Itās amazing the number of hoops these kids have to jump through just to register!
My D22 ā who needed to register for her last semester before graduating ā had her phone die on her a couple weeks ago. While she dealt with getting it repaired, she transferred the two-factor stuff for her school accounts (email and calendar and what not) to my phone, so she could get into stuff. Long story short, I was getting her school email notifications for a couple weeks. And I learned that there was a hold on her account because sheād neglected to fill out some survey before she was allowed to register for classes. AND, the school emailed her every day notifying her that sheād registered for 0 classes so far. 
I believe today is the deadline, and I trust she has it all sorted. We finally removed my phone from the notifications, thank goodness, because I was distracted by all her nonsense, lol.
My S25, on the other hand ā we drove out to see him and attend the showing of films for a film race heād entered. It was the day before Halloween, and it was a horror-themed film competition, so costumes were suggested for the event. We met him at the bookstore a few hours in advance, and it was apparently exactly when class registration opened for next semester. So he came and met us, then plopped down in a corner of the bookstore and registered for his classes.
In costume. 
This may be my favorite registration story/photo of all timeā¦
Luckily S25 does not have to meet with an advisor before registration. There have been several posts from parents and students that havenāt been able to schedule an appointment before the semester ends.
Told S25 to just follow the degree requirements then schedule with the advisor early next semester just to check in. He said he was all set so hoping registration went well for him and I will get more information at Thanksgiving break.
Registration was a nightmare for my son. He met with an advisor, had his full schedule approved. Then when his pass time came up he couldnāt register because 3 of his classes had prereqs that she had not removed. He had tested out of all of the prereqs but his advisor forgot to remove the holds. The delay meant that his writing class that he needs filled up and there is no waitlist. So now he is checking every day to see if new spots are being added to the writing class. His advisor is no help, even though this was her mistake.
Finally some progress: I did escalate, and even though I only left a message, within a few hours of my message, my D got an appointment to meet with the necessary person in order to change rooms. Maybe it was a coincidence, but we had been trying to get that appointment for a month.
She also had to arrange her housing for next year. She had a choice between being in a small shared room with one of her close friends (just the two of them), or getting on the waiting list for her own bedroom but with random students in the other 3 bedrooms. That was a really difficult choice for her, because she feels pretty scarred by the events of this semester, but she went with rooming with the friend. I hope that was the right decision. (Junior year sheāll be trying to get in a house or apartment.)
On the bus from NY to New Hampshire to visit S23! First bus trip Iāve taken in a long timeāI must say, the Dartmouth Coach is quite a bit better than the Greyhounds of my youth. Cool to read everyoneās news; glad to see we are all hanging in there. As for me, S25 visited me last weekend and we stayed up until 3:30 am talking. We both needed that. In other news, I just sent in my next novel to HarperCollins and so have a short break before copyedits, etc. Happy fall, everyone.
Glad things are moving forward with moving rooms.
And FWIW I think she made a good choice for next year.
S25 finished his last final of the quarter today! He said it was really hard (Calc III), but at least itās behind him. No idea how his grades will shake out for the term, but he seems happy with how things have gone and how heās adjusted. He flies home tomorrow night, and I am beyond excited to have him home. I redid his room a bit for him (new bedding, more organization, etc), and I hope he can rest and recharge over the break.
Hope everyone has a great day!
Woo Hoo! End of the first quarter! Go him!
There have been many deaths in our friends ā families recently. My husbandās one friend died today. Another friend lost his mother and brother one day apart this week. Another friend lost his cousin in a car crash end of last week. Just lots of bad news for our friend group. It is a sign that I need to book the trips. S23 is heading to London for spring break. D25 wants to just come home and see friends (as they are still in high school with a different spring break week). So thinking of heading to Ireland. My husband has always wanted to go and I am open to going anywhere new!
My S25 also just finished his first quarter and is flying home RIGHT NOW!! I am beyond excited to see him. MY DH is picking him up while I make his favorite home cooked meal. We have not seen him since drop off because the weekend we had planned to fly out there ended up being his fraternity retreat. I just canāt wait to hug that kid!!
We will fly to Rome next Tuesday for a European Thanksgiving (visiting my D23 who is studying abroad). I am really looking forward to having our three kids together for the first time since August.
I am going to try my damndest not to ask any questions about how finals went, the seasonal job search (he is home for 6 weeks), etc for the first 48 hours. This will be hard for me. 
Iām sorry about all of the bad news.
I agreeā¦book the trips!
The Residence Hall Directorāwho my D needs to meet with in order to change roomsācanceled their appointment (that my D made 6 days ago.)
I wonder how the University will react to me making it known far and wide that my disabled student is being bullied by her roommates and the University DOES NOT CARE.
Who do we escalate to after the VP for Student Affairs?
I would seriously consider it, unless RH Director didnāt reschedule like, tomorrow, or next day already.
Nopeā¦after Thanksgiving.
Iād let the person you escalated the issue to before (VP of Student Affairs?) know that the meeting made six days ago with the RH Director has been cancelled and not rescheduled until after Thanksgiving. If your D is registered with the Office of Disability Services you may want to let them know as well.
The response (or lack thereof) by the school has been terrible. I do hope that by the start of next semester at the latest your D will be in a better living situation. In the meantime, I hope she can minimize time spent in the room.
Last time I called the Disabilities office, her coordinator asked me if my daughter were having āmultiple seizures a day.ā When I explained that PREVENTION is paramount (because even one seizure would mean an increase in anti seizure medication dosage and loss of driving privileges for 6 months, etc.) they literally said āyeah yeah yeah.ā
My D already spends 12+ hours a day out of the room in order to avoid her roommates, which is (needless to say) far from healthy.
At this point, the rule is: Document, document, document. Keep track of every interaction. At some point, the VPSA needs to know that theyāre leaving themselves open to an ADA lawsuit, but you need documentation to make that threat.
One of the strangest aspects to all of this is that the school / dorm advertises all over their social media that one of the huge advantages to attending/living there is that they will move you if you donāt like your room or your roommates.