That was what I thought, but then I wondered if it was like a pod. 
Since the post said, “in,” a CAD. I’m not techie and might be too literal…
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I’ve thought about this in the context of my son, because I have a very, very nice classic diamond solitaire (the ex husband and I both paid for it, not just him), that’s been in a drawer for about 15 years since I divorced. Sure, on one hand it’s a perfect ring, a gorgeous and a timeless classic.
On the other hand ABSOLUTELY NOT, that would be TERRIBLE for many reasons to tell my son he could/should give the ring from his mom’s bad marriage to a future partner. 
(I’d even be wary of telling him to sell it and get what he wants, there could be transferable bad vibes!)
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Yes, computer aided design.
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Since you helped purchase it, I think it might make sense for you to re-fashion it into something YOU might get enjoyment from instead of having it gather dust—maybe a diamond pendant?
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Computer Aided Design. They “put” your furniture in your unit in a 3D model so you can visualize different layouts. Both my family members who used them took FAR less as a result. It was clear that if they wanted room to maneuver comfortably, particularly with a walker, less was going to be more!
They also do nice things in the move like setting up all the drawers in the new place exactly like the old. This is particularly helpful for anyone with memory issues, but it also makes the move less jarring. This isn’t your MIL ‘s situation, but for someone who has moved reluctantly, it takes a little pain out of it.
Both relatives used it for local moves. They were recommended by the CCRC for one.
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Also some folks even need a wheelchair over time, so there needs to be space to maneuver.
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Consider my “move-ee” there on that one! And they were so smart about leaving a place to charge things like that.
When reading the idea that age-related cognitive regression could be the basis for some of the thoughtless behavior of MIL toward SIL (and others) ….I couldn’t help but think back to @Hoggirl’s stories of the (exceptionally!) rude/hurtful things MIL said during her visits to FL. 
I’m sensing some long-standing mean-girl energy - so no age pass in my book! MIL seems very fortunate to have people who care, despite that.
Glad the house clean out is progressing!
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I gave my diamond ring that was bought on our anniversary to D2 when she got engaged. It was bought during a very happy time in our marriage. Just because we ended up in a divorce, it didn’t diminish our time together. We had 2 very beautiful daughters out of it. I said that to D2 when I gave her the ring.
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I inherited quite a bit of family jewelry. No engagements rings with big stones but some nice pieces nonetheless. D has already asked to have some to redesign if she ever gets engaged. She doesn’t want to contribute to any mining and since they are sitting in a closet she’d like to put them to better use. Some of these rings came from unhappily married couples but she doesn’t care. To her they represent that the individuals cared enough to gift the ring at one point, or pass it down, and it’s more a symbol of their relationship with her, than each other. Plus, she has happy associated memories. She’s planning on a full redesign/melting to make it her own. Just a different way of looking at things.
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Congratulations, @Hoggirl , on having the second most popular topic on cc! Did everyone get that email?
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Oh, my gosh! I just saw this!
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Let’s just say it took an army (of nosy on-lookers with lots of unfounded opinions). We’ll keep going until we’re number one!
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I didn’t get that email - what do we have to beat?
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I didn’t get the email, but I do understand many of the issues being expressed on this thread. Swedish Death Cleaning certainly sounds increasingly important as a thoughtful gift for the next generation. My aunt who was diagnosed with late stage lung cancer spent a good amount of the last months of her life whittling down her belongings in her CCRC so that it would be easier on her kids. She had cared for her mother and didn’t want to leave a mess. She was always VERY thoughtful and considerate that way. I miss her and people who think like her.
I keep reminding H that we should be REDUCING our items, not continuing to purchase more and more items that one has to keep inventorying, but he does what makes him happy. It is organized in a system that only he understands, in spreadsheets that he keeps updating. I’m hoping nephew-in-law will be interested in his hand woodworking tools and pieces of wood because I don’t believe S is interested in them and am pretty sure D isn’t either. I have no interest in any of that stuff either.
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We should be careful. It would not be good if it made a news story ….
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6/10 in the cafe!! 
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Oh no. None of these should become a news story. Is that even a possibility?
I don’t want the OP for #5 to get doxxed at all.
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