<p>NM, I hope the dog-sitting gig gives you a bit of reprieve from the worry
I know it sounds perhaps “unmotherly” but I really do operate on the “out of sight, out of mind” principal when it comes to stewing about Mcson…Proximity really does make it harder to stick to my knitting.</p>
<p>In that respect, I think he was perhaps wise to strike out in Ann Arbor despite the fiscal impracticalities of it and the benefits of stayin here and working for us, etc. His point was that as long as I was around to rely upon for organizational stimulation, the longer it would take him to get good at managing himself He may be right, or he may be crazy, but I really do worry less somehow these days, even though there’s no compelling reason to NOT worry about his welfare ;)</p>
<p>NM, hope the dog-sitting job gives some space to the relationship.</p>
<p>Budapest is exciting - I’ve never been, but know others who have enjoyed it.</p>
<p>Well, in the continuing saga of attempting to become employed, D has hit another wall: automated application software! She applied to the position, and immediately received an email acknowledgement, and less than one minute later received another email telling her:
So she contacted HR where she is currently employed, asking if they could help her get past this obstacle. She’s wondering if it’s automatically screening her out because her current address isn’t in the area, but she didn’t think she should provide an address in a state that’s different than where she’s currently employed. Hopefully she’ll be able to figure out a way to apply for the job and actually be considered! I asked her if she could apply again with a different address, and she would first need to create another email account in order to create another application account. Arrgh!</p>
<p>cq…D1 has also encountered that problem. No matter that I told her that she needed to tweak her resume for every job by adding phrases that were in the job description she wouldn’t believe me until a friend at a company also told her their HR did, indeed, use computer software that searched for key phrases. Of course, now she has lost out on some good positions. sigh…</p>
<p>There were two things I had put off doing at work. I promised myself that if I did those two things, then I could try to catch up here. So, hello!</p>
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<p>There has got to be a connection between so many of us having spouses that don’t take care of us, and hanging out here where we take care of each other, at least virtually. Glad y’all are here!</p>
<p>Oregon, I was reading posts that were a week old, but was your son’s procedure today? Hope all is well and glad you went to be there. Hugs to your daughter, too.</p>
<p>Moda, glad your son made a decision on the scribe job.</p>
<p>CBB, so sorry about your fall.</p>
<p>c_q, it would be neat if your D ended up in Chicago! On line “personality tests”, screening, etc. is a development that I really HATE. I’m sure I posted years ago that in order to get his grocery store job, Son had to pass 1) UNICRU (the mother of all ridiculous online personality tests, and 2) a drug test. That was it. No interview. He could have been mean, rude, hostile, stinky, whatever…just pass those two tests and you have a job, fail one of them, you don’t.</p>
<p>Z, glad your son is feeling better.</p>
<p>kmc, best of luck to your son on his job app.</p>
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I am so glad she is working out. I have never been a big fan of working out, but now that younger D is doing NOTHING to release natural endorphins, I so see the need.</p>
<p>This morning older D was worrying about whether she’d be able to get a cup of coffee every morning before class. I told her it shouldn’t be a problem!</p>
<p>It was time for older D to go. I think she is even more exasperated at younger D’s behavior than I am. The two of them pretty much stopped speaking in the last week or 10 days. Both Son and older D have definite opinions on how we should be reacting to younger D’s shenanigans.</p>
<p>Right there with you missy! D2 has surprised me with the lack of empathy for D1’s situation. She views things much differently and thinks D1 should get her butt out the door. This from another pampered princess…</p>
<p>D worked with her college career advising office extensively to learn how to get around application screening software. She customized her cover letter and her resume so it fit the advertised position EXACTLY. She says she learned about what kinds of words she needed to include/exclude so she doesn’t have this issue.</p>
<p>She said if it’s not screening her out by her address, then she’s at a loss why she got rejected in less than a minute. I suppose the software could be malfunctioning?</p>
<p>A few years ago there was a local position advertised that offered a really, really good salary. I wasn’t really looking, but the salary was so good and it matched my background and expertise perfectly, so I submitted an application. One of my co-workers also submitted an application. After a month or so they re-advertised the position. I didn’t apply again, because I figured if they didn’t like me the first time, they wouldn’t like me any better the second time.</p>
<p>My co-worker later learned there had been a bug on their end and they never received either of our applications/resumes. They only accepted electronic applications, so I didn’t mail in a paper copy. They didn’t receive very many applications at all, which is why they ended up re-advertising the position.</p>
<p>D is apartment hunting and answered an ad on Craigslist. Ridiculously low rent for an adorable 1BR in Greenwich Village. She got a response and thankfully I asked her to forward the email to me.
It was a variation on the Nigerian Princes but this one was from the alleged owner of the property who lived in London. Said owner bought apartment for her 25yo daughter who no longer wants to live in US. Since the owner couldn’t meet my D for a show of the apartment she suggested D just send her $1000 in a wire transfer and the lovely owner would send the keys to the apt.
The letter was hysterical with minute details about her aging Lab, her steadfast husband Hugh, the flat in London and her treatment for some undisclosed illness. Too funny!</p>
<p>apartment hunting is a pain, my D2 is looking for one in Boston. She sends my h the lease and they have blanks in them, and they want the kids to sign before they are filled out. My gets rather impatient and say “she is a kid, teach her” Ugh…</p>
<p>Oh lord… D was supposed to be home about 2 hours ago. She texted that there was a big bang and then…nothing. Train (metronorth) stopped, only emergency lighting and no heat. Last I heard they were getting ladders to have commuters crawl across to a rescue train. Then something happened to the rescue train. Then her phone was dying but she promised that she would borrow a phone to make a call. Good lord. That apartment in Manhattan can’t happen soon enough!</p>
<p>I have to admit that I did all the screening of apts or at the very least, there were three of us all looking at the same time (my sister was in this group). S’s GF explained how she had a broker who basically showed them a bunch of different places and let’s just say that it’s much different in SF. In any event, I know SF so well, but only in MAP form and not in a 3D kind of way. But it actually became fairly easy to spot the scams mostly because the pictures and rental price didn’t match the area OR I’d seen the same pictures on another spot. Not sure how big they are in NY quite yet, but try LiveLovely which is a apt hunting website and App that pulls from a lot of others, but I liked it very much. It actually will notify you when something new becomes available vs having to constantly be checking Craigslist. But because they don’t really have brokers that show ALL rentals in SF, these websites are the primary way to find rental properties.</p>
<p>Woody, I agree… breathe. But I also agree that I’d be a lot anxious until the phone rang for sure. </p>
<p>Was reading all the rules for MCAT testing etc. OMG… can I just fully admit that I had a slight panic attack at just how many rules there are. Like you can’t even put on or take off a sweater during the exam without leaving the room (and breaking your concentration and losing time). Also, S has this weird need to know if you absolutely have to go to the bathroom during when not on official break if you can (even if you lose time). For some reason, he thinks if he absolutely cannot then he is likely to have to. I CANNOT WAIT FOR THIS TEST TO BE OVER!!! He took his last full length practice exam today. Got a 38 and it was supposedly a very “hard” one according to whatever forum he is participating in. So at least he’s going in confident on the material! And I bought him a wide selection of various bars from Whole foods. Anyone ever try those ones that say one pear and one apple. or one apple and 10 cherries. No additives, sugars, etc? </p>
<p>NMN & Missy - With D2 being on quarter system and being home from thanksgiving to New Years… let’s just say it went about a week too long for the siblings. They BOTH became very opinionated about each other. Also, tonight H&I commented that S seems to complain about both of us to the other. It’s not that he doesn’t have legitimate “gripes” but we agreed it was somewhat catty if not full out manipulative. Obviously, we can’t have any kind of discussion until after Saturday… but all bets are off after that! :)</p>
<p>H took off canceling many patients. I moved or canceled 7 things including things I have canceled and waited for since H’s surgery. We found out yesterday that is day was not procedure day but a consult. Also that said procedure is a serious surgery. Now scheduled for two weeks from now and again H must cancel patients.
Ok fine. Except we have two docs at home saying a different surgery that the doc here.
As a child, now too, S cannot shift gears. S thought one thing was to happen and he cannot even entertain a change. We are so frustrated and wife is also. He has not even tried to keep up with his classes and so will take a medical leave. But worse of all, the surgery he has chosen is invasive and not necessary. Maybe the difference between an HMO (H) and a referral to a private practice surgeon???
H is annoyed while I M worried. Even a nurse mentioned that 23yr olds do not have fully formed brains.</p>
<p>I would be incredibly frustrated, Oregon. But that seems very weird and if he’s taking a medical leave now anyway, would it make sense to bring him home for a surgery with people you trust more? Did you at least attend the consult and ask a bunch of questions? </p>
<p>All I can offer here is that yes, 23 brains are done. But I also would imagine he’s fairly anxious about all of it… a derailing of sorts. </p>
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<p>Is this a new feeling? Not sure I was aware you had this opinion only that they were both very young.</p>
<p>Mod, I have never believed that this too young marriage will last. I know the stats and see reality. I stand alone here, but really?? This has been my career AND this is my beloved and frustrating son. I hold myself accountable for not getting him on meds decades ago.He has seen docs near us but just has it in his head he does not want to come 4 fricken hrs to be at our house even though his overall procedure would be significantly less.</p>
<p>I am thinking about not coming. H must but do not sure about myself.
Would it matter if I don’t?</p>
<p>Sure is frustrating Oregon…I agree. And yes, I know the statistics… and we only hope those we love are the exceptions.</p>
<p>I would have not seen the above reply had S not woken me up by his throwing up. To me, there is nothing worse than hearing a man throw up. But he’s been up twice now. His exam is Saturday… I honestly don’t think I can take much more. Please dear friends, some collective mojo for a VERY speedy recovery would be much appreciated - better yet, let’s just hope it’s something he ate (i.e., food poisoning) vs a flu of some sort and he feels much better in the morning…</p>
<p>Woody, am sending prayers that all’s well. Please check in!
I think we’re all ready for that bus after we have a little motherly talk with Oregon’s son’s doc. Moda, I too would be tearing my hair out.</p>
<p>My woes are minor in the big picture but I am extremely disappointed that a project that had not begun was cancelled in a particularly flakey way. Big hit in terms of cash flow at a time when I was trying to keep the workflow delicately balanced for the move - eg careful not to overbook. Now I see that was a mistake, and that I’d better get booking my tail off. Guess I’d better reinvent myself as someone who has time for that!</p>
<p>Oh my!
Thanks everyone. She was safe and sound the whole time but got home at 11:30. Off to the train this AM in a couple of minutes. She’s all good though! Whew!</p>
He may be right, or he may be crazy, but I really do worry less somehow these days, even though there’s no compelling reason to NOT worry about his welfare ;)</p>