I guess if he’s dripping in sweat after a workout or something, maybe? Otherwise, I wouldn’t worry too much – and I find lots of things about college students gross, lol.
With all the love in the world, I think if he’s pulling a utility cart to the bathroom, the kids will giggle more. Maybe just a beach bag or something to hold his stuff?
Well, I think we’ll try the cart (it’s small, not some huge thing like I use in the lab). I guess let them giggle?
My first full week of having no kids at home has been mitigated by the fact that I’ve been in California for work. Currently I’m sitting at LAX waiting for a flight home. It was a good distraction and I like the coworkers I travelled with, but with all the moving (three nights, three different hotels, four CA airports) my schedule is so off kilter and I am just feeling wiped out.
D25 had to deal with her first ‘problem’ last night, and she handled it well! She went to buy an online textbook for her Comp Sci class, and it didn’t process correctly. She could see the charge on her bank account, but never got the access information. She had to contact customer service, wait on hold forever, and finally got access to the book. I told her she passed her first quiz in Adulting 101! 
I’d stick with the shower caddy and order a bathrobe for him on Amazon. If sweaty, he can wear his clothes in and then a bathrobe out of the bathroom.
I mean, the giggling was probably largely the social nervousness of emerging adults realizing that things are clearly different now, because here’s a semiclothed stranger of the opposite sex walking down the hallway, and this is going to just be a thing that happens now, and that’s probably different than what they’re used to.
And bathrobes exist to be multipurpose—I wouldn’t worry about sweatiness or whatever, and he can just wash it every once in a while along with towels or sheets or whatever.
Made the mistake of looking at the “find may” app and noticed my son was not in his chem lab. And it’s a lab, not easy to make up worked missed from a lab, and chem which has been his favorite class plus he is a biochem major. Ugh. Not sure what to do about it. If I say something he will just get made, stop sharing his location, and things will get tense. I don’t expect there is anything I can do to make him go to class. The only thing I told him was that we would pay for his college so long has he was getting good grades. If he doesn’t go to class that’s going to be tough to accomplish.
Perhaps his lab does not start until next week, or he (was) switched into another section ?
I would not worry. Lab might not be meeting yet.
Thanks for the reassurance. I wont bring it up next time we talk, but the chance he just didn’t have class makes me feel better.
Does he ever not have his phone with him? I always had to remind myself that the app is where the phone is, not the person.
Edited to Add: I suppose that would be an unlikely scenario when going to a class.
Yeah, for a 19 yo kid, I doubt he goes anywhere without his phone.
C25 is moved in at Hofstra, kind of weirdly in a quad with no roommates, though the expectation is that there will be roommates sometime in the next couple weeks. (The room is on the 14th floor, and has some killer views.)
We’re now starting to get the list of things we forgot to send/buy for college, starting with nail clippers💅, more presumably to follow. dfbspouse is still out there tomorrow morning and will drop what she can by on her way to the airport, if the timing works out, but otherwise we figure Amazon delivers way quickly in the lower 48, so minimal stress about it.
Well, we are finally en route! D25’s move in day at Smith is tomorrow, we are driving to stay with my mom tonight (she lives 1 town over). I took today & tomorrow off work, but Mr Jthree could only take off tomorrow. So, D25 and I were home packing the car today, with the idea we’d be ready to leave as soon as he got home at 4pm ish
So, reality… even though she has been prepping for weeks, getting organized and packing today was a drawn out process. D25 wanted to do everything herself, which meant I couldn’t help her until she was ready for me (at around noon). We made it on the road by 5:30.
Anyway… about to turn on to my mom’s street- phase 1 finally complete!
Great first day in Terre Haute, the culture capital of the cornfields. The accessibility orientation was really well done. We got quick intros from most of the offices on campus, and everyone was so welcoming and supportive. S25 was actually engaged and nodding his head when they talked about reaching out for help early. We met some other nice folks and got a tour of the residence hall from his floor RA. His building is 100 years old this year and boy is it quirky! One staircase goes to the basement but not the third floor and the third floor staircase doesn’t go to the basement. His attic room is absolutely massive (29’x13’) with exposed brick and sloped ceilings. We met the RA and two sophomore advisors and they were really engaging and kind. It definitely calmed any nerves that S25 had and he is so excited to move in tomorrow. Definitely feel like we made the right choice for him!
Love hearing everyone’s updates!
My kid’s physics labs aren’t being held until week 3…you’re probably good!
My daughter definitely had classes where the first week of lab was super short (just lab rules and expectations). He also could potentially have switched lab sections to one meeting a different time or day.
I think with college young adults, there’s an art to asking good questions. Sometimes when I saw something somewhat “private” due to my access to my D’s bank account, a photo on a shared family device etc…if I am concerned about something I try to ask a general question. And hope if there is an issue she will bring it up. My S25 is supposed to be looking for a job…he has no classes today and I think his plan was to spend some time applying today. But I am going to try the angle (when we have a planned chat on Sunday) of asking, “How was it not having classes on Friday?” …and see if he volunteers that he looked at jobs…so I don’t have to nag. 
This is basically what I’m doing with my S22. His college is on a quarter system, with three classes per quarter. Senior year, all students are expected to do a three-quarter long research project (his is four quarters, because he’s double majoring) which counts as a class. So right now, he only has two classes plus research project. He’s supposed to also be looking for jobs. It’s really hard for me to not push on the “how’s the job hunt” or “how’s the project going” fronts, because they both feel amorphous to me and it’s easier for me to wonder if he’s doing things or not when they are amorphous. BUT! I know he’s good at doing things, and he doesn’t need me to be checking. This is 100% my bugaboo, and not his issue. So I’m trying hard to stay away from asking about them, and I’ll wait until it comes up.
He’s already mentioned that it feels strange to only have two classes (especially because luck of the draw, one of them is probably the easiest class he’s taken in college with not much outside work needed) so I might ask about how that’s going, since he’s mentioned it as a weirdness. I know he wanted to develop a personal schedule so that he could get to the gym and join a new club, so I might ask how the plan to fit in activities is going. Those feel more like follow up questions from something we’ve talked about before, and less like new questions where I’m digging in to the things that he should be (and is!) managing on his own.
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