usual day. Today she was able to see the community in full swing and it felt totally different. If it were more urban with an old stone building somewhere it would literally be perfect - lol!
So a good ending to our very unexpected roller coaster ride through Bing Admissions.
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DS24 did too, although my husband laughed out loud when we got the call because I literally quoted chapter and verse what the person was going to say before he said it. (Had left a message to us the day before) I just had a feelingâŠ
We are only hoping for one more acceptance out of three decisions this weekend and that is due to sports recruitment, but I donât take that for granted, either.
Itâs just momentary disappointment but life will go on. It always does!
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I hope you get a positive decision this weekend!
And with rejections at Lehigh and Tufts tonight, S24âs college decisions are all in (and did end with a string of 4 rejections as I thought might happen). We went out for ice cream to celebrate the end of the process, and to soothe his slightly battered ego.
He is pretty sure he will end up committing to UMass Amherst, which is an excellent fit for him since he got into the Honors College. And when I reminded him tonight that it is cheap enough that not only will he not have to take out any loans, he wonât have to use any of his own money AND heâll have few thousand dollars extra per year from us to use for expenses or save for later, that went a long way to brightening his mood.
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My D24 is cruising in the same direction with our state flagshipâand it will be grand if she goes there! And you should let your son knowâUMass waitlisted her. So all the good schools are doing their pickingâIâm optimistic it will work out just fine! 
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Thanks! So far it has gone as expected. Itâs almost like I learned something lurking on this boardâŠ
S24 is rolling with it. He has four great choices, one match and three safeties with generous merit packages. We can afford all with no loans, help, or even use of annual cashflow. Glad he didnât waste too much energy on reaches or even matches this year.
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Make it a premium scoop tonight with all the savings!!
Not just a Baskin Robbins or Dairy Queen.
I know low cost mattered to you and if the student does engineering (or anything), Iâm sure UMASS will be just fine!!
Congrats to your student on making a selection and ending with such a great outcome.
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THINGS ARE CONTINUING TO HAPPEN!
D24 was accepted to Smith, Bowdoin, and Swarthmore today.
That Williams rejection in ED is feeling pretty distant now.
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