See, and that’s where I’d make myself a nuisance replying to every post like that saying “so why is it so hard for my child to get a new room assignment?”
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For escalating, if your D goes to the school I think she does, go to their Student Life webpage, About tab, then under Division Leadership click on Organizational Chart and see who is next up the chain or if you are already at the top.
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I am absolutely not a parent who escalates things. I’ve let all sorts of things go and virtually never contacted a school or teacher on my kid’s beheld. However, this would be one of the few exceptions. I’d be calling everyone from the president down demanding it be fixed tomorrow. You tried to let your kid fix it, the school blew her off and there are serious repercussions to her health. I’d be losing my stuff to anyone who picked up a phone.
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Update—she was able to meet with someone today—not someone high up the chain but someone who could at least get her the authorized form she needed. Fortunately she was prepared with info from her MD. I keep reminding myself—this is teaching her life skills, she is growing from this, it’s going to be OK.
Thank you for the moral support as well as the practical suggestions.
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Please keep us updated. I am so sorry she has gone through this, but she sure is resilient! Hoping there is resolution soon.
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My boy is home! All is right in my world! 
He seems so happy and was kind and loving when he got home. He and the dog had a sweet reunion, and we hung out for a few hours and talked before bed. (The dog didn’t talk, but he was happy to cuddle with his boy.) Kiddo is excited to veg all day today and has certainly earned it after this tough quarter.
Hope everyone has a good weekend!
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S25 is on his way home! He should be here by dinner time! He’ll be here through the weekend and then is going to his girlfriend’s lake house until Wednesday. Then he’ll go back up there on Friday because their chef is coming in to make a special family dinner. 
S23 technically only gets Wednesday- Friday off, but all of his professors have canceled classes. He is staying for the football game on Saturday and a Friendsgiving and says he’ll be home Sunday evening or Monday morning.
So, it looks like Thanksgiving dinner is my only shot at a family dinner! They’re both off for a solid week bookended by two weekends, and I get one meal! I may have to insist on going out as a family for Mexican on Wednesday. 
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I hope this meeting (finally) moves things along.
Does your D have any friends/band mates who have a roommate leaving (maybe going abroad) next semester? If feasible, it would be great to move into a known situation (though anything would be an improvement it seems).
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It’s a Thanksgiving miracle! S25 his girlfriend went out to dinner with us when they got home. Then they went out to see friends. He was home before midnight (!). When he got in, he made himself some ramen, and, wait for it…. He cleaned up after himself!!
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so dumb
25s school has class tomorrow, fine. On Tuesdays, they normally have 1 class mid-afternoon, and their “orientation” pass/fail class early evening (like 5-6:30). Their real class is cancelled, but not the orientation one. They already missed one of these orientation classes at the beginning of the semester when they were totally stressed out, homesick, and were going to be forced to do a group activity that was causing them anxiety. If you skip 2, you fail. The kid is stuck staying a whole extra day to attend a non-course, course. I bet there will be like 3 kids there, given the whole class is like 10. 
It is what it is, but I am frustrated they can’t have an extra day with a grandparent they adore.
I will be even more peeved if they cancel tomorrow at 2, or something, as that will be late for 25 to switch gears and drive (it is a 5-6 hour drive to where they are meeting us for Thanksgiving at grandparents).
Sorry, just venting, I know this is just life, but this orientation class has been a source of annoyance all along.
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Ughgh, I’m sorry. That is so annoying.
I so wish schools would just give the whole week off. My D22 also has classes tomorrow, and professors very often do cancel at the last minute. But we have to book her plane ticket home months in advance so it doesn’t cost a ridiculous amount, so she’s stuck flying home late Tuesday night even if all her classes are canceled.
Oh, and she has a chorale concert this afternoon, so she couldn’t skip even if she wanted to. (Who is going to attend a chorale concert at 4pm on the Monday of Thanksgiving week?!)
S25, on the other hand, drove home Friday morning – he’s been so happy to sleep in his own bed. 
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agree! I can see maybe if the school has 85% of kids come from w/i 3 hours or something, but not the case here. Plus I think they need the rest before exams.
And also totally agree on the chorale concert attendance! Maybe local families come to the event or something as a tradition? (vs students?!) wishful thinking probably 
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Yes, the last minute thing is crazy for us out-of-staters. My DS suddenly has no classes today or tomorrow (!) but it would have been very expensive/impossible to change his plane ticket. So he’s catching up on big projects and I think laundry.
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My S25 had the actual lectures cancelled for Monday and Tuesday late last week… except two of the professors have tests scheduled instead. (Which, to be fair, were on the syllabus so it’s not a surprise if you loaded dates on your calendar when the syllabus came out.) S25 wasn’t coming home anyway, so it doesn’t make a difference to us in terms of transportation.
Instead of coming home, he’s going to his roommates house a few hours away. I don’t think I’ve mentioned it here, but these guys have really done pretty well together for roommates. It was completely random - he didn’t do what he needed to do in order to pick a roommate based on their internet profiles so instead he just got whoever randomly took the second bed in his room when it was time for room selection. But they are a good fit together and he really lucked out.
And speaking of the roommate situation - last night I had a good call with S25. Among other things, he was telling us about the apartment place that he and his current roommate plus one other guy want to put $$ down on for next year. It’s under the budget I gave him (barely - it’s $60 under per month and that’s not counting water/electric (WiFi and Cable are included)) but you guys, I can’t stop laughing. This place is like a resort. It’s got a fancy pool with lots of fancy lounges, a “hammock forest”, tennis / pickleball / basketball courts, really well stocked gym etc. It makes me feel bad for my older son - who for only $100 less / month is living in a converted house that is more than 100 years old, is in kind of a dodgy neighborhood, his room has no overhead lighting, the floors are uneven, the windows aren’t sealed, and the back stairs are clearly not to code. Sorry older boy. Let’s hope you never see how nice younger boy has it!
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I’m not even going to be home to watch the live stream – because D26 is flying home from a school trip, and I have to pick her up at the airport. Thankfully S25 is home to screen record it using OBS software or something – totally his wheelhouse and not mine, lol.
I don’t know the full repertoire, but they’re singing one song she did in high school that was a favorite, so I really want to watch it!
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yay for recording!
And happy news! kid emailed the orientation class leader and got out of class by doing some sort of short assignment, and CAN leave early and head to grandparents tomorrow:) They will now have an extra day with their grandparent, which will make them both VERY, VERY happy!
I am glad they asked..I would never advocate/suggest/condone asking to leave an academic class early for this, but an orientation “class” at 5:30 that isn’t taught by a prof and has served its purpose at this point? sure. that is a trade off I think worth it.
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My kid came home on Friday! He made the decision to skip a class on Monday, the rest were cancelled. Not something I would have done , but it is what it is! He is still going through major health issues so I just love having him home 
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Yay! (Some classes are worth skipping:)
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Well, my 25 is on his way home! Agree with others who mentioned that schools should just ditch the whole week so people can travel unless most of their kids are within a 4 hour drive. We could have put him on a later flight, but this week is already such a gamble traveling and the later flight was significantly more pennies and would have meant he wouldn’t be home until midnight. He did skip class today, and nearly missed his flight, thanks to a cancelled bus (!) and then a cancelled Uber. We definitely have to figure out how to make sure this doesn’t happen again when he leaves for break in December. Too much stress. It is such a short break but it will be totally worth it, and hopefully he’ll feel reenergized before heading into the final stretch of the semester and exams.
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I’m going to have to play curmudgeon here, but as much as I wish there were no classes Thanksgiving week, as well (at the very least, to provide a proper fall break as an analogue to spring break), I also know that the realities of academic calendaring mean that that would create problems with having to start fall semesters earlier (which would put pressure on the ability to offer a decent number of summer classes), and worst case would take us back to the bad old days of fall semester classes being followed by winter break, which would then be followed by final exams.
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