“They are just too immature and don’t have any real sense of life’s possibilities or even knowledge of themselves to make wise decisions. Just don’t really know how to play the razor’s edge of this -not alienating daughter, but not enabling or indulging in what we know is a problematic. If they love each other so much they can wait until graduation to date again.”
Did you not have any romantic relationships in college? Most people aren’t that “clinical” about their romantic relationships to forgo them (and all the passion that comes with it) and wait until graduation. Thousands and thousands of years of genetic programming are working against you on this one. 