@CA2MA , @jthree , and @Kumihama-Cho - I’m very worried that this is going on with S25 (the delaying, poor time management etc) and he’s not telling me. His pattern in HS was to say “everything is fine, I’m on top of it, nothing to worry about” then when it had gotten to some kind of crisis point to come in to talk to me at like midnight about how far behind he was and how he didn’t see a way out and how overwhelmed he was, and how upset with himself he was that he let it get that bad. And what killed me the most then was how he would be so disappointed with himself, and how he’d talk about himself like a failure because he let it get that bad. I would love for his exec functioning to be great, but past history tells me it’s probably not. I mean, maybe the schedule and ability to take what he wants, and the knowledge that he has to do it because I’m not there to help has turned it around for him, but how likely is that really? And if it’s NOT going well, and he’s NOT telling me or or anyone and is holding it all internally, then I’m worried about what happens when it gets to be too much. He’s so far away and he’s always been my more emotional and more sensitive kid. I’m so worried for him. I don’t want to be courting trouble, and I don’t want to be pushing him to talk to me if he doesn’t want to, and I don’t want him to think I don’t have confidence in him. So I’m not sure what to do with this. I just am trying to text him a bunch about silly things, or pictures from home, or whatever so he knows I’m thinking about him and so he remembers that I’m always here if he wants to talk. And I’ll just hope that, eventually, he’s going to want to talk.
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